What nobody tells you about losing weight
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heavensshadow wrote: »For me, I didn't think I would be constantly thinking about food (but in a different capacity). It takes a ton of mental energy for me to plan, pre-log, think about groceries and the most nutritious bang for my buck, etc.
While I'm not terribly upset about this because I'm not just thinking about the next bite going into my maw, I was surprised when I realized how much mental time I spend on my health when it's a priority. It really *must* be a lifestyle change to make it stick (for me, anyway).
Fortunately, at least for me, it gets easier and starts becoming routine, and you don't have to focus as much. You just kind of know what works. Although I've still gotten off track for emotional reasons, it's easier to get back on track because it's my new normal.14 -
Nobody warned me just how many people would tell me what NOT to lose.
"Don't lose too much off your chest"
"You're going to lose your butt"
"Can't you work more on the bigger areas"22 -
MellOnTheMove wrote: »Nobody warned me just how many people would tell me what NOT to lose.
"Don't lose too much off your chest"
"You're going to lose your butt"
"Can't you work more on the bigger areas"
YESSSS! So many people have opinions on what your body should look like.
I don't know why anyone thinks they deserve to have an opinion on anyone else's body.
It's honestly easiest to adapt to a "I don't care what others think about me, only what I feel about myself" mindset initially and it creates a whole attitude shift. It's pretty glorious to adapt that "Screw em" attitude.
Also Cringy things people say, while trying to make a compliment but just coming off as creepy, while they don't realize they're "complimenting" how you look now but totally trashing your appearance from before. STILL THE SAME PERSON. What the heck.25 -
MellOnTheMove wrote: »Nobody warned me just how many people would tell me what NOT to lose.
"Don't lose too much off your chest"
"You're going to lose your butt"
"Can't you work more on the bigger areas"
I wish THEY would LOSE themselves. Too bad they can't work on the biggest thing= their mouth and thinking.13 -
That if you move your arm too fast the extra skin kinda passes the attached stuff and has a mind of it's own!
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katescurios wrote: »They don’t tell you how happy a spreadsheet and a graph can make you, seriously if I start losing motivation or craving a chocolate bar all I have to do is look at my spreadsheet and see my progress and all of a sudden I’m not hungry anymore 😆
Excel and Happy Scale Trending App are my sanity
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Something nobody told me about is how odd my body would be as I was losing the weight. How it would come off of unexpected places and how my belly would become this loose pouch of some fat, some apparently empty space, and a quantity of marbles made of Flubber. I'd heard of getting an "apron" but not a "partially deflated belly." How even though I am only around 30 pounds from goal weight, maybe less, there would be areas that still need MAJOR renovation - and I don't get smaller all over, not at all. Where the "skinny patches" are is humorous at times. I tell myself it's a work in progress and I'm glad I don't have judgemental people looking at my nakedself.19
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Sand_TIger wrote: »Something nobody told me about is how odd my body would be as I was losing the weight. How it would come off of unexpected places and how my belly would become this loose pouch of some fat, some apparently empty space, and a quantity of marbles made of Flubber. I'd heard of getting an "apron" but not a "partially deflated belly." How even though I am only around 30 pounds from goal weight, maybe less, there would be areas that still need MAJOR renovation - and I don't get smaller all over, not at all. Where the "skinny patches" are is humorous at times. I tell myself it's a work in progress and I'm glad I don't have judgemental people looking at my nakedself.
The skin thing has been a real surprise although interesting from a scientific perspective. Mine gets super soft, then wrinkly and floppy, then seems to significantly (although not totally) shrink; rinse; repeat. SO WEIRD. It's a like a new party game LOL14 -
Nobody told me that losing 50 pounds would be something I couldn't mention in public without being told that I was fatshaming people and triggering people. Um, you do you. This was my project this year, and for that matter, I'm STILL fat, so it's not like I'm lording it over anyone. But that's my project this year and I'll talk about it if people ask me what I did during the pandemic.40
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Oh yes. The Clapping Underarm syndrome, most noticeable when running up stairs. Have you had the awful chafing that goes with it? It last a couple months and thank goodness it disappeared.That if you move your arm too fast the extra skin kinda passes the attached stuff and has a mind of it's own!Sand_TIger wrote: »Something nobody told me about is how odd my body would be as I was losing the weight. How it would come off of unexpected places and how my belly would become this loose pouch of some fat, some apparently empty space, and a quantity of marbles made of Flubber. I'd heard of getting an "apron" but not a "partially deflated belly." How even though I am only around 30 pounds from goal weight, maybe less, there would be areas that still need MAJOR renovation - and I don't get smaller all over, not at all. Where the "skinny patches" are is humorous at times. I tell myself it's a work in progress and I'm glad I don't have judgemental people looking at my nakedself.
Yes yes yes yes. And more YES.
I think I’m undergoing another rearrangement right now. It’s unsettling.
Like entering in the Enterprise’s transporter room and coming out with Kirk’s head and Bones’ body or something. There’s were weeks when each new day was an adventure in “oh, wouldyalookatthat?!”10 -
@AlexandraFindsHerself1971 - I can't believe that someone would even imply that. Folks got their own issues. Too bad they don't work on their own crap before pointing fingers at you. Losing 50 pounds is an amazing achievement that has improved your life - you have every right to be proud of that. So, drop the haters from your life - you deserve better.11
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AlexandraFindsHerself1971 wrote: »Nobody told me that losing 50 pounds would be something I couldn't mention in public without being told that I was fatshaming people and triggering people. Um, you do you. This was my project this year, and for that matter, I'm STILL fat, so it's not like I'm lording it over anyone. But that's my project this year and I'll talk about it if people ask me what I did during the pandemic.
It's a GREAT personal project! "Fat-shaming?" Such an immature thing to accuse you of. If talking about good health is "triggering" then I feel pretty sorry for some folks. I get it, some people do have issues with disordered eating and I have compassion for that but I'd bet most of the folks giving you crap didn't really have a good reason to do so.
My own thing for the day is - nobody told me how amazingly delicious vegetables would become. Like, really super tasty. I love it. Yay for an evolving gut biome and palate.12 -
Today's "what nobody tells you" reflection - and I'm sure this has been mentioned a ton of times already - is that the body dysmorphia IS REAL, Y'ALL (not in the clinical sense, that's obviously real). Even with slightly increased confidence/comfort in my skin, I cannot fathom the idea of people actually finding me attractive. I know, I know, it takes a while for brains to catch up with reality when it comes to weight loss, but knowing that and living it are totally different things.
Brains are stupid.25 -
heavensshadow wrote: »Today's "what nobody tells you" reflection - and I'm sure this has been mentioned a ton of times already - is that the body dysmorphia IS REAL, Y'ALL (not in the clinical sense, that's obviously real). Even with slightly increased confidence/comfort in my skin, I cannot fathom the idea of people actually finding me attractive. I know, I know, it takes a while for brains to catch up with reality when it comes to weight loss, but knowing that and living it are totally different things.
Brains are stupid.
I get that. It's so important to keep telling yourself that you are worthy of other's attention and affection. It takes trust. But it's SO worth the journey.13 -
heavensshadow wrote: »Today's "what nobody tells you" reflection - and I'm sure this has been mentioned a ton of times already - is that the body dysmorphia IS REAL, Y'ALL (not in the clinical sense, that's obviously real). Even with slightly increased confidence/comfort in my skin, I cannot fathom the idea of people actually finding me attractive. I know, I know, it takes a while for brains to catch up with reality when it comes to weight loss, but knowing that and living it are totally different things.
Brains are stupid.
@heavensshadow.
You are beautiful. You are. ...a random internet unbiased reader...PS. why would I lie?
🙂
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@bourbon_n_barbells you had me at your username!
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@heavensshadow Your post is so spot on. I frequently look at the people that I see everyday and think that I am so much bigger than they are. Its not true but I find myself still allowing extra space around objects as if I was bigger and wincing when I sit on delicate chairs. You are right , brains are funny. Do you suppose that we make life choices to live up or down to our self image?16
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It was my understanding that maintenance would be just like losing except that you get more calories to play with. No one told me that actually, you don't get more calories to play with - unless you earn them through exercise.
This, though actually for the last few weeks I have maintained without exercise and not tracking food and that feels good. Yes: I maintained over Christmas and New Year! I hit my goal weight in that period too, though I am bit above it now.) No-one told me how challenging the switch of mindset to maintenance is, or how hard it is to decide where to maintain and within what range.
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Ive been maintaining for a couple months now. A coworker asked me in the breakroom while I was bent over getting something out of the fridge "are you trying to lose weight?" We work in different buildings but used to work in the same dept. He remembered me 20 lbs heavier. And had gotten a good view of my backside where all that weight was hanging. First person that noticed or at least said something about it18
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AlexandraFindsHerself1971 wrote: »Nobody told me that losing 50 pounds would be something I couldn't mention in public without being told that I was fatshaming people and triggering people. Um, you do you. This was my project this year, and for that matter, I'm STILL fat, so it's not like I'm lording it over anyone. But that's my project this year and I'll talk about it if people ask me what I did during the pandemic.
Oh yeah, some people are absolutely bonkers.
"I'm not your BEFORE" is one I've seen and heard several times. Yeah no kidding, lady, I'M my before, and I get to be not only unhappy about how MY life was previously, but I get to have goals for MY life and be proud when I reach them. You want to stay fat? You like it that way? Cool. You do you. I'm gonna find that hard to believe, based on my own experience, but I'm not gonna argue and tell you how you should feel about your own body. Crazy how that works.24
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