The Sober Squad- Alcohol Free Living
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I'm planning two sober, alcohol free celebrations. First one is just togetherness of family the day after I run the Marathon. Originally I was going to have chocolate wine for breakfast the next morning after the crazy run but I've since changed my mind on that to have all the doughnuts and coffee.
The second celebration will be my daughter's high school graduation and there will be no alcohol, just cookies and cake.
I don't even want it. I'll have a clear mind and a happy heart.
I think that is wise- stay sober in those celebrations. Especially your daughter's graduation- It will make for good memories for her.5 -
Up_n_Running wrote: »Serious drinking dreams over here 🙄
So glad to wake up & realise, it was just a dream.
Hope everyone has a great weekend! 💞
It's been a fabulous weekend for me. Just been enjoying our summer weather. Happy your dream was not real!5 -
I read this. My colleague at school says she cannot remember things, etc. She is a hot mess. And I know she drinks bottles of wine .... probably it's all linked. She also tried to talk me into believing I don't have a drinking problem, because I told her I quit drinking. "Ruby, you don't drink first thing in the morning, so you can't have a drinking problem....." Alcoholics need to drink first thing in the morning. I told her that's not really accurate. I am a binger. So, even though I could have a few days of not drinking, the moment I would drink it was most likely going to turn into a one- 1.5 bottle of wine binge.6 -
RubyRed427 wrote: »
I read this. My colleague at school says she cannot remember things, etc. She is a hot mess. And I know she drinks bottles of wine .... probably it's all linked. She also tried to talk me into believing I don't have a drinking problem, because I told her I quit drinking. "Ruby, you don't drink first thing in the morning, so you can't have a drinking problem....." Alcoholics need to drink first thing in the morning. I told her that's not really accurate. I am a binger. So, even though I could have a few days of not drinking, the moment I would drink it was most likely going to turn into a one- 1.5 bottle of wine binge.
Thanks for the article @JenT304. Another incentive to remain sober.
@RubyRed427 A part of your colleague being a "hot mess" could be related to past unresolved trauma, as could be her drinking issue....memory issues can be related to a seriously dysfunctional past. I know regular heavy drinkers who seem to have a really good recall of childhood and other memories, BUT I also think it could be because they tell the same stories OVER & over & over so they are etched in their brain. How could alcohol use not effect the brain especially heavy alcohol use. I know my memory is very sketchy, some due to trauma amnesia but I also believe that drinking & drugging has definitely taken it's toll on my grey/gray matter over the years. I began to smoke at 9 yrs, drink at 13 and smoke dope at 15. A brain isn't anywhere near fully developed at that point. I also have learned that I dissociate when I am overwhelmed and this was one of my favorite coping tools when I was a kid, so there are HUGE gaps in my memory...not only painful, but happy ones. Apparently, when our brain blocks painful stuff it also takes along with it memories before and after the painful event, so there are chunks of memories hidden somewhere, and not accessible until we are able to feel safe enough to recall...OK, our psychology lesson is now over LOL
ANYHOO, the count down is now officially ON!! 5 more days till my 3rd Sober-versary!! And while I know this has now become my new lifestyle, the old lifestyle is only one drink away! I am regularly grateful that I have been able to grow to LOVE sobriety and now I am seriously working on my health via making consistent healthier food choices and working to manage my stress level by healing my emotional bits & pieces that need some TLC. It is all a process and how I speak to myself is a vital part of that process....Rather than tell myself I "can't have" something, I tell myself "I choose not to have" I CAN have whatever I want, But I CHOOSE to have this healthier version. I've learned that "I can't have..." is attached to restriction vs "I choose not to have...." is attached to EMPOWERMENT....when we restrict the natural human tendency is to rebel against the restrictions...choosing has an entirely different feel, at least for me.
Happy, healthy week ahead to all of my sober and working-on-being sober friends in this group of wonderful, supportive lovelies (guys included ) My next post will be on May 29 with my health stats on my quit drinking app.
P.S. I L VE SPRING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!6 -
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Is anyone having difficulty getting access to the homepage? I can get access to the community but not to the homepage, food diary etc. I'll likely gain access before anyone sees this message. lol1
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Up_n_Running wrote: »80 days AF !
That means another 54 days until I am back at my personal best AF streak.
Let's do this 👆🙌😎
Bravo!! That is amazing! 80 days3 -
lorrainequiche59 wrote: »Is anyone having difficulty getting access to the homepage? I can get access to the community but not to the homepage, food diary etc. I'll likely gain access before anyone sees this message. lol
yes i did have trouble today0 -
This site is so slow. I cannot enter my food either. Underarmour owns it; Surely they can afford to beef up their system and website:(3
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RubyRed427 wrote: »
I read this. My colleague at school says she cannot remember things, etc. She is a hot mess. And I know she drinks bottles of wine .... probably it's all linked. She also tried to talk me into believing I don't have a drinking problem, because I told her I quit drinking. "Ruby, you don't drink first thing in the morning, so you can't have a drinking problem....." Alcoholics need to drink first thing in the morning. I told her that's not really accurate. I am a binger. So, even though I could have a few days of not drinking, the moment I would drink it was most likely going to turn into a one- 1.5 bottle of wine binge.
I decided that I wanted to at least cutback on my drinking, so I made a deal with myself that if I had work the next day then there was to be no drinking the day before. I certainly didn't miss the hangovers at work, but what took me by surprise was that it took less than two months to go from binge drinking every night to becoming completely teetotal...I never intended for that to happen, it just did. So I sat down and thought about all the potential triggers that could trip me up throughout the year, and came up with ways to either avoid those triggers completely, or at least be cognizant of them so they wouldn't take me by surprise.
I know we're all unique and our stressors are different, but if it gives anyone hope, my last drink was back in January 2016 and I've never looked back. Good luck everyone, just know it gets much easier over time.
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Up_n_Running wrote: »80 days AF !
That means another 54 days until I am back at my personal best AF streak.
Let's do this 👆🙌😎
Congratulations, one beautiful day at a time...5 -
I'm so proud of all of you! Everyone is doing so well. I woke up this morning feeling triggered by it being Memorial Day weekend. We are due to go to a party on Sunday. I'll be bringing my willpower as well as an appetizer. Is anyone else anxious about this weekend or 4th of July or other events that the old you would indulge at? Please share your coping tips. Thanks5
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I am off the wagon. In 3 months, one drink has led to almost back up to speed limit. I have had 3 hangovers during this time.
I am allowing myself the “last dance” of this holiday weekend, then dry again 06/01.
I really thought I could moderate..... how many times have we said/heard this?!?!?! I cannot. I must be 100% sober.
Ok... it’s out there and I feel better!11 -
Beka, thank you for your honesty. We've all been there. And thank you for the reminder for the pickles among us, there is no going back to being a cucumber. I cannot moderate either and am wildly jealous of those that can. We were at my mom's on Thursday for lunch and she had a bottle of wine on the counter that was about 2/3 full. I asked her how long that had been there and she said, "oh I don't know, maybe 2 weeks?" It was probably undrinkable at that point but still, I am not the kind of person that can open a bottle of wine, have one glass then leave it alone for 2 hours much less 2 weeks. Oh how I wish I was, but no, I'm not.
I'm feeling weak myself, as I stated in my above post. So much so in fact that I told my husband I would be giving him my credit cards to hold once 4 pm rolls around. I am not trusting myself today for some reason.
Peace to all and have a safe and happy weekend ~ Jen8 -
Today will be 8 days of no drinking for my husband. Last night I asked him what the numbers written on the refrigerator board were. He said "amount of days I haven't drank, amount of days I haven't smoked while our son was awake, amount of days I've stuck to my diet." I'm proud of him for all of it. He looks better, not bloated and tired, and he's nicer. Thank God for all of it.8
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Hi! This is my first post on this thread. Today I am 148 days AF. This evening we went to dinner with friends and ended up at a pub while we waited for a table at an adjacent restaurant. I'm so proud to say that I didn't drink! Part of me wanted to, but I didn't and I'm so happy tomorrow will be day 149 AF. I never thought I'd get to day 2 AF, but here I am.
Much love to you all. You can do this too!!9 -
Morning update....
Yesterday, I had one mixed drink before bed. I am really focusing mentally on 6/1 as the new DRY date. I am actually excited!!!!7 -
Good morning! Tips for going to parties/dinners:
1. Make sure you indulge on sweets or fine foods so you don't feel deprived.
2. Write down your goals before you leave. "I will be sober. I will feel so happy tomorrow."
3. Drink something besides water: maybe diet coke, Perrier with a splash of cranberry. Put it in a wine glass even.
4. Tell you significant other your plans... tell them so you can feel accountable to someone.
5. Plan a nice activity the next morning that you would not want to miss because you're hungover.6 -
I was listening to our DARE office who had a lesson on alcohol ; I teach 9 year olds.
He said 18,000 people die each year from alcohol alone.
He said a very very very small percentage of people get addicted to it.
"Oh, joy. I am one of those small percentage" I thought as I graded papers. Too bad but it is what it is.
I have been skipping events these past few months. Like last night was a retirement party for a few teachers; but they are all heavy drinkers, and I didnt want to go. So I didn't. Sometimes you really do have to look out for yourself. Sobriety is our priority.5 -
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