The Fight of my Life -Update WaistBasket
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Looking back a year ago, I too was suffering from debilitating arthritis in my knees. I couldn't walk without my cane and was slowly progressing towards a walker/wheel chair. My Orthopedic surgeon would not do any knee replacements unless I lost 100 lbs. On my next appointment 4/16/21, I had reached that goal. Did it happen overnight, absolutely not. I knew that I did not want to return back to the way I felt and looked. It took time, patience and learning to love myself to get where I am today. I still have 60 lbs. to lose (started at 319 lbs.) I have all the faith that you will be able to accomplish the same. I wish you continued success with your weight loss journey. You are worth every minute of reclaiming your life. Be proud of your accomplishments. The loss of 25 lbs. is a good start. Just think, you have gotten rid of 100 sticks of butter from your body.16
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Congrats on losing 25lbs! That is so amazing and something definitely worth celebrating.
I am concerned however at the anger you're expressing at yourself. Those feelings are certainly natural as you grieve for what you allowed yourself to become. But I would encourage you not to stay in this place of anger.
It's a waste of precious energy.
Instead, I'd strongly encourage you to focus on forgiving yourself. Yes, you may have made some bad decisions that put you in this place.
But as you're already proving - there's still time to right the ship and this is the not the end of your story.
Forgive past you for their mistakes and boldly embrace your future.
If you're having trouble letting go of this and fixating on what you feel you've done wrong in the past, it might be time to reach out to a supportive friend or a counselor.
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Thank you for posting this! 29 Days ago I was 354.6 and today I am 17 lbs. down. I log everything that goes into my mouth. I HATE logging, it makes me angry but I now have a really good idea of what I had been eating VS what I'm eating now.
For me each day is a new day with new challenges. Luckily I am not doing this alone, I have a buddy and we support and encourage each other with NO judgement.
I wish I could blink and be healthy but it took me quite a while to get to 354.6 and it will take quite a while to get to my first goal of 250. Be patient with yourself, be proud of yourself. This is a huge decision that you've made and look at all the support you're getting on MFP.
YOU GO GIRL !!!! Keep it up !!!!11 -
Many times, admitting you've screwed up in the past and need to change is the hardest thing to do. So, yes, accept what you did in the past, then move on from it. Leave that back in the past. You can never change what's gone before, but you can fix the future. Make sure the future you is that healthier, more active person you want her to be. And when you get an off day and go off the wagon (we all do at times), put that in the past too and get right back to doing what you know you need to.5
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Most folks want to lose as FAST as possible. But that can be a mistake. Diet stress is a real thing. Wish I had known and saved myself years of grief. There's a great deal of research that shows if you take a diet break periodically it will help reduce/eliminate this fatigue and make it easier once you reach your goal weight and live your life on a "maintenance" diet. From what I've read and come to know, every time you lose 10 % of your bodyweight, take one of these breaks that takes at least half as long as the 10% loss did. Eat at maintenance (little to no gain, no loss) and give yourself a break. When the break is over, recalculate what your next 10% goal is and give it another go. Repeat this process until you hit goal weight. Try it, it will result in a much better chance for KEEPING the weight off.8
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Can you confirm if you have always been overweight and/or obese? It might help you to think of this as a permanent life change, and I am sure that this is exactly how you sound, from the tone of your first post!1
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I started out on my life style change 4.5 years ago. Originally, I weighed 555lbs. It hurt to move, it hurt to lay down, it hurt to sit. There just were no comfortable positions. I applaud your success! You losing 25lbs is excellent. I *know* how hard it is. I still struggle sometimes because I am a control freak now about how much and what goes into my body. It has become a different type of obsession. However, my body now weighs 285lbs. Not my goal weight. I have been at a plateau for 6months. That has been discouraging, but I refuse to "just give up". I've been advised to stop the tight reign I have over every calorie and eat 2000 calories a day. (I was eating close to 1400 calories a day for most of those 4.5 years), in order to reset my metabolism again. I've worked so hard to get to where I am. I can walk a lot better. All honesty though, I have long term damage from carrying all that weight most of my life. Going today to see a doctor about my serious back pain. Anyway, I just want you to know that once you lose the initial part of your weight, it will become a struggle to see any movement downward. Don't get discouraged (easier said than done, I know). But it will be worth it to add years to your life. Your life can be beautiful again. And while I still don't feel awesome about myself, I am working on those things too by seeing a psychologist and a psychiatrist. I need this help too. A nutritionist is not a bad idea either, if you can afford it or if it's covered by health insurance. With these tools, your successes will be slow and steady and help you regain the abilities you lost by being homebound (like I was). Take care. You're important and you're unique and you bring the world to better places by being the best you that you can be. You can do this. Big hugs if you would like them.18
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Can you confirm if you have always been overweight and/or obese? It might help you to think of this as a permanent life change, and I am sure that this is exactly how you sound, from the tone of your first post!
I was a bit chubby as child, an overweight teenager, an overweight adult. Made it into the 200 in my 30's, and into the 300 in my 50's.2 -
What I take from this:
I can fix my future. I will not fail but struggle occasionally. I am not alone. I will have to adjust my goals after a while. I need to be patient. I need to read more and learn as I go. I am changing my life. I have to get to the roots of my overeating. A little bit of anger is healthy fuel, too much might be a problem.
What I feel is normal. Others have been there before.40 -
TheWaistBasket wrote: »What I take from this:
I can fix my future. I will not fail but struggle occasionally. I am not alone. I will have to adjust my goals after a while. I need to be patient. I need to read more and learn as I go. I am changing my life. I have to get to the roots of my overeating. A little bit of anger is healthy fuel, too much might be a problem.
What I feel is normal. Others have been there before.
That is it in a nutshell! You've got this!6 -
Very happy you are still on track and succeeding in your weight loss! Looking forward to many more posts about your successes.2
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TheWaistBasket wrote: »What I take from this:
I can fix my future. I will not fail but struggle occasionally. I am not alone. I will have to adjust my goals after a while. I need to be patient. I need to read more and learn as I go. I am changing my life. I have to get to the roots of my overeating. A little bit of anger is healthy fuel, too much might be a problem.
What I feel is normal. Others have been there before.
Distilled into learning sized bite. Yep! Now do it!3 -
25lbs is absolutely something to be proud of. Like you, I have a lot of weight to lose. I am 289 as of this morning (started at 295lbs) and some days I get super annoyed because it feels like I will never look like I used to 170lbs and size 10 jeans. But then I had to remind myself that I didn't put this weight on all in one week, month, or even year... so it is going to be the same with weight loss. Start slow in your exercise journey and remember that your personal progress is the only progress that matters. Be kind to yourself (I know how hard this can be) and try to remember that this WILL all be worth it in the long run. I have high BP and blood tests recently shown that I am prediabetic, so not only do I have weight goals that will help with how I feel about my body, but I have actual health goals, too. I look forward to the day that I am not dependent on medication to keep my BP controlled, I look forward to jogging on the treadmill rather than walking, and I really look forward to living a longer, healthier life.
Sorry for rambling lol. I want you to know that you are not alone in this journey and there are so many of us with similar stories that are here to support one another. Please feel free to add me as a friend. I would love to keep you company as we go through our individual journies.2 -
Great comments & advice in this post. @TheWaistBasket ...we are so proud of you!!2
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Be proud of wanting better for yourself, my friend. Now it is time to make that your priority and don't listen to that pizza when it says, eat me, you'll feel better... bc chances are you will feel worse. (Emotional Eater here, maybe some are not but cheese always LIES to me.) I am back up at a weight I cannot believe I see again on my scale. I am sick of dragging the extra with me. I like to MOVE. My job is hectic and I can feel every extra pound on my joints. We got this. I am in your corner should you need a nudge. I'm 48, my two sons are grown and I need to put ME in front now. Healthy me, whatever the number on the scale may be when I feel GOOD again.
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Wow! You have gotten a plethora of good info. How lucky we are to belong with such a supportive group👍. I am glad you are here, and a 25lb loss is a super start! We have got this...one step at a time😉3
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Hello, I'm right there with you. I started a couple of weeks ago at 322 and have lost some but obviously have a way to go. I'm frustrated and angry because I have lost down to onederland before from 350 and am back up again. I can only beat myself up for so long and it isn't working for me. The weight is wearing me down physically and I can either give up or fight back.
My dear friend got a cancer diagnosis about a month ago and doesn't have a lot of fight in her spirit initially. As I encouraged her to fight, I realized that I have just as serious an outcome if I don't fight. It's hard to keep motivated but looking to others for support make a huge difference along with all of the other steps you are taking.
If you haven't found it already, there is a community group called Larger Losers that I have started following as well. I haven't posted anything until now. Today I realized I was slipping backwards and knew I had to add another tool in the toolbox if you will.
Your last line in your first post said a lot....you're a little proud. That make me smile. Keep focusing on that spark of positive and pushing forward. Best to both of us!8 -
I came up with my own diet slogan. "Starve the hamster, feed the goddess." I have been eating like a hamster. In me, there is a thinner woman begging to be found. I have smothered her with food. She deserves better. I remember her, she was active. I need to find her and treat her like a goddess. I owe her. I am tired of eating like a hamster. My son had a hamster. We had to watch out for what we fed him. Hamsters are easily overfed. I became the hamster, nobody watched out. Now it's goddess time.
This tread and all the advice mean so much to me. It saved me from a food pity party yesterday. I am motivated and angry with the hamster I have become. It's hard, very hard. Every day is a struggle not to overeat but I am doing it.
Thank you to each one of you.23 -
I just wanted to commend you for signing up for that cooking class! I think it will pay off for you in so many ways, including:
You get to eat better quality food
You get to make food the way you like it
You may learn to enjoy new foods
You may learn about new ingredients, so grocery shopping is more fun and less daunting
You can save money
It can make socializing more fun (picnics, potlucks, having guests over for dinner, etc.)
You're building a skill for life
You're doing something creative
You might find the class fun
Your example can inspire others to learn cooking skills
You get to interact with other people who have some of the same goals you do
You can learn from others and they can learn from you
And probably lots more, too!
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I've been where you are and I am where you will be. Losing a lot of weight takes a long time. 28 months ago I started getting help for my weight. I was 566 lbs and waiting to die. I was housebound. I could stand 2 minutes. 6 months later I lost 30 pounds and started walking. My first walk took 4 1/2 minutes to walk 300 feet with 279 steps. I will always remember that. Then my body kicked in. I have lost 10-11 pounds a month since then. Today I weigh 301. I hated what I became and wouldn't look in the mirror. Now I love the way I look, saggy skin and all. You will get saggy skin. You will feel like a shar pei. You will like and hopefully love it because you have never worked so hard and determinedly to get it. You will still look back and hate what you were. Just know what you are now is not what you are trying to be and will be. Have a wonderful time on this downward journey you have embarked on. Do your walks, eat your food, and live for that person inside you are letting out.21
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