The Sober Squad- Alcohol Free Living

@RubyRed427, I know you will be back better than ever. I'll bet having a sponsor will be awesome.

Today is Day 13 of the Getting Unstuck course (Sober School). It has been worth every cent. Kate is genuinely involved with the women in the group on a day to day basis. She doesn't just throw videos at you; it is becoming a community. After the course there is a private FB group for graduates, so the community can continue. Just like here, it's so nice to realize we are not alone.

It's funny because I almost didn't take the course because it is expensive. Then I was offered a very lucrative one-on-one tutoring job for the rest of the summer with one of our juvenile students (incarcerated). I took that as a sign from the Universe that I could afford to sign up for the course, so I did. On the second day of tutoring, my student was released from incarceration. I think I earned about 40 bucks total because on the first day he had to leave quickly for court. But . . . I still think it was the Universe. For someone like me, who never "gets to the good bits" of sobriety because I cave in before I get there, this has been a godsend. For the first time I'm actually able to see myself as a long-term/permanent non-drinker. Anyway, just thought I'd throw that out there in case anyone is ever wondering about the course. I know I've been considering it off and on for several years now. And based on how much money I typically spent on booze, I'm probably at least going to break even money-wise.

Have a good weekend, everyone!

FeelinFooFoo wrote: »

I drank on Friday after work. Didn't stop until early hours of the Saturday morning.

Still felt hungover getting ready for work this morning. Still feel kinda crappy now! I'm in my bed as soon as I came home from work.

All the brilliant, focussed and clear mind I had gifted myself by staying AF was gone. Replaced with anxiety, dark mood / dwelling on negativity. I have so much thinking to do. But right now I kinda don't have the energy.

I'm so sorry but it happens. It happens to all of us. It's part of the journey.
Give yourself time to think. Make a list of the consequences of your drinking. In time, you will do just fine. You know how good you felt and you can feel that way again. I am here for you- we all are. xo

Hi everyone...

When I moved to this group from the less alcohol group I introduced myself with my stats including a <-1> for a one day hiccup. This hiccup was due to several thing - early COVID, working from home with a quarantined husband that was drinking EVERYTHING then the final straw was water damage to my basement. I drank... we fixed the basement... I moved on

At 830 last night, my husband calls. I hear a hissing noise in the background. He is in a panic. A drunken panic. The supply line to a toilet is spraying water everywhere. Remember I am 6+ hours away keeping our grandson... it takes 30+ minutes to get the water shut off. The main floor has water in 3 rooms and ceilings have fallen in the basement den and office.

My BFs husband went over and helped him make sure the water was off. Over FaceTime I’m instructing him to move stuff from the path of the water... it is handled for the moment. Luckily... I’m an insurance agent and was a property adjuster for 15 years before this.

In a few hours, the real fun begins. I am hoping to be able to head home around noon so I can coordinate on site the rest of the week.

THIS WILL NOT MAKE ME DRINK!!!!!

I am happy to have found this post. I have struggled with the moderation of drinking. For me it was slamming 15 beers a night or nothing. I was trying to numb my feelings, physical pain, mental pain or just trying to relax and forget about my troubles. I have a lot going on in my life and I am the strong one in my family. I have people around me who are physically and mentally struggling. I am doing better for myself with trying to lose the weight, eat better, exercise and stay away from the alcohol. I find that since I have started logging my food I really want to stick to it and alcohol just doesn't fit in. I miss it sometimes but all I have to do is remember how crappy it made me feel. That belly bloat made me look awful! Not to mention the hangovers or even puking in my sleep. I am committed to making lifestyle changes and alcohol no longer has a place in my life.

6:36 am in Vegas another 24,hope everyone has a wonderful AF day 💗

@FeelinFooFoo I was listening to a podcast that said it is habit that is so deeply ingrained to reach for the bottle in times of stress or happiness or whatever, because that's what we've been doing for years to cope... So you are learning, normal, growing and figuring it all out. I'm happy you felt comfortable to express yourself about it on this thread. It helps us all, and we totally have been there.

I think going back to Annie Grace is a great idea. You had success and it will reinforce your thoughts on alcohol.

I know that our brain really struggles when we try to change it, so little by little, you will get there and find other coping mechanisms. But for now, you're doing well. Look at how many successful times you've had these past few months- tons of success.

@FeelinFooFoo, I agree with @aroze0928. I don't think I"ve ever heard of anyone who makes a one-time decision and goes from heavy drinking to never drinking again. I'm sure it has happened, but it is definitely not the norm. I am finally finding my answer with the support of the Sober School class. What I'm also finding extremely helpful is reading a lot of sober memoirs. The writers of most of them are way closer to your age than to mine, so you might find them helpful. I particularly liked "The Unexpected Joy of Being Sober," "Mrs. D. is Going WIthout," and "Blackout." This may not be your cup of tea, but it might be another arrow in your quiver. Don't give up!