Less Alcohol - MAY 2020 - One Day at a Time
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Dawn get healthy thanks for your post. I was getting a little concerned when everyone posting was AF for months or most of the year. I really am on the side of cutting back.
A couple glasses of wine each night also led to extra snacks. Even when we didn’t have chips in the house, I would be creative and make something just as unhealthy 🤦🏼♀️. Covid quarantine hasn’t helped.
Thanks for all the advice and I will try this for May. Perhaps my mantra should be Moderation in May?
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Oops, autocorrect really butchered your name and I didn’t catch it dawnbgethealthy. Sorry😉2
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Moderation is good
Yesterday was a Friday so it was a drinking day at a work quiz then cycling club virtual pub. Both of those run every Friday and I'm getting into a bit of a drinking routine but I'm fine with that. Today will be AF though.7 -
Had my 7th AF day in a row yesterday. Kind of want to commit to 30 days AF but I’m also kind of scared that if I commit to not drinking at all and then I do drink, I’ll just abandon it all.
For now, seeing where it takes me and if I do drink, I’ll wait at least 30 minutes from when I have the desire. In that 30 minutes, I’ll write down what thoughts emerge related to the desire to drink. Trying out one of the strategies from the Take a Break podcast.
1/1 AF days for May9 -
Af yesterday . Trying to get motivated today in the midst of all of this uncertainty down here. Its tempting to just hole up but I need to stay positive! Today is Day 6 of AF.8
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"Stop making excuses and shifting the blame; you did it because you wanted to. Stop making excuses, nobody made you." - This is what I tell my daughters when it's never their fault.
You poured the booze down your throat because you wanted to, not because you were incoherent and confused and thought it was apple juice; you knew what you were doing before you did it and you saw an opportunity, an easy excuse and you grabbed it.
Nobody and nothing forced you to eat that dozen donuts and lay on the couch in a ball. I'm sorry the gym is closed down but that does not prevent you from getting outside and taking a walk or going for a run or even just hopping off the couch and doing some jumping jacks or push ups.
Stop making excuses, STOP! I am so grateful for grandparents who survived the Great Depression; they whined about NOTHING and made NO EXCUSES for their actions. They were strong and persistent despite being financially poor. They were God trusting and fearing. They were not weak and pathetic, attention seeking, self-pity ridden opportunistic folks that played others as their fools. Please do NOT play others as your fool because not everyone believes the Coronavirus is shoving booze down your throat, making you overeat, and/or preventing you from exercising!
Depression is real and I say this as someone who has been depressed many times in her life. I have blamed everyone else for my mistakes and I've probably even blamed the weather. I could or would probably have blamed everyone in the world EXCEPT for myself. I have been the Queen of excuses, dethroned now however. But guess what... the first stop in admitting you have any type of problem or that you have made a mistake is to admit that you have a problem or that YOU made a mistake. The Coronavirus isn't the reason you drank, overate, fought with your spouse, didn't exercise, overslept, crashed your car, or whatever else excuse you can find to blame whatever behavior you engaged in.
I have coped by overeating, drinking, and engaging in self-pity. But it didn't work for me...it didn't... There are healthy coping strategies and none of them start by playing the blame game.9 -
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"Stop making excuses; you did it because you wanted to. Nobody made you." - This is what I tell my daughters when it's never their fault.
You poured the booze down your throat because you wanted to, not because you were incoherent and confused and thought it was apple juice; you knew what you were doing before you did it and you saw an opportunity, an easy excuse and you grabbed it.
Nobody and nothing forced you to eat that dozen donuts and lay on the couch in a ball. I'm sorry the gym is closed down but that does not prevent you from getting outside and taking a walk or going for a run or even just hopping off the couch and doing some jumping jacks or push ups.
Stop making excuses, STOP, and stop blaming everyone and everything for your mistakes! I am so grateful for grandparents who survived the Great Depression; they whined about NOTHING and made NO EXCUSES for their actions. They were strong and persistent despite being financially poor. They were God trusting and fearing. They were not weak and pathetic, attention seeking, self-pity ridden opportunistic folks that played others as their fools. Please do NOT play others as your fool because not everyone believes the Coronavirus is shoving booze down your throat, making you overeat, and/or preventing you from exercising!
Depression is real and I say this as someone who has been depressed many times in her life. I have blamed everyone else for my mistakes and I've probably even blamed the weather. I could or would probably have blamed everyone in the world EXCEPT for myself. I have been the Queen of excuses, dethroned now however. But guess what... the first stop in admitting you have any type of problem or that you have made a mistake is to admit that you have a problem or that YOU made a mistake. The Coronavirus isn't the reason you drank, overate, fought with your spouse, didn't exercise, overslept, crashed your car, or whatever else excuse you can find to blame whatever behavior you engaged in.
I have coped by overeating, drinking, and engaging in self-pity. But it didn't work for me...it didn't... There are healthy coping strategies and none of them start by playing the blame game.3 -
@LoveyChar ....[putting my helmet on a stick and poking it out of the foxhole...] I've done the overdrinking & overeating many more times than I can count. Actually freezing the donuts "for later" and then eating them that night, still frozen. Pathetic, no??
Never cast blame on anyone or thing else but me...and that's REALLY depressing.
Stayed up til 3 am reading, avoiding the bottle, then fried up a piece of fish for supeakfast & went to bed. Awoke bright eyed and bushy haired at noon, just in time to greet the UPS guy at my front door. With a wine delivery. Which I will not drink anytime soon.
MayDay #1 & #2 alcohol free. Still trying to get a handle on this thing called "moderation".
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@Samand303 ...to foil the auto correct, type @ then the name. That also notifies the person being mentioned that you commented on their post.
Chugging AF beer after mowing the farmette ...back to lurking...8 -
I had no alcohol in April, and I'm unlikely to have any in May. March was drink free - I had some one day in February on a special occasion.
I basically gave up in February 2019 to make my diet easier. I found that drinking very little was surprisingly nice, and so I continued with it.10 -
@forestdweller1 It must have been one great book!!! Sounds like a wild and interesting night. I love fried fish, anything fried really. You got this and I know you're running and hiking. I think I have a new addiction competitive to running.. I have discovered the wonders of gardening! I planted 31 Bell Pepper seeds today!!! I cannot wait to plant lavender seeds tomorrow! The longer I go without wine, the less I want it.6
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8th AF day in a row. Feeling good. No cravings today.
2/2 AF for May8 -
Check-in Day 2: 375ml can of sparkling rose. AF 1/2.4
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Hi all, welcome new members! First few days are the hardest, and you’ll find you want carbs or candy at first because you’re so used to the sugar in alcohol. But that will go away, fear not!
@shorepine , so sorry to hear about the work situation. Truly. You are smart and resourceful, though, and I’m sure you’ll be able to find some kind of online work. Hugs to you!
I haven’t logged much of any thing this past week. My weight has creeped up, and so has drinking! Also PMS has me hungrier than usual. Back at it today. Finished April with 17 AF days. Not bad!
So far May isn’t off to a great start. 2 glasses last night at a social distancing gathering. The night before, to celebrate a beautiful day, I cooked a fantastic meal, but had whiskey and two glasses of wine! Woke up in the middle of the night, of course. I just can’t process alcohol like I used to. Good problem to have.
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1 AF day/2 days...my thinking here is to just get better, leaner, faster, healthier and happier (biggest challenge of all)....just a little bit, each day. Then keep building on it. Same happened with drinking improvements, it started real small and easy, just cutting back ounce by ounce....and with each little improvement, my motivation grew and grew and kept growing....
@morrisjen2014 : totally relate to your post and how people cope with bad Covid news is understandably a very normal reaction...my thinking these days is that we have two choices, let the bad news lead us or become the leader of ourselves and take control of our mindset. Easier said than done but do-able. I have to work at it every morning, getting that mood level up so it can strengthen me for the day and lead me to best decisions for me.....7 -
@LoveyChar, your gardening project sounds awesome! I kick myself for not planting tomatoes last month.4
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@LoveyChar very powerful post.
I wrote myself a letter two years ago, very similar to your post. I told myself I was worth more to the people that loved me, than how much booze loved me. That I had struggled with this battle since I was 19 and that I was just not good at controlling my intake because I thought more booze equaled more fun. There was a lot more but I won't quote it all. Thing is, I stil have the letter. I put it in a place so the every now and then I have to move it to get to some paperwork. Everytime I read it, I tear up. It is like a dear friend reminding me to THINK first...be accountable.
Thank you for sharing your very personal thoughts.
( you scared me a little though, I was hiding in that foxhole with @forestdweller1 while reading it)9 -
May, day 3 and it has already been better than the 3rd of April intake wise.
Not sure how the rest of you are with what has opened up or is still shut down in your states because of the virus. But our Governor extended the Stay At Home Order for at LEAST another month. It would not have been such a kick in the head if she would have in the beginning said a two month or three month SAHO was in effect. Yet she waited until April 28th. I feel very bad for the people that took the initiative to make their places of business safe and ready to open, only to have them told to keep the doors shut.
I know there are so many struggling and turning to drinking heavier than they want during this crisis. We are here as support. Remember One Day At A Time.8 -
I have been out of town this weekend. I am finally able to see my new grandson. Until this weekend, I haven’t seen him since he was 10 days old.
This is my first weekend away since AIM (alcohol in moderation) or AF. I have maintained AF!!! Last time here I would wake up and down a couple mimosas before anyone else was awake. Yesterday I went for a 3.75 mile run instead!
Packing to go home today. This was not as difficult as I thought it would be.
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Looking for an AF May like I did in January. Doable. I can't think enough that by-products of digested alcohol can be bad if always present in the body.7
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