Guys/Girls: What is your real opinion on..

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  • JessBbody
    JessBbody Posts: 523 Member
    Guys or girls do you prefer cuddles while watching tv or hand holding or feetsies or nothing?

    Feetsies. I can't really stand having things in my hands, unless we're out in public and I wanna feel all souped up because I'm in a couple. At least, I've been single for so long that's how I imagine I would feel. 😢
  • Vikka_V
    Vikka_V Posts: 9,563 Member
    Vikka_V wrote: »
    CacoEther wrote: »
    Guys/girls: what keeps you from sliding into someone’s DMs when you’d otherwise want to talk to them?

    I don't care enough about anyone in here.

    Eta: I kinda suck at talking to people

    ouch!!!
    I was thinking it was the "glitch"!
    'cause I know you love me and my purple shamrock Yvonne!

    Hey, so do you have a cat? My cat keeps eating my shamrocks 😠

    ooh, they are supposed to be somewhat toxic to cats (in my random memory)

    ...maybe your cat has a death wish - I feel a lot of cats do - or maybe just flaunting those 9 lives

  • Vikka_V
    Vikka_V Posts: 9,563 Member
    iMago wrote: »
    CacoEther wrote: »
    Guys/girls: what keeps you from sliding into someone’s DMs when you’d otherwise want to talk to them?

    I don't care enough about anyone in here.

    Eta: I kinda suck at talking to people

    i actually like and get along with most folks for the most part. but i know im a basket case half the time and really just don't wanna drag anybody else down anymore. so it's easier to keep em at arms length

    Oh I get it. Im the same way. The more I keep people out of my actual feels, the better. Cause once I care for you, it's for life and that's hard to do with me so...anyway, y'all just internet people, right! 😢

    internet people are people too! maybe even more betterer people b/c they seek your friendship/company when if in person its harder to avoid it (their seeking)

    Ya, I speak backward Yoda speak sometimes
  • Mr_Healthy_Habits
    Mr_Healthy_Habits Posts: 12,588 Member
    CacoEther wrote: »
    CacoEther wrote: »
    iMago wrote: »
    CacoEther wrote: »
    Guys/girls: what keeps you from sliding into someone’s DMs when you’d otherwise want to talk to them?

    if you're a guy you never do it until they do first. otherwise yep you guessed it straight into her group chat for a roasting

    Bingo... Whomever dm's first loses 😂

    So this really is a thing?
    iMago wrote: »
    CacoEther wrote: »
    iMago wrote: »
    CacoEther wrote: »
    Guys/girls: what keeps you from sliding into someone’s DMs when you’d otherwise want to talk to them?

    if you're a guy you never do it until they do first. otherwise yep you guessed it straight into her group chat for a roasting

    Bingo... Whomever dm's first loses 😂

    So this really is a thing?

    if you're a guy then yeah. and so it's best to just not think about it. if she wants to talk to you then she will.

    Yeah it kinda is... I agree...

    If it comes let it come, if it stays let it stay, if it goes let it go... 🧘🏽‍♂️

    That being said, I realize some are just shy and would never dm first... So sometimes I might if I think she may be trying to get my attention...

    Well, from a female’s perspective:

    If a guy writes me first, i can immediately deduce the following:

    - nothing

    So really, if i’ve written a guy first he is taking that as me making the first move?

    I didn't say that lol...

    What if I don’t know the rules?

    I don't expect anyone to and they're not for anyone but me...

    What if rules give me anxiety?

    Relax lol...

    What if I don’t want to play anymore and just want to take his balls and go home?

    Then you are welcome to take a piece of my heart along with my well wishes and come back any time...

    💕

  • Mr_Healthy_Habits
    Mr_Healthy_Habits Posts: 12,588 Member
    edited November 2020
    Vikka_V wrote: »
    iMago wrote: »
    CacoEther wrote: »
    Guys/girls: what keeps you from sliding into someone’s DMs when you’d otherwise want to talk to them?

    if you're a guy you never do it until they do first. otherwise yep you guessed it straight into her group chat for a roasting

    Bingo... Whomever dm's first loses 😂

    You two... ... ... 😣
    I got to learn you 2 guys some important life skills, you two always agree on this idea 🙄

    Whoever messages first WINS! Its like a race!

    #1 they beat you to it (duh, win)

    You have my congratulations 😁

    #2 if you die, or they die, you got to say what you felt

    If it was meant to be said it shall be...

    #3 you flatter her/him by it - super win!! Wait, the "appreciation" may come! (lol, kidding)

    Idk... It sounds like with all dm's friends of mine have told me they receive... I wouldn't count on this one...

    your welcome!

    And a side note @iMago - if *kitten* goes babbling to her *kitten* about you, she "ain't worth a dollar" *kitten* that *kitten* entirely

    💕
  • PlentyofProtein00
    PlentyofProtein00 Posts: 3,570 Member
    Guys and girls...did I miss a party in here last night
  • jjpptt2
    jjpptt2 Posts: 5,650 Member
    CacoEther wrote: »
    Guys/girls: what keeps you from sliding into someone’s DMs when you’d otherwise want to talk to them?

    The assumption that either the message or the reason for the message would be misinterpreted.
  • jjpptt2 wrote: »
    CacoEther wrote: »
    Guys/girls: what keeps you from sliding into someone’s DMs when you’d otherwise want to talk to them?

    The assumption that either the message or the reason for the message would be misinterpreted.
    Pretty common nowadays
  • Munequita1990
    Munequita1990 Posts: 29 Member
    jjpptt2 wrote: »
    CacoEther wrote: »
    Guys/girls: what keeps you from sliding into someone’s DMs when you’d otherwise want to talk to them?

    The assumption that either the message or the reason for the message would be misinterpreted.
    Pretty common nowadays

    Totally agree!
  • CacoEther
    CacoEther Posts: 2,465 Member
    jjpptt2 wrote: »
    CacoEther wrote: »
    Guys/girls: what keeps you from sliding into someone’s DMs when you’d otherwise want to talk to them?

    The assumption that either the message or the reason for the message would be misinterpreted.

    This seems to be a common theme among guys.
  • CacoEther
    CacoEther Posts: 2,465 Member
    Women: if a man messages you, what is your reaction? Be real
  • CacoEther wrote: »
    jjpptt2 wrote: »
    CacoEther wrote: »
    Guys/girls: what keeps you from sliding into someone’s DMs when you’d otherwise want to talk to them?

    The assumption that either the message or the reason for the message would be misinterpreted.

    This seems to be a common theme among guys.
    Pretty even on both fronts imo
  • CacoEther
    CacoEther Posts: 2,465 Member
    CacoEther wrote: »
    jjpptt2 wrote: »
    CacoEther wrote: »
    Guys/girls: what keeps you from sliding into someone’s DMs when you’d otherwise want to talk to them?

    The assumption that either the message or the reason for the message would be misinterpreted.

    This seems to be a common theme among guys.
    Pretty even on both fronts imo

    Even meaning that women are afraid of being misinterpreted as well?
  • CacoEther wrote: »
    CacoEther wrote: »
    jjpptt2 wrote: »
    CacoEther wrote: »
    Guys/girls: what keeps you from sliding into someone’s DMs when you’d otherwise want to talk to them?

    The assumption that either the message or the reason for the message would be misinterpreted.

    This seems to be a common theme among guys.
    Pretty even on both fronts imo

    Even meaning that women are afraid of being misinterpreted as well?
    Sure, I think nowadays with Messaging people can’t get an accurate read on how things are meant to come across. Easy to misinterpret
  • Mr_Healthy_Habits
    Mr_Healthy_Habits Posts: 12,588 Member
    jjpptt2 wrote: »
    CacoEther wrote: »
    Guys/girls: what keeps you from sliding into someone’s DMs when you’d otherwise want to talk to them?

    The assumption that either the message or the reason for the message would be misinterpreted.

    I can agree with this... At one point or another anyhow, it may happen...

    I just don't feel like having to navigate through the red flags sometimes and often don't lol...

    I just be me and if people want to assume things then I'm okay with that and at peace with it...

    But I guess I'm not so worried about the assumption as much as I just don't because I'm not compelled to 🤷🏽‍♂️...
  • PlentyofProtein00
    PlentyofProtein00 Posts: 3,570 Member
    CacoEther wrote: »
    Women: if a man messages you, what is your reaction? Be real

    Depends on the tone, if they're funny, and whats said.

    Advice i always appreciate or i enjoy talking about ways for improving.

    If its a random hey beautiful or what's up....im assuming 1. They looking for some recipes and 2. 20 other women also received same DM

  • PlentyofProtein00
    PlentyofProtein00 Posts: 3,570 Member
    CacoEther wrote: »
    Women: if a man messages you, what is your reaction? Be real

    Depends on the tone, if they're funny, and whats said.

    Advice i always appreciate or i enjoy talking about ways for improving.

    If its a random hey beautiful or what's up....im assuming 1. They looking for some recipes and 2. 20 other women also received same DM

    I feel so special when I get a copy and paste message

    "So, tell me about yourself"
  • _sw33tp3a_11
    _sw33tp3a_11 Posts: 4,692 Member
    CacoEther wrote: »
    Women: if a man messages you, what is your reaction? Be real

    I only get messages from new adds and that doesn't happen often so when they do they always say "thanks for the add blah blah blah" I usually reply with a " You're most welcome. Have a nice day" most of the time I never hear from them again lol so messages on here don't really bother me cause I rarely get them. There has been a time or two where the conversation kept going and then realized that person was super cool and now they are stuck with me 🤷‍♀️
  • CacoEther
    CacoEther Posts: 2,465 Member
    CacoEther wrote: »
    Women: if a man messages you, what is your reaction? Be real

    I only get messages from new adds and that doesn't happen often so when they do they always say "thanks for the add blah blah blah" I usually reply with a " You're most welcome. Have a nice day" most of the time I never hear from them again lol so messages on here don't really bother me cause I rarely get them. There has been a time or two where the conversation kept going and then realized that person was super cool and now they are stuck with me 🤷‍♀️

    Oh this reminds me of another question