The Sober Squad- Alcohol Free Living
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6:57 am in Vegas another 24,@FeelinFoofoo it's hard for me to stop the next few days again if I've drank, it just feeds that little monster and seems to make it want more, you're doing great tho, glad you can think it out clearly and make the right choices and not beat yourself up, does no good I've learned, waves to all and have a wonderful AF day 💗6
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6:57 am in Vegas another 24,@FeelinFoofoo it's hard for me to stop the next few days again if I've drank, it just feeds that little monster and seems to make it want more, you're doing great tho, glad you can think it out clearly and make the right choices and not beat yourself up, does no good I've learned, waves to all and have a wonderful AF day 💗
I am totally with you in that once I drink the next several days I dabble and drink a little more for a day or two...
It's those few anxious days after you drink that you need to survive and then you'll get back on track. Being AF builds momentum but that wolf is always in the woods. Have a great day in Vegas!
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@FeelinFooFoo I'm in the same boat as @aroze0928 most of my growing pains and on again/off again battle with trying to quit drinking was prior to joining the Less Alcohol thread & was SO thankful when Jen started this thread because my goal was to stay AF not drink less...cause that wasn't working for me and I was at the point where I knew I needed to stop. It will happen for you too. I'm glad that you realize the futility of beating yourself up cause you are learning...that is all, just a lesson in what you don't want. Even though our alcohol brains want it, you are stronger than that part of you. This is not a set back, it is part of your learning process and you ARE learning. You GO girl!!
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Good night ~ I'm going to bed sober. And it feels good. Tomorrow morning, I'll walk with a friend in the park. So happy I won't have a hangover.
Hope everyone has a productive weekend or just relax!!! Sometimes, we just need to just hang around and rest.8 -
9 hours of beautiful, uninterrupted sleep last night. AF life is awesome!!7
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6:49 am in Vegas another 24 💖,yep sober sleep is the best, I remember when I had my covid frustration drink spree back in March Fitbit had me having oxygen surges while I was sleeping restless, that's kinda scary to me, glad I'm not drinking, hope everyone has a beautiful AF day🌷7
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Feeling bored here on a Saturday afternoon; this wolf says "c'mon relax have one". Then my real brain says "One will lead to ten." Start cleaning or reading instead....6
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RubyRed427 wrote: »Feeling bored here on a Saturday afternoon; this wolf says "c'mon relax have one". Then my real brain says "One will lead to ten." Start cleaning or reading instead....
Feel the same some days. Day can feel endless glad your hangin in!5 -
Yesterday in Sober School Kate posted a "How She Did It" piece from one of her "graduates." She does this several times a week. Anyway, this young woman, who has been sober since 2017, was an eloquent writer. Wish she would write a book. She made an excellent point. While careful to acknowledge that AA has helped countless people, she noted that a problem with the particular group she attended was that the women seemed to put alcohol on a pedestal--like it was this wonderful substance that they were unlucky enough to not be able to enjoy, whereas other people could enjoy it and not suffer. Doing this, she felt, was keeping them stuck in a yearning for something that is a toxin that did no one any favors, ever, instead of enjoying the glorious life @FeelinFooFoo referred to ("Pure joy. Bags of energy. Natural high"). She said that sobriety needn't be filled with unending drama. After the hard bits (the beginning), there is so much to embrace in life without looking back longingly at something that isn't worth it.
This mindset is helping me, this time, to go literally days without missing alcohol one little bit. Grapefruit juice and tonic is helping, too!6 -
Hi, I am on less than one day without drinking. I made a decision to stop my drinking because I know that I do have a problem with it, especially binge drinking. I turned to alcohol over a year ago after I went through some extreme traumas. I currently live in my van and alcohol is a daily thing to keep me going. I no longer drink on the job, but I do binge drink mostly every night and when I have intrusive thoughts and memories of the trauma. I do see a therapist and psychiatrist, and while they have suggested AA, its not aligned with my overall beliefs so I don't want to go. I do have good willpower and I am capable of getting off of alcohol, I just need some support. I think I'm probably physically addicted to it, but I'm not sure. Looking for non judgmental support.
Thanks for your time.11 -
I applaud you for your honesty; binging is also my issue. Just can't stop, once I start. It's also so helpful that you see a therapist and psychiatrist. I also think addiction is such a lonely thing which is why we all come here for help and just to express ourselves.
I'm not sure what you mean AA not aligned with your beliefs... if you mean because of the higher power, there are people who do not believe in higher power who still go to AA. But since I dont know what you mean, I won't assume.
Talk to you soon! Chat anytime.6 -
Yesterday in Sober School Kate posted a "How She Did It" piece from one of her "graduates." She does this several times a week. Anyway, this young woman, who has been sober since 2017, was an eloquent writer. Wish she would write a book. She made an excellent point. While careful to acknowledge that AA has helped countless people, she noted that a problem with the particular group she attended was that the women seemed to put alcohol on a pedestal--like it was this wonderful substance that they were unlucky enough to not be able to enjoy, whereas other people could enjoy it and not suffer. Doing this, she felt, was keeping them stuck in a yearning for something that is a toxin that did no one any favors, ever, instead of enjoying the glorious life @FeelinFooFoo referred to ("Pure joy. Bags of energy. Natural high"). She said that sobriety needn't be filled with unending drama. After the hard bits (the beginning), there is so much to embrace in life without looking back longingly at something that isn't worth it.
This mindset is helping me, this time, to go literally days without missing alcohol one little bit. Grapefruit juice and tonic is helping, too!
This,I did this for YEARS! The "oh everyone else gets to drink and I can't" or just missing that "checking out" feeling,I'm so done with that thinking5 -
This is true for me too. Sometimes, I am envious of people who can drink and stop at one or two...Or I am envious of people of whom it appears can drink without repercussions. I have to constantly remind myself that everyone has an issue they are working on and mine happens to be alcoholism. At least, my addiction can be helped by choosing not to drink today.6
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@medusasnake Welcome to Non-Judgeville! There are increasingly new alternatives to AA being available--you can find many by googling. It's not my bag either--I interpret the philosophy as we humans are not good enough and I just think that's a bunch of *kitten*. Right now I'm trying to moderate after almost 5 months AF, and there are groups/resources for that as well. Sounds like life is really tough, but glad you found this group. Hugs...
@FeelinFooFoo (aka my virtual adopted daughter :-)) I know your post about advertising at inappropriate times isn't funny, but I JUST finished reading a rant by the dad of a 4 year-old who is mad that the ice cream truck comes around at 9pm he's getting his 4 year-old to sleep, who hears the jingle, starts drooling, and pops out of bed to chase the truck. It's a messed up world for sure.5 -
Just checking in, its been a few days, but no alcohol and I stopped smoking too at the same time. I feel strong, but my body knows what time I drink at and that's been the hardest. I'm drinking electrolyte drinks and water instead. Right now I'm riding to the jobsite in a company truck with a coworker that doesn't seem to care that I just quit smoking and shes smoking and mad about me having the window down. Whatever. Doing the best I can.9
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FeelinFooFoo wrote: »Observation : Alcohol is literally everywhere you look, and go....no wonder it can be so hard sometimes.
Sitting in my house, in my bed, tv advert comes on for alcohol. Shouldn't these be saved for after the water shed at 9pm ? Why do they insist on pushing this substance on us, day in, day out, hail, rain or shine.......Buy alcohol. Buy alcohol. Buy alcohol. (and in small print *drink responsibly)
I have an idea ADVERTISE RESPONSIBLY. and stop advertising it absolutely all over the place. Sorry just feeling a bit annoyed about the way the odds are so stacked against us when we try to make a change. I'm okay anyway still AF on day 5 of experiment.....👍
Yes and it's only gotten worse with the pandemic! So many commercials for alcohol since people are at home,I guess they figure people wanna drink their days away from the looks of it,@RubyRed427 my mom can drink all night and only need a Pepsi to get going in the morning, she'd be asking me "wanna go to yard sales?" All cute and vibrant while I'm feeling like I need a hospital bed 😂 @medusasnake, welcome and congratulations on quitting both smoking and drinking, the smoking is HARD for me, I may not be smoking as many cigs but my vape is glued to my mouth like a baby binky😒 it's disgusting, 6:34 am in Vegas another 24 hope everyone has a fabulous AF day 💖5 -
@whitpauly I have friends like that! We may be out drinking for the day and night (on vacation), and the next morning, my friend is on the elliptical for one hour and happy and peppy. My other friend drinks wine all night long.... and she told me in the morning, she feels great. So your mom and my friends probably just dont understand why we feel like *kitten*, moaning and unable to get out of bed,....etc.
@medusasnake You are amazing! Keep up the good work!5 -
I have always loved Ed Sheeran's music. Here's a good article about his addictions. https://www.bbc.com/news/entertainment-arts-53553951
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Today is a special day!!!!
Reaching 150 was more difficult than 100, but I did it!!! The universe has been tossing me tests of strength lately. I am winning so far!!11 -
Hi All. I've been reading all the posts though I feel like I don't have anything to add. I'm so Coronavirus weary and sad about the state of the world and the US especially. Why are people so selfish? We could have had this done and over with if people would have worn their masks and acted responsibly like other countries. Why does it have to be political? Anyway I am going to eye dr then lunch with 2 girlfriends who are furloughed (flight attendants) so I am sure the wine will be flowing. I'm not using any of this as an excuse to indulge. They know I have to drive pretty far so I am sure there will be no pressure to join them. I continued to be inspired by everyone's stories so please keep sharing. Have a healthy day
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