Nervous to know but must ask the men...

IamKendall
IamKendall Posts: 21 Member
edited October 2024 in Motivation and Support
I've lost just over 40lbs since June. I'm almost halfway to my goal weight of 130lbs. My husband is supportive about the whole food part of this lifestyle. Here's my problem. I have an increased libido. He does NOT. In fact he seems to want me less. I find that I go to bed and he will stay up way later than me... almost as if he's waiting, knowing that I'll be alseep when he comes to bed. While I haven't made this change to my health for him, it would be nice if I didn't get the cold shoulder all the time. If I initiate, he will usually agree. I want him. I love him. BUT, I don't want to have to be the one every time...
People notice me now. Men flirt with me. I've been told several times that I look 10-15 years younger... I feel GREAT! But my man doesn't want me.
So my question is why?

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  • ScatteredThoughts
    ScatteredThoughts Posts: 3,562 Member
    How is your husband's weight and health? I wonder if it might be that you are getting to be in better shape than him, and perhaps he feels uncomfortable with his own body because of it.
  • IamKendall
    IamKendall Posts: 21 Member
    How is your husband's weight and health? I wonder if it might be that you are getting to be in better shape than him, and perhaps he feels uncomfortable with his own body because of it.

    He's not a skinny guy, and he's not in great shape, but I cook healthy meals for the entire family, and he has every opportunity to exercise either with me or on his own. He has lost some weight since I started the 'new me campaigne', but I know I can't force him.
    Actually, I just remembered that he said a few weeks ago that he thought I might be looking for a "younger model" and that maybe I'm considering trading him in for 2 twenty year olds... I was laughing with him when I said that I couldn't be bothered to 're-train' someone else, but maybe you're on to something... thanks.
  • Nicoleo1
    Nicoleo1 Posts: 159 Member
    Similar situation here... definately want to know!
  • Macrocarpa
    Macrocarpa Posts: 121 Member
    First off, well done on losing that much, you must feel fantastic!

    I agree with ATBinAZ - he may feel threatened that you're fitter and healthier and feel self-conscious about his own weight....really odd isn't it, guys should be delighted that their ladies are putting in all this effort to look good, and enjoying the benefits, but instead they worry about not being good enough anymore!
  • IamKendall
    IamKendall Posts: 21 Member
    Thanks to both of you ATBinAZ and Rowdiness. I can see what you mean, I just wish it weren't so. I wanted to feel sexier, and I wanted him to think that too... and I guess in a round about way (If your theories are correct) that may be so, but my still fragile ego (And that's all this is -ego) is taking a bit of a beating these days. I'll get over it... Happy New Year to you!
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