Newly mothers..
Who think everyone elseās schedule must revolve around theirs and try to make you feel bad about it or get offended when everyone else has time to go on dinner dates with each other and they canāt. They seem to forget everyoneās life goes on and their *kitten* will get left if they canāt make time either.
Assuming you've not yet had children of your own?
Putting my $0.02 in a topic I'm not involved in. Only to suggest that saying "yet" implies everyone eventually wants children.
That said both of you have valid points but the wording may be coming off harsh.
There are new parents who are able to make time for social life (it depends on their interest, level of fatigue, family supports and priorities,among other factors).
Oh, that's a big pet peeve of mine...assuming that everyone wants kids and it's the only reason you get married.
Sometimes, when I meet a new person, they'll ask how long I've been married. I'll say 17 years. Then they ask if we have kids. I say no. And, almost EVERY time, I get this sad, pity face from them. They must assume that we were unable to have kids or something and we must be so sad about that.
No concept that maybe it was a choice that we're happy with.
When people try so hard to read between the lines that they don't bother with the lines at all.
Despite my regular egregious (but perhaps ironically endearing) typos, I have a Comms background. So I read the actual lines as well as in between š.
If this was in reference to my earlier comment, I did say you both had good points š¤·š¾
I have zero "skin" in the conversation yet while I am a mother, I do have friends who have made conscious decisions not to have kids as well as others who don't have the luxury of choice when it comes to conceiving. The "yet" - used in the original context - could have come off differently than you intended. It was meant less to harp on you than to increase awareness for all.
Also (now here's where I'm being dramatically petty about grammar), your chickenpox example also assumes that everyone will acquire it when [...amplify Nerd Powers...] worldwide "90% (of children are infected) by the age of 12 years" and immunization rates further reduce this number. <-- This is also not harping since I'm actually just someone who likes epidemiology and your phrasing made me curious.
Newly mothers..
Who think everyone elseās schedule must revolve around theirs and try to make you feel bad about it or get offended when everyone else has time to go on dinner dates with each other and they canāt. They seem to forget everyoneās life goes on and their *kitten* will get left if they canāt make time either.
Bolded suggests you're saying otherwise
Yeah whatās the problem?
There's no problem here. I get what it is to have kids. Your statement was just something that someone who's not had children would say. I'd wager your mind would change a little.
Idc. Children or not, donāt try to others feel bad for going out just because you canāt, especially when weāve been adjusting to your needs for 8 months straight. you have children doesnāt make you queen sheba...
I'm not sure why anybody's making adjustments or making anybody else feel bad?? Each side is making choices for themselves. I'm wondering if a little bit of 'grass is greener on the other side' is going on from each side? IDK but I'd be happy/understanding if it was my friend who had a new baby plus if I was the other side, I'd try to be understanding about my friends going out and having fun because my priority would be my baby. JMO
But IIRC, this is a venting thread so you have a perfect right to share how you feel.
Yes was venting š
the last 8 months, itās been all baby planning, the baby shower, planning out the baptism, me along with other friends weāve been supporting her, I think now that things have settled with that, not everything revolves around her and the baby as much sheās feeling some type of way.
Instead of going out, we would go over to her place to hang out, you know being understanding considering sheās a new mom, itās not like we were being neglectful in the first place for her complain about us going out without her, we invite her. I get it might be her hormones or adjusting to her new life, but after while of slick shade and making others feel bad for having a life outside of hers..itās a bit much.
When people try so hard to read between the lines that they don't bother with the lines at all.
Despite my regular egregious (but perhaps ironically endearing) typos, I have a Comms background. So I read the actual lines as well as in between š.
If this was in reference to my earlier comment, I did say you both had good points š¤·š¾
I have zero "skin" in the conversation yet while I am a mother, I do have friends who have made conscious decisions not to have kids as well as others who don't have the luxury of choice when it comes to conceiving. The "yet" - used in the original context - could have come off differently than you intended. It was meant less to harp on you than to increase awareness for all.
Also (now here's where I'm being dramatically petty about grammar), your chickenpox example also assumes that everyone will acquire it when [...amplify Nerd Powers...] worldwide "90% (of children are infected) by the age of 12 years" and immunization rates further reduce this number. <-- This is also not harping since I'm actually just someone who likes epidemiology and your phrasing made me curious.
Nah you were clear and I responded to you, but now one or both of us has done it again with chicken pox. š
Newly mothers..
Who think everyone elseās schedule must revolve around theirs and try to make you feel bad about it or get offended when everyone else has time to go on dinner dates with each other and they canāt. They seem to forget everyoneās life goes on and their *kitten* will get left if they canāt make time either.
Bolded suggests you're saying otherwise
Yeah whatās the problem?
There's no problem here. I get what it is to have kids. Your statement was just something that someone who's not had children would say. I'd wager your mind would change a little.
Idc. Children or not, donāt try to others feel bad for going out just because you canāt, especially when weāve been adjusting to your needs for 8 months straight. you have children doesnāt make you queen sheba...
I'm not sure why anybody's making adjustments or making anybody else feel bad?? Each side is making choices for themselves. I'm wondering if a little bit of 'grass is greener on the other side' is going on from each side? IDK but I'd be happy/understanding if it was my friend who had a new baby plus if I was the other side, I'd try to be understanding about my friends going out and having fun because my priority would be my baby. JMO
But IIRC, this is a venting thread so you have a perfect right to share how you feel.
Yes was venting š
the last 8 months, itās been all baby planning, the baby shower, planning out the baptism, me along with other friends weāve been supporting her, I think now that things have settled with that, not everything revolves around her and the baby as much sheās feeling some type of way.
Instead of going out, we would go over to her place to hang out, you know being understanding considering sheās a new mom, itās not like we were being neglectful in the first place for her complain about us going out without her, we invite her. I get it might be her hormones or adjusting to her new life, but after while of slick shade and making others feel bad for having a life outside of hers..itās a bit much.
Newly mothers..
Who think everyone elseās schedule must revolve around theirs and try to make you feel bad about it or get offended when everyone else has time to go on dinner dates with each other and they canāt. They seem to forget everyoneās life goes on and their *kitten* will get left if they canāt make time either.
Bolded suggests you're saying otherwise
Yeah whatās the problem?
There's no problem here. I get what it is to have kids. Your statement was just something that someone who's not had children would say. I'd wager your mind would change a little.
Idc. Children or not, donāt try to others feel bad for going out just because you canāt, especially when weāve been adjusting to your needs for 8 months straight. you have children doesnāt make you queen sheba...
I'm not sure why anybody's making adjustments or making anybody else feel bad?? Each side is making choices for themselves. I'm wondering if a little bit of 'grass is greener on the other side' is going on from each side? IDK but I'd be happy/understanding if it was my friend who had a new baby plus if I was the other side, I'd try to be understanding about my friends going out and having fun because my priority would be my baby. JMO
But IIRC, this is a venting thread so you have a perfect right to share how you feel.
Yes was venting š
the last 8 months, itās been all baby planning, the baby shower, planning out the baptism, me along with other friends weāve been supporting her, I think now that things have settled with that, not everything revolves around her and the baby as much sheās feeling some type of way.
Instead of going out, we would go over to her place to hang out, you know being understanding considering sheās a new mom, itās not like we were being neglectful in the first place for her complain about us going out without her, we invite her. I get it might be her hormones or adjusting to her new life, but after while of slick shade and making others feel bad for having a life outside of hers..itās a bit much.
JS this isn't quite what you originally said, and all I did was try to confirm my assumption that you didn't have children. With the now added context I wouldn't bat an eye at the whole thing. Never not once did I assume you or anyone else wanted to have children, or chicken pox for that matter.
Newly mothers..
Who think everyone elseās schedule must revolve around theirs and try to make you feel bad about it or get offended when everyone else has time to go on dinner dates with each other and they canāt. They seem to forget everyoneās life goes on and their *kitten* will get left if they canāt make time either.
Bolded suggests you're saying otherwise
Yeah whatās the problem?
There's no problem here. I get what it is to have kids. Your statement was just something that someone who's not had children would say. I'd wager your mind would change a little.
Idc. Children or not, donāt try to others feel bad for going out just because you canāt, especially when weāve been adjusting to your needs for 8 months straight. you have children doesnāt make you queen sheba...
I'm not sure why anybody's making adjustments or making anybody else feel bad?? Each side is making choices for themselves. I'm wondering if a little bit of 'grass is greener on the other side' is going on from each side? IDK but I'd be happy/understanding if it was my friend who had a new baby plus if I was the other side, I'd try to be understanding about my friends going out and having fun because my priority would be my baby. JMO
But IIRC, this is a venting thread so you have a perfect right to share how you feel.
Yes was venting š
the last 8 months, itās been all baby planning, the baby shower, planning out the baptism, me along with other friends weāve been supporting her, I think now that things have settled with that, not everything revolves around her and the baby as much sheās feeling some type of way.
Instead of going out, we would go over to her place to hang out, you know being understanding considering sheās a new mom, itās not like we were being neglectful in the first place for her complain about us going out without her, we invite her. I get it might be her hormones or adjusting to her new life, but after while of slick shade and making others feel bad for having a life outside of hers..itās a bit much.
JS this isn't quite what you originally said, and all I did was try to confirm my assumption that you didn't have children. With the now added context I wouldn't bat an eye at the whole thing. Never not once did I assume you or anyone else wanted to have children, or chicken pox for that matter.
They do have a vaccine for that now ya know. Chicken pox, not the kids.
Newly mothers..
Who think everyone elseās schedule must revolve around theirs and try to make you feel bad about it or get offended when everyone else has time to go on dinner dates with each other and they canāt. They seem to forget everyoneās life goes on and their *kitten* will get left if they canāt make time either.
Bolded suggests you're saying otherwise
Yeah whatās the problem?
There's no problem here. I get what it is to have kids. Your statement was just something that someone who's not had children would say. I'd wager your mind would change a little.
Idc. Children or not, donāt try to others feel bad for going out just because you canāt, especially when weāve been adjusting to your needs for 8 months straight. you have children doesnāt make you queen sheba...
I'm not sure why anybody's making adjustments or making anybody else feel bad?? Each side is making choices for themselves. I'm wondering if a little bit of 'grass is greener on the other side' is going on from each side? IDK but I'd be happy/understanding if it was my friend who had a new baby plus if I was the other side, I'd try to be understanding about my friends going out and having fun because my priority would be my baby. JMO
But IIRC, this is a venting thread so you have a perfect right to share how you feel.
Yes was venting š
the last 8 months, itās been all baby planning, the baby shower, planning out the baptism, me along with other friends weāve been supporting her, I think now that things have settled with that, not everything revolves around her and the baby as much sheās feeling some type of way.
Instead of going out, we would go over to her place to hang out, you know being understanding considering sheās a new mom, itās not like we were being neglectful in the first place for her complain about us going out without her, we invite her. I get it might be her hormones or adjusting to her new life, but after while of slick shade and making others feel bad for having a life outside of hers..itās a bit much.
JS this isn't quite what you originally said, and all I did was try to confirm my assumption that you didn't have children. With the now added context I wouldn't bat an eye at the whole thing. Never not once did I assume you or anyone else wanted to have children, or chicken pox for that matter.
They do have a vaccine for that now ya know. Chicken pox, not the kids.
Newly mothers..
Who think everyone elseās schedule must revolve around theirs and try to make you feel bad about it or get offended when everyone else has time to go on dinner dates with each other and they canāt. They seem to forget everyoneās life goes on and their *kitten* will get left if they canāt make time either.
Bolded suggests you're saying otherwise
Yeah whatās the problem?
There's no problem here. I get what it is to have kids. Your statement was just something that someone who's not had children would say. I'd wager your mind would change a little.
Idc. Children or not, donāt try to others feel bad for going out just because you canāt, especially when weāve been adjusting to your needs for 8 months straight. you have children doesnāt make you queen sheba...
I'm not sure why anybody's making adjustments or making anybody else feel bad?? Each side is making choices for themselves. I'm wondering if a little bit of 'grass is greener on the other side' is going on from each side? IDK but I'd be happy/understanding if it was my friend who had a new baby plus if I was the other side, I'd try to be understanding about my friends going out and having fun because my priority would be my baby. JMO
But IIRC, this is a venting thread so you have a perfect right to share how you feel.
Yes was venting š
the last 8 months, itās been all baby planning, the baby shower, planning out the baptism, me along with other friends weāve been supporting her, I think now that things have settled with that, not everything revolves around her and the baby as much sheās feeling some type of way.
Instead of going out, we would go over to her place to hang out, you know being understanding considering sheās a new mom, itās not like we were being neglectful in the first place for her complain about us going out without her, we invite her. I get it might be her hormones or adjusting to her new life, but after while of slick shade and making others feel bad for having a life outside of hers..itās a bit much.
JS this isn't quite what you originally said, and all I did was try to confirm my assumption that you didn't have children. With the now added context I wouldn't bat an eye at the whole thing. Never not once did I assume you or anyone else wanted to have children, or chicken pox for that matter.
They do have a vaccine for that now ya know. Chicken pox, not the kids.
Holy *kitten*! we gotta let people know!
Itās a scam its really microchip soup nice try govt
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Oh, that's a big pet peeve of mine...assuming that everyone wants kids and it's the only reason you get married.
Sometimes, when I meet a new person, they'll ask how long I've been married. I'll say 17 years. Then they ask if we have kids. I say no. And, almost EVERY time, I get this sad, pity face from them. They must assume that we were unable to have kids or something and we must be so sad about that.
No concept that maybe it was a choice that we're happy with.
Despite my regular egregious (but perhaps ironically endearing) typos, I have a Comms background. So I read the actual lines as well as in between š.
If this was in reference to my earlier comment, I did say you both had good points š¤·š¾
I have zero "skin" in the conversation yet while I am a mother, I do have friends who have made conscious decisions not to have kids as well as others who don't have the luxury of choice when it comes to conceiving. The "yet" - used in the original context - could have come off differently than you intended. It was meant less to harp on you than to increase awareness for all.
Also (now here's where I'm being dramatically petty about grammar), your chickenpox example also assumes that everyone will acquire it when [...amplify Nerd Powers...] worldwide "90% (of children are infected) by the age of 12 years" and immunization rates further reduce this number. <-- This is also not harping since I'm actually just someone who likes epidemiology and your phrasing made me curious.
Yes was venting š
the last 8 months, itās been all baby planning, the baby shower, planning out the baptism, me along with other friends weāve been supporting her, I think now that things have settled with that, not everything revolves around her and the baby as much sheās feeling some type of way.
Instead of going out, we would go over to her place to hang out, you know being understanding considering sheās a new mom, itās not like we were being neglectful in the first place for her complain about us going out without her, we invite her. I get it might be her hormones or adjusting to her new life, but after while of slick shade and making others feel bad for having a life outside of hers..itās a bit much.
Nah you were clear and I responded to you, but now one or both of us has done it again with chicken pox. š
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But, more important, do you want kids?!
JS this isn't quite what you originally said, and all I did was try to confirm my assumption that you didn't have children. With the now added context I wouldn't bat an eye at the whole thing. Never not once did I assume you or anyone else wanted to have children, or chicken pox for that matter.
They do have a vaccine for that now ya know. Chicken pox, not the kids.
Holy *kitten*! we gotta let people know!
Itās a scam its really microchip soup nice try govt
Why not just remove the tags?
Maybe she means skin tags? š¤·š¼āāļø
Toe nail clippers take care of them?
How would one remember the item's laundering instructions?
ETA: tmantwo's answer is more accurate š¤£
You could do what every man has done since the invention of the washing machine. Just throw everything in and hope for the best.
^ tru.dat. And whatever gets jacked donate for tax deductions.
Eww no lol
I tried but I should have used a stitch unpicker instead of scissors because I have a little bit of the edge of the tag still itching me. š¦
Got one off my eyelid with my fingernails a while back.