toning up- eat at deficit?

If you truly want to gain muscle then I would recommend eating in a slight surplus with roughly 1g/lb LBM as a min target for PRO.

I word it kind of dodgy like that because some people can "tone up" by eating at a deficit and lifting. They aren't gaining much (if any at all) LBM, but by losing the fat and lifting heavy, they look better.

Why don't you start where you are and if you don't see results, up your intake a little? I think I need to be increasing my intake to build some more lean muscle, but I still have about 8 lbs to lose, so that's currently my first priority.

If you don't want to lose weight then don't worry about a deficit, just start lifting/strength training. The muscle you gain is going to burn up any extra calories for you when you are at rest!

haha- I do the weights at the gym 3-4 times a week and target an area each time. Like Monday- arms and back. Weds- Legs and Friday- Ab work

my protein is low... I am working on it though. I get my protein through chicken and eggs or ground turkey. Right now I am at a 45-30-25- carb/protein/fat ratio. If I up my protein, what would my ratio look like?

I wouldn't be able to tell you without seeing it in grams. Based on your profile stats, I would aim for about 100g pro and 40g fat as a ballpark.

Are you adding weight over the course of time? (Getting stronger over weeks in the gym).

haha- I do the weights at the gym 3-4 times a week and target an area each time. Like Monday- arms and back. Weds- Legs and Friday- Ab work

Are you lifting heavy? I didn't see definition I was happy with until I started lifting heavy. Don't worry too much about getting big muscles. If they start getting bigger than you're happy with, you can stop and they will quickly disappear. It takes a lot of time and effort to get big & muscley for us girls.

I don't really lift too heavy I guess. I remember hearing that the last couple of reps should be really hard so that's what I shoot for if that makes sense?
If I do heavy weights should I do less reps?

This is probably one contributing factor. You absolutely should be lifting heavy.

You will get differing viewpoints on rep range. I would suggest somewhere in the neighborhood of 6-10 reps such that if you can successfully complete 10 reps, you are increasing the weight the next time you are in the gym. This increase in weight should drop your reps down by default, and you leave them there until you can complete 10. You should push yourself to get that extra rep each week, and over the course of time you will be adding weight.

Alright heavy weights will start tomorrow when I do arms! Thanks for the advice- I certainly need it.

You should still make some decisions about your dietary intake in addition to this-- but fixing the "not lifting heavy" part will be a key element regardless of whether you're bulking/cutting/maintaining.