snowflake954 Member

Sounds like you're doing all the right things. Keep going and never give up! Best of luck.

Here we call it "casual elegance" and the Italians too, are able to pull it off. Someone might get the idea that I'm against leggings--far from it. I love a woman that can take the figure that she has and pull off a look that is enviable, no matter what she chooses to wear. Fat or thin or in between, I've seen women (and…

Awww Ann. Don't you remember when Vanderbuilt jeans came out? They were expensive and stylish and hugged your figure and completely changed the jeans look. I was a career woman at the time and loved them. I didn't wear them to the office (we had dress codes back then) but wore them everywhere else. Now, being "older" I…

Why not have one of you do premium and the other the free version. That way you can compare the two and one can scan products.

People in Rome wear leggings all the time. I do too. But I know when they're not appropriate. What do you wear to a wedding for instance? Are you going to wear the above? When my waistband digs in, I think maybe I should lose some weight--but that's just me. Almost all women have curves. That terminology means nothing.…

Here's hoping you get to the head of the line quickly. In the meantime, there are self-help books (other threads) and meditation or yoga can help. Just try a few things, and diet wise just make 1 small change--diet soda instead of regular, leaner meats, more vegetables, etc. That way you'll be moving in the right…

I've been on here a long time and have seen many posters that have your problem. Sometimes you have to cure the mental aspect to start losing. I advise therapy. You'll find many people on here have done it and then lost with success. Try it and see. I hate to see you just spinning your wheels.

Congratulations! Sounds like you're tenatious and that will see you through. Great loss! Everyone will ask how you did it, so when you have time, could you elaborate?

Not really because you can lose your job. There is a balance in all things.

I agree. I think there is a place for everything. One can be comfortable and look elegant. Here i live in Rome, a large city, and women and men know how to dress on the street. Once in a while, you see a sight from behind that is pretty awful. But, everyone has a right to present themselves in public as they see fit.

The OP posted Nov 2 and hasn't logged in since.

This might not help you, but when you lose weight you do lose it off your neck too (the outside). Measure your neck, start eating within your daily calorie goal, and continue to measure every week. When and if your throat stops feeling tight, then that would be the measure you need to stay at. This could be an interesting…

Carbs do not effect whether you lose weight or not. Your overall calories do. You don't give your stats, so don't know if 1200 cal a day is right for you. It is the lowest MFP will give a woman.

Yes, but do people ever listen to their children? It's eye-opening. Mine have very conservative values now that they are grown. After telling me how mean I was for years when I wouldn't let them do or have everything their friends did. I didn't say that the children should make the decision. However, believe me, they do…

You are eating the minimum MFP will allow for a woman. The OP is male and the minimum is 1500. I live in Italy where everyone eats carbs--they sure look healthy to me.

Do exercises above the waist. There are a lot that you can do without using your legs.

So glad everything is working for you. Great loss!

True--but at some point one could ask the children if they preferred a monogamous relationship for their parents.

What I have seen here (Italy) is that single is fine--until you get old and sick, especially without children. My husband saw so many people that are alone coming to him (his job includes estate planning) and had no one to care for them or leave their property to.

It can be very simple--get your MFP daily calorie goal, start weighing and measuring your food and drink, use a digital food scale, and stay within your goal everyday. This will be first and foremost. Don't worry about macros for now. Just get your logging down. You can think about protein, carbs, fats, and sugars later.…

In Italy they say "Meglio solo invece di mal accompaniato". Translated: "Better to be alone than in bad company". However, if you are able to find your soulmate to share the ups and downs of life, it's a win-win.

Yes. MFP is set up to have you eat your exercise calories. However, be careful of your exercise burn. Many times the calories given are inflated, so many eat back half--your example, 800 cal would be eat back 400. Try it for a few weeks. If you lose too fast (NOT a good idea) you can eat more back until you find your…

Nope--married 37 years and he's still chasing me around. We laugh a lot together. We also have our problems, but manage to work through them. With 3 grown sons and 2 small grandchildren we have a close family, so we're lucky. My married son and his wife also seem stable. Time will tell. I can't imagine cheating on my…

If you want muscle tone you need to do strength training--lifting heavy things.

I had the type of pain you're describing a few days ago. I have OA and if I overdo, I pay. What I did was take ibuprofen for a couple days and try to rest it (flat little pillow under my thigh when in bed). It went away in a couple of days. Hope you have the same luck.

Good. Everyone starts where they're at and improves gradually. We are never updated on what you've chosen to do and I was curious. I've been here for 10 years and have seen people go from obese to a normal weight by just starting walking. Sometimes, at first, it's just around their living room. From there, they slowly…

I think more women should have a mirror that shows their backside before they go out in public. Most just preen up the front, but ladies, what people are seeing walking behind you is sometimes not complimentary. And yes, people judge your look out on the street. If you don't care, that's your choice, but people are people.

My question to you would be this: "It's been a few weeks now. Have you taken any of the advice given? Have you made any progress so far?" If you say you need help, but swimming--no, walking--no, the gym--no, therapy--no...... What advice would YOU give a person like yourself? You have to make changes to make progress. It…

My first tip would be to forget about depending on friends to go with you to the gym--just go. Lower back pain means you need to watch your form and do exercises to strengthen your back muscles. Yoga can help with that. I recommend it. Swimming is also a good choice. Find an exercise or movement you like to do and do that.…

Why didn't your brother let you know?