I ate a piece of cake! ☹😥
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I don't feel guilty about food. There are some regrets - sure - but for me its a situation of making choices. There are times I have something then later decide the enjoyment was not 'worth' what it cost me in terms of calories, but for the most part I just take it in stride.
Put into perspective... If you ate 200 calories over your goal, so what? If your goal is to lose 1 pound per week, that means you had a 300 deficit that day instead of 500. 200 calories on one day does not make or break you. The habits you have formed and continue to form: those are what really matter.
I had a couple of alcoholic drinks on Saturday, for which the best I could do was approximate the calories. And with other foods I chose to eat, estimate I went over my maintenance calories by 1000 and over my goal by 1250. My goal is to lose at the rate of .5 pounds per week (250 deficit per day) so that means the choices I made on Saturday put me 5 days behind schedule. I plan to be on this earth - fingers crossed - for a lot longer than that. So what if it takes me 21 weeks instead of 20 weeks to meet my goal?9 -
Your guilt is more likely from thinking that this is a slippery slope rather than the actual overage, which was so tiny that it's possible you didn't actually eat over, depending on how the cake was prepared, frosting/cake ratio, etc. It's not a slippery slope if you don't allow it to happen. All you have to do (simple, but not easy) is give yourself permission to move on and continue as normal.
Also, it might help to allow yourself some more treats to normalize it so it doesn't become this forbidden symbol of a slippery slope.2 -
Lots of good advice here. I can tell you no matter the diet, nutrition plan and/or goals, there should always, and I mean always be room for a piece of cake or a cookie (my vice)...here and there. Save it for special occasions, make it part of your refeed program, fit in in however you must, but know that it won’t end your progress. Consistency of nutrition and exercise out weighs any little indulgence you might have. For you, since you’re not at your goal weight, I understand your concern. Just know from a guy who’s been there, it won’t throw you the slightest bit off your long term track, as long as you fit it in and save those sweets for special occasions. I wouldn’t be trying to eat cake daily, in other words 😀. But I refuse to miss out on a birthday celebration or holiday treat. That would be a plain boring life IMO.
Best of luck and stay consistent! It will pay off, even if you have a piece of cake once in a while. Don’t feel guilt!0 -
I had 2 pieces of home made chocolate cake with vanilla buttercream icing yesterday, put myself over by nearly 1000 calories, and I still weigh exactly the same today.
It doesn't matter. 200 calories is nothing. Do you really want to live a life where you feel this awful about cake? I wouldn't.2 -
naguilar1021 wrote: »
Oh, man, that sounds delicious! Don't cancel out the delicious by feeling bad about it. It's food, not mortal sin.
Unless you're going to give up cake (etc.) forever, then IMO this is the time to start figuring out how to work it in, while keeping calorie intake reasonable, on an overall basis. Most of us want not only to lose weight, but then to stay at a healthy weight permanently, right?
The weight loss process is just maintenance practice, with a bit of a calorie deficit that makes it easier to accept the occasional learning experience. And by "learning experience", I don't mean "eating more than goal calories".
Sometimes eating more than goal calories is worth it. By "learning experience", I mean those cases where I eat over goal calories, and decide it really wasn't worth it, that something different would've made me happier, on balance. Mango cake with mango chunks and buttercream on fathers' day . . . that sounds worth it, to me. Poor quality grocery store yellow cake with heaps of goopy shortening frosting at somebody's office party? Not worth it. Four slices of the mango cake at once? Also probably not worth it, as the pleasure tends to decline with successive pieces. (Your relative values may differ. )
Weight loss and (especially) maintenance are about balance: Over the long haul, balancing calories, nutrition, gustatory pleasure, satiation, social connection via food, and more, to achieve and maintain a healthy body weight happily and pretty easily, plus keep good odds of continuing good health.
Repeating: Weight loss is maintenance practice.
Best wishes!7 -
We can learn the practice of moderation.
We can't bawl and cry over a donut. There's no crying in baseball and there's certainly no crying over eating a piece of cake. Throw all that old dieting mind warp out the window.
I know someone who plays with their food like it's a badge of honor. They wait and see how long they can hold out. Why they even take a donut to bed just to see if it will still be there when the dawn comes to light. Everything within my being rebels fairly quickly when I edge up against someone obsessing over eating or not eating a food item. I can't go there with that.
Let your freedom ring. Do everything on your own terms. Don't follow restrictive food rules and regulations.
You can moderate yourself with food. It's your brain that's telling you that you can't. Override it. Flip the switch.
Size matters. It's only the size of your portions that matters. You can have your cake and eat it, too.
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This was a great thread. We have to be able to enjoy food and not obsess over it. Thanks for sharing and I agree that we have to find sustainable ways of eating and healthy habits. Let us eat cake!3
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No sweat....I eat something sweet every day outside of my more nutritionally balanced diet. I also exercise every day and burn over 1000 extra calories. Stay within your deficit or maintenance and enjoy life.
BTW, I used to punish myself all the time for eating so called UNHEALTHY treats. No more!4 -
Thank you guys for all your support and insight. I am glad to be a part of this community that lifts you up.3
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naguilar1021 wrote: »Thank you guys for all your support and insight. I am glad to be a part of this community that lifts you up.
I don't think you over reacted tbh! I think if I hadn't had a single treat for that amount of time I would have felt the guilt too!! Most of us incorparate little treats in but for you to go cold turkey for so long I can see why it made you feel as bad as you did!!
But you've learned something well, a few things.
1) You realised that eating the cake didn't make you happy OR want to binge further!
2) A little treat snack isn't going to completely derail you
3) You are determined AF to last that long without treats and you've made amazing progress and it honestly is impressive!!
I would see it as your little bit of victory cake for how well you've done so far!
Now keep at it and good luck1 -
naguilar1021 wrote: »Thank you guys. I don't think I'll be doing that again. 😉.
You definitely better do that again! Life without the occasional piece of cake is not realistic.3
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