Less Alcohol ~ MAY 2022 ~ One Day At A Time
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Wrapped up last week with a wee overage on the goals—currently there is a charity event that a lot of breweries around town participate in where you buy a $30 punch card and get one free pour at each participating brewery. We went to 2 on Monday but I managed to stick to only drinking 1/3 of each. It helps that beer is not my alcohol of choice, haha, so I’m happy just to get a taste and move on.
We are planning a brewery tour of some of the places that are a little further out with a bunch of friends this Saturday, but punch card and get one free pour at each participating brewery. We went to 2 on Monday but I managed to stick to only drinking 1/3 of each. It helps that beer is not my alcohol of choice, haha, so I’m happy just to get a taste and move on.
We are planning a brewery tour of some of the places that are a little further out with a bunch of friends this Saturday, but I’ll be going prepared with a repurposed 4oz mousse glass (thanks Costco) so I should be able to stick to 2-3 total drinks (depending on ABV) even if we end up going to all 6 places that are currently on the plan.2 -
I am Dawn.
I hit 19AF days for April.
Sticking with my goal of 16-20 AF days per month for May
Diary style.
Tuesday May 10 - AF - Quite a long day, after the restaurant I went and did a big reset for Foster Grant and got home quite late. I really felt like a couple of drinks, but did the 6 minute thing (only once) and that worked. Feeling leaner because of it.
Wednesday May 11 - 2 1/2 drinks. I worked in the morning before working at the restaurant and after that drove out of town for a job. Late night, I didn't even try to resist having a couple.
Rolling total: 7AF out of 11 days.3 -
Hey there.
Quick story. Yesterday I decided to sit on my deck in the sun and give my hands heat therapy. It was working and feeling great.
Husband asks if I want something cold out there to drink while on the deck. So I say yes, one of MY beers. He pours it in a glass and brings it out.
3 sips later I am not liking the world and getting a bad attitude. Then my scalp starts to crawl. G-darn it! I go inside and it was NOT one of my AF beers.
Here's the thing. I was getting pissy and angry for no good reason other than that beer was changing my mood into a sour one.
Not an experience I wanted at that moment. The day went down hill from there.
May 12
1A😡
11 AF
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@MissMay sorry to hear about your hands, hope they are feeling better. Amazing that you felt yourself feeling differently, and getting crabby, with three sips of beer! But that’s a good thing, since it didn’t take two or three bottles to notice the same issue.
@globalhiker i love the pictures. Something so magical about a turquoise glacial lake.
I’ve only had one AF day this week, and for the past three days have made an intentional beeline to the bottle of wine after work, not even trying to wait the six minutes. Last night I even said to myself “I want to get good and lit”, and then I was like “whoa, really? Slow down girl!”
My upper back has been hurting all week despite all my efforts to relieve pain. I probably slept wrong. Yes, folks, I have been known to hurt myself sleeping on more than one occasion! That plus PMS means I want all the pasta, all the alcohol, and none of the exercise. Yet I know I need to do the exact opposite. Come on, brain, get with the program! Help me out here!5 -
Good Morning. I was previously on here under the name GiveHerGrace and this group helped me to cut back on my alcohol consumption in the past. My last long stretch without any alcohol was Christmas day 2021 through the end of January 2022.
On March 8th my life was turned upside down when my husband of 32 years took his own life after a very short battle with depression. He was my rock, my soul mate, my best friend and the love of my life. He was very well liked by everyone, an accomplished businessman, highly respected in our community, and had everything to live for. The guilt of not being able to save him and believing I was not enough to make him want to stay will remain with me forever.
I have now turned back to daily drinking (2-3 drinks) and need to get it under control so I can honor what we had rather than trying to numb the memories. I'm not even sure what a realistic goal is at this point, but any day I don't drink is better than what I have been doing for the last 2 months. I will try and post daily to at least be accountable (whether I am successful in abstaining or not.)
I'm sorry for the heavy post this morning, but this group has always seemed so supportive of each other. Thank you for listening.8 -
@Breathe57103 I am so sorry for your loss, I don't have the words that could erase your pain only know you are not alone. What do you need from us? What can we do to help you heal? This AF family is amazing and here for all the support you need.
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@lmlmrn Thank you for the condolences. It is something that I never imagined I would go through and each day I am just trying to meet myself where I am. I know with time the raw grief will taper and I will develop a new normal. For now I just need to take one step at a time and get back to taking care of myself (less alcohol, better nutrition, and more exercise.)3
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@Breathe57103
So very very sorry. A depression spiral is beyond what anyone can do to help with.
I experienced something years ago with the most upbeat person that I ever knew. The spiral ended the same way. This was not even close to what you are going through because it was a friend, not a life partner.
Terrible.4 -
I am Dawn.
I hit 19AF days for April.
Sticking with my goal of 16-20 AF days per month for May
Diary style.
Tuesday May 10 - AF - Quite a long day, after the restaurant I went and did a big reset for Foster Grant and got home quite late. I really felt like a couple of drinks, but did the 6 minute thing (only once) and that worked. Feeling leaner because of it.
Wednesday May 11 - 2 1/2 drinks. I worked in the morning before working at the restaurant and after that drove out of town for a job. Late night, I didn't even try to resist having a couple.
Thursday May 12 - 2 drinks - Completely unplanned, I went for a hike with a young friend and then we went for drinks. I had planned to have drinks Friday and or Saturday, but will rethink that now.
Rolling total: 7AF out of 12 days.3 -
dawnbgethealthy wrote: »@Breathe57103
So very very sorry. A depression spiral is beyond what anyone can do to help with.
I experienced something years ago with the most upbeat person that I ever knew. The spiral ended the same way. This was not even close to what you are going through because it was a friend, not a life partner.
Terrible.
Thank you @dawnbgethealthy. It was hard to imagine how he spiraled so quickly and ended up taking his life. He had never suffered from depression before. They had him on 3 different depression/anxiety meds and they were making it worse rather than better. The doctors were planning to start tapering them the next day, but he didn't give us a chance to help him.6 -
@Breathe57103 so, so sorry to hear about your husband. Cannot imagine how hard it has been for you. Glad you have come back to this thread for support!
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At this point my goal is to just drink less than the daily drinking I have been doing for the last 2 months.
5/13 AF5 -
Breathe57103 wrote: »At this point my goal is to just drink less than the daily drinking I have been doing for the last 2 months.
5/13 AF
Dear @Breathe57103 my heartfelt condolences on the loss of your husband. You were always such a huge part of our LESS alcohol threads in the past under your other name @GiveHerGrace and of course we welcome you back with open arms.
However we can be supportive to you, we WILL. If you want to talk, listen or just lurk it is up to you.
I lost my brother(16 months older than me) 5 years ago. He took his own life while on what should have been a lovely 2 week vacation for him in the islands. I still have no closure to this date, on all the questions ~ WHY? WHY? WHY?
I am sure your husband loved you unconditionally and no matter how deep that love is, a persons own pain inside will always consume them. The inner thoughts of a person that takes their own life is they can't stand to see how their own issues are affecting their loved ones. And they try to lessen the pain by exiting our world.
Loving hugs💕
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May 13 days accountability:
1A (1 stupid glass of Moon Haze Pale Ale)
12AF
Scored 2 /12 packs of non alcoholic Run Wid last night from a pub that a beer distributor dropped off samples for the owner.
The owner saw me walk in last night and said "I have something for you to take home, because NO ONE is going to want to order these".
My lucky day.
Thank you non alcoholic beer Gods 😉5 -
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@Breathe57103 super big hugs for you....and I am so deeply sorry for your loss....we are glad you are back of course and are here to listen and support. I wish good things for you and will keep you in my prayers.
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Almost at end of week two and I've been AF every other day. Not great. My work-life balance is very off.
Today I've been reminded life is very precious and taking care of our spirit and soul and body every day is necessary. As strong as we know we are or make ourselves out to be, we are delicate by design. What we have today can be taken away in an instant.
Off I go for a hill walk, say hi to my neighbors, get some sun and listen to the morning songs of the neighborhood birds. I'm tuning out of work and tuning into life.4 -
I am Dawn.
I hit 19AF days for April.
Sticking with my goal of 16-20 AF days per month for May
Diary style.
Tuesday May 10 - AF - Quite a long day, after the restaurant I went and did a big reset for Foster Grant and got home quite late. I really felt like a couple of drinks, but did the 6 minute thing (only once) and that worked. Feeling leaner because of it.
Wednesday May 11 - 2 1/2 drinks. I worked in the morning before working at the restaurant and after that drove out of town for a job. Late night, I didn't even try to resist having a couple.
Thursday May 12 - 2 drinks - Completely unplanned, I went for a hike with a young friend and then we went for drinks. I had planned to have drinks Friday and or Saturday, but will rethink that now.
Friday May 13 - AF - I hadn't realized that it was Friday the 13th until now lol. I was exhausted, and felt like chilling out with a couple of drinks, but didn't because of the extra day of drinks this week. I might have drinks on Saturday. Going away next weekend for 3 days to the Blossom Festival in another town (Creston BC) but do not plan to have any drinks while there.
Rolling total: 8AF out of 13 days.1 -
I would like to join the group. I am trying to cut back to one or two drinks a day on weekdays for now. Hoping to get to one to two a week at some point.3
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@mimikatr welcome to the thread!
Yesterday we went to the credit union to start the paperwork in motion for a home equity loan...sorry ranting but the banking industry who has to satisfy the governments requirements...just too much. If anyone works in the industry I am sorry if I offend. But sheesh we have excellent credit, own the home outright, along with other real estate (all can be found through public record search) and you still want our tax returns originals and all pages for past two years, copies of our ID's etc. Mind you we have done business with this company for 15+ years, have multiple accounts and husbands business account is with them. Still shaking my head knowing they will take 2-3 weeks to approve.
Ok so what did we do, well Friday out for late lunch/early dinner and two beers. I feel good about my progress compared to a year ago. Last year at this time I struggled to keep the drinks to just a few days a week, now it does not feel like such a big deal. I never could before just drink two and be satisfied, now I can even walk away with liquid in the glass. Progress5
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