The Sober Squad- Alcohol Free Living
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Up_n_Running wrote: »Confession time 😬
I drank a bottle of wine on Saturday when we came back from our hike. I have felt so many mixed emotions about it, but I'm hesitant to make too massive a deal over it. Instead I'm going to use it as a learning opportunity and try to understand why I drank. It was definitely a FOMO (fear of missing out) that came over me. And the whole 'one day at a time' thing went completely out the window. I sat panicked thinking well, are you NEVER drinking again ? Wow. It all just sneaked up on me. In a way its not a shock. My partner and brother have had drink in the house, alcohol is literally everywhere you look right now being the summer and all the outdoor seating.
I'm still very proud of myself. 4 months and 2 weeks and I have had 1 drinking session. That's pretty awesome I think.
Hope everyone is well. 😊 so glad to have this thread to post on. It is a help for me.
Yes FOMO is a real feeling and I understand how you felt. Your AF record is awesome!4 -
Hi Ruby and you are welcome. You know I was just thinking, that my brother who is one year older than me, quit completely in 2004. December of 2004 only after he got his 3rd DUI. It cost him 7000 dollars for court cost, attorney, etc. The judge made him go to courses, group sessions with about 10 other people who were sentenced to the same , that he had to attend as well, which was part of his sentence. He told me that they had one man in this group, guess its like counselling sessions who had his kids show up , and beg their father to please stop drinking........it really hit home with my brother, said that it was heart wrenching to watch the children plead with their father to stop.....that hit home and he stopped drinking and smoking cigarettes and marijuana and its been 16 years and a some months.......he has no desire, as well, his health is phenomenal and he now is retired and does hospice work and meals on wheels....talk about a 180 change....but he is happy and again, he had some rough times, but its behind him....take care, good luck and I appreciate everyone's post, it really helps..........Lloyd
Thanks for the share. Sounds like your brother is also doing well!! It is so nice to have a relative/sibling who shares the same goals.5 -
❤ Thinking and sending hugs to my accountability Sisters ❤
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Hello I’m new here and am on day 1 AF. I couldn’t afford to go to a rehabilitation for detoxing and have decided to do it on my own. A little background about myself ….. about maybe 2-3 yrs ago I got back into drinking after 5 yrs of AF. It started off with a shot glass of wine then soon shot of liquor and then wine became my go to. I would say I drank pretty much daily half a bottle to a bottle of wine until it started to made me feel no good. I switched over to hard seltzer like Truly or White Claws and it was low in calories plus nothing like beer. For a bit I felt good til now. I was a social drinker that became a solo drinker. There’s always all kinds of excuse for me to have a drink. I’ve been waking up in the middle of the nights with a racing heart and sweaty feet and palms. Not sure if it was due to drinking but I kept telling myself I have to cut back. I joined MFP to stay fit but how is drinking helping any I asked myself. It’s really hard to just go cold turkey. I finally got put on bp med but still the heart is racing here and there. So now I’m on day 1 trying to not drink. I feel irritable and very uncomfortable. Not sure if it’s because of cutting it out. I hope to stay AF and not let it continue to take over my life. Thank you all for listening10
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@LilyFlowerMFP congratulations on day 1. And to your 5 AF years prior. If you did it that long before you can do it again. I used to get the racing heart too but it was only when I drank wine. One night I actually thought I was having a heart attack and made an appointment the next day for a stress test. Turned out there was nothing wrong. Try to keep yourself as busy as you can to keep from thinking about drinking. When I was on day 1 I took lots of baths. Kept busy doing things away from the refrigerator. I hope you continue and know that you'll get a lot of support here. 💖6
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To All ... Hello The struggle is real! I am still not drinking and no plans to do so BUTTTTTT, I am smoking MJ aka Pot or as my Grandson refers to it, "Devil's Weed" It is legal here in Canada so why the HECK not!! Actually, it is one of the things I really missed doing when I stopped doing EVERYTHING & anything that was deemed wrong due to my religious convictions way back when. Of course, moderation is key & dependency is real for my addictive personality!!! It's a different beast for me than alcohol is though. It was interesting when it became legal here a few years back, and I thought, "Go figure, my timing sucks."
It has been a month btw since I made my life-altering decision to get out from under my micro-managed life in the "cult of my choosing." It is such a freeing feeling hard to describe for those who have never fallen under the spell of controlling, manipulative, gas-lighting people/organization. It's a gradual, progressive process that messes with our minds and hearts....I am SO thankful I made this move. I feel like I have a new lease on life...SO Thankful
May everyone be kind to yourselves no matter what!!!!!!
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Welcome @LilyFlowerMFP. Your story is very interesting and shows how alcohol can have such a strong pull even after years. This is why I do not even take one drag off a cigarette. I would buy a pack immediately and I can't go back there. However, I have failed to achieve this with alcohol. Sigh.
Last night I got together with old college girlfriends. I was not planning on drinking...everyone but me was planning on spending the night. But at the last second I threw my pajamas into the car. At that moment I knew I would be drinking with them. As I expected, the alcohol was flowing. At one point, my friend's husband handed everyone a fireball shot. I took it in my hand but just had a sip. Regardless of me not doing shots, I am not patting myself on the back. I had way too much white wine and awoke sweating with a racing heart. Same old song and dance. We did have a good time and lots of laughs but honestly I would have enjoyed it more completely sober. I am mad at myself.
This week I will try to look at my sobriety as respecting my body. I am working on positive affirmations and do not want to beat myself up but still want to be accountable. It's a fine line for me.7 -
Last night was my going away party. It's sad to move away from my friends/family to a new country for the next 3-6 years but I did not have a drink and still had such a wonderful time.8
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Hi Friends,
It's been hard for me to stay consistent. Since I let alcohol in my life back in June, I have had a few days in a row sober and then a day or two of wine. Not overboard but enough to make sleep less good, make skin less clear, etc.
Also, the celebrations seem to always involve alcohol. So, I say to myself "why not?". And then the next day I say to myself "Why?". It's a tug of war. I am not giving up at all. I will get back on track. And the positive part is I have not had serious hangovers because I have not gone overboard like I used to last summer. I am learning.
I also went to therapy last week. She said something quite meaningful to me. She said that I seem to be searching for that rush, that excitement always even if it's not involving alcohol. She said you have to find things "to fill your cup " that do not involve risks. She said you are only as sick as your secrets. She believes I choose drama to force an issue that I am uncomfortable with. She said I need to do some soul searching and write down what i want.
Her words made an impact.
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Last night was my going away party. It's sad to move away from my friends/family to a new country for the next 3-6 years but I did not have a drink and still had such a wonderful time.
Good job- and this morning you had no regrets or hazy memory of the going away party. Best wishes on your new adventure. Sounds exciting!4 -
14. Stopping drinking DID change me for the better, but I found it hard to deal with being this different person. Again, change can be scary, the familiar will feel comforting.
@Up_n_Running I like all of your statements but especially this one. During Covid, there were no outside get togethers, so it was easier to just sit at home and not drink. I also changed from not drinking and found it difficult to just sit with my feelings.4 -
LilyFlowerMFP wrote: »Hello I’m new here and am on day 1 AF. I couldn’t afford to go to a rehabilitation for detoxing and have decided to do it on my own. A little background about myself ….. about maybe 2-3 yrs ago I got back into drinking after 5 yrs of AF. It started off with a shot glass of wine then soon shot of liquor and then wine became my go to. I would say I drank pretty much daily half a bottle to a bottle of wine until it started to made me feel no good. I switched over to hard seltzer like Truly or White Claws and it was low in calories plus nothing like beer. For a bit I felt good til now. I was a social drinker that became a solo drinker. There’s always all kinds of excuse for me to have a drink. I’ve been waking up in the middle of the nights with a racing heart and sweaty feet and palms. Not sure if it was due to drinking but I kept telling myself I have to cut back. I joined MFP to stay fit but how is drinking helping any I asked myself. It’s really hard to just go cold turkey. I finally got put on bp med but still the heart is racing here and there. So now I’m on day 1 trying to not drink. I feel irritable and very uncomfortable. Not sure if it’s because of cutting it out. I hope to stay AF and not let it continue to take over my life. Thank you all for listening
Cold Turkey is hard and you do have to be careful. The brain is use to drinking and that is its equilibrium. When we quit, our brain is probably confused and uncomfortable. One day at a time, that's all we can do.5 -
Good morning all AF friends!
I have been AF since December 25 2019. It's a decision I have taken heavily. In my youth I would drink a lot (as there was nothing better to do) yet since a year of changes in 2019 I feel I now have more respect for myself and don't want to drink alcohol again.
I tend to have awful symptoms afterward - racing heart, anxiety, sore skin, bad headache and feeling listless and no energy for 2-3 days afterward no matter what alcohol it was. I am so glad that no alcohol makes me feel so much happier in myself!
It is difficult not to drink with friends around, and due to the Pandemic I have not been out in social situations with friends for nearly as long as I have not been drinking. So, as socialisations happen later this year, I will face a new challenge in keeping on with juices and mocktails but with friends who are drinking around me. I don't feel this will be a difficult challenge but it will make my life different!
Just want to wish you all well whatever your choices are today, and hope that your day is good. It may be a long road in front of us but it will be a healthier and happier one!8 -
Good morning!
Today I feel pretty good. Day 4 AF and my face looks better / eyes clearer. What a difference a few days make.
@Up_n_Running REally cute gif!
@lozingitslowly Thanks for sharing!! It always helps!4 -
I too am feeling better since my crazy wine soaked weekend reunion with my old college pals. I agree with Ruby Red, what a difference a few days makes. Still not sleeping which is really pissing me off. At least I feel well enough to walk in the morning before the high 90's return during the days.4
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GOOD MORN I am uninstalling my Easy Quit Drinking app on my phone. I'm needing more space so I decided that I really do not "need" to have this on my phone any longer. I rarely consult it so there is no further purpose for it to be taking up room on my phone...SO, having said all of that, here are my current stats before they are no longer. $$ saved $8,272 Total Healthy 94.17% Drinks Passed 4,963.3 Time Sober 1158 days & 3 hours (3 yrs 2 months 1 day & 3 hrs) AND that's all folks...onward & upward with 3 more days off to enjoy in freedom!!
I seriously feel like I've just been released from prison after being in captivity for the past several years. WooHoo, I'm still in the honeymoon phase and am enjoying my new-found lease on life.
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lorrainequiche59 wrote: »GOOD MORN I am uninstalling my Easy Quit Drinking app on my phone. I'm needing more space so I decided that I really do not "need" to have this on my phone any longer. I rarely consult it so there is no further purpose for it to be taking up room on my phone...SO, having said all of that, here are my current stats before they are no longer. $$ saved $8,272 Total Healthy 94.17% Drinks Passed 4,963.3 Time Sober 1158 days & 3 hours (3 yrs 2 months 1 day & 3 hrs) AND that's all folks...onward & upward with 3 more days off to enjoy in freedom!!
I seriously feel like I've just been released from prison after being in captivity for the past several years. WooHoo, I'm still in the honeymoon phase and am enjoying my new-found lease on life.
I'm hoping everyone has a great weekend
An emotional prison is harmful - so yes, you are feeling elated. I'm happy for you! congrats on your amazing 1158 through it ALL. You are doing so well!3 -
Still sober for four days. Loving it. Feel so good. Sleep is not good but that's menopause's fault. Nothing beats mornings when you didn't drink the night before.7
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RubyRed427 wrote: »Still sober for four days. Loving it. Feel so good. Sleep is not good but that's menopause's fault. Nothing beats mornings when you didn't drink the night before.
I admire your determination to continue fighting for sobriety. When I made my life-changing decision recently I briefly thought, "25 YEARS of my life" but then my next thought was "Nothing is wasted if I learn the lessons" Your journey is helping you to know yourself in a much deeper way, and it WILL lead you to your goal in your own time and in your own way...You have always been an inspiration to me and I hope that you realize how true that is for many others in this group. No matter what, you keep on keepin' on AND being so supportive of the rest of us ~ thank you!!
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