HerNameIsMischief Member

I agree, this was a good post. I remember dating a 6'1" woman (prob. 200 lbs) who LOVED it when I spontaneously carried her into my apartment like a newlywed, though it was marred somewhat by her saying, "I've always wanted to date someone big enough to do that!" I wisely kept my mouth shut about my true feelings. There is…

I've lost 17 lbs in two or three weeks, assuming my scale at home will read the same as the scale where I am right now (flying home today). I did my best to eat only when hungry, but I think a lot of this rapid loss is because I've cut way, way back on my alcohol intake, which was getting ridiculous. I was drinking more…

15 so far. I turned off the notification...getting praise for merely coming here every day is a bit much for me.

I'm listening to my own voice. Nobody told me "being big is bad, you should hate it." It's just not "me". I feel like I look the opposite of who I am and I often get prejudged based on it. When I did date, women wouldn't read my profile and just looked at my pix and inferred that I was some big rugged blue-collar type who…

I don't think they're turned off. Maybe if I was 6'5" or above, women would say that's just too much. But just because they like it doesn't mean I do, and I don't like the image that comes with it, esp. when combined with being bald.

I want to be seen as average; I don't like people pointing out how "huge" I am. A lot of people here don't want to be seen as big and so they lose weight in part to try and kill those rude comments. (I'm reminded of an old gym ad showing a woman working out and the ad copy was "This is for my aunt who said I was 'just big…

Thanks to both of you for your help.

Yeah, and maybe if you had met him at your higher weight, he wouldn't have been attracted to you enough to want to get to know you/date you. Looks usually come first, especially now that most dating is done through websites or apps that allow people to "shop" through photos before reading profiles. And I don't blame people…

While I know it was meant as a compliment, when someone says something like that to me, it makes me feel awful.

Thank you. I did check Settings for my account, but that was only about resetting your goals. Your link let me alter what I showed to others. Is there a way to regulate what you get from others? I'd like to see friends' diaries, but don't really want daily updates about their completed days or weight loss.

While I haven't seen any fitness influencers (I barely use social media), I know what you mean about trying to look like someone you simply can't. The guys I think look good/would want to look like are like 5'9"-6' and slender. I'm 6'3" and broad shouldered. It's hard (but I suppose necessary) to revise your goals to look…

I prefer black licorice.

I told my fat cousin the other day that the two of us should start an online movement to take down the bodybuilding competitions for failing to promote a diverse range of body types. I told her with mock outrage that if we entered a BB contest, we'd get laughed at and told we're Just Not Good Enough. Then I told her that…

I just got a Versa 3. I thought that as long as it was on your wrist, it was reading/recording everything. Do you need to set it to record before exercising?

I just got a Fitbit Versa 3 and you can do everything you listed above (except the fitness goal part). The Versa came out last fall, so maybe you used the Versa 2. I've been setting it up and disabling some of the features like voice assist and phone/text. I agree, these phones are loaded with stuff I don't want or need. A…

What didn't you like about the Versa 3?

I'd like to add that just because I have responses/arguments to a lot of posts doesn't mean I'm blowing off all the advice here. I'm visiting family, but I fly home tonight and tomorrow I'm going to check my coverage and see what it gives me for mental health. The thing is, I don't want to like myself this way, and I don't…

I think it's ugly. Football players are big and bald. Professional wrestlers. Bikers. That's not who I am. It makes me feel horrible even if someone does find me attractive because it always confirms the things I hate about me..."yes, you are this big guy and everyone sees it and you can't get rid of it. And you'll be…

I hate it, even more so because everyone expects me to LIKE being seen this way. "Oh, you're being ridiculous, every guy wishes he were bigger." I feel so angry that other people here can lose a lot of weight and look different AND shut down the rude remarks they might get from people....but I'm going to get them forever…

I guess I have to at least preserve muscle...I certainly don't have a surplus right now. Every trainer tells me to stop wanting to be thin and to - ugh - "use your size to your advantage," meaning lift weights and concentrate on getting muscular instead. While that would certainly be a better look than what I have right…

I hated math as a kid, but now I do my taxes by hand on paper and then check them with a calculator. I have a friend who's pretty uneducated (dropped out of h.s. at 15 to have his first kid) and he's shocked that I can do math in my head. He'll call me up and say "I just got a job making 20 bucks an hour...how much is that…

Hearing the TV upstairs, playing "Liberty, Liberty, Liberty! Liberty Mutual!"

No booze today until now. A few times, I found myself wondering if I could go with my parents to the store and sneak-buy a bottle of hard stuff, but I don't want it now. Hadn't had anything for about 28 hours. I won't be drinking tomorrow because I'll be with family until my flight. I'll only have an hour stop in O'Hare,…

I have to lose weight to date because I hate how I look right now and don't want to date someone who finds me attractive this way. It makes me feel bad if they do because they like the things I hate, i.e., my size. Losing weight will make me more attractive to a broader range of women. At the moment, most of the women who…

I remember the six meals a day was what Body for Life suggested. I figured a large part of it was to sell their shakes and bars since most people can't make six meals each day. I've heard, like Suzy said above, that it doesn't matter if you have one meal or six if your calorie count is right. I prefer to have one or two…

I'm the same as you. I almost never eat out of hunger. I eat because I'm bored, because I like the taste, because I like to cook, and I also sometimes have feelings that I have to finish everything (the Clean Plate Club). I'm also fat because until recently, I was drinking at least as many calories as I was eating. But…

I know I have to do something for life, not just a temporary diet. I've heard that since I'm so overweight, I could lose as much as 5 lbs a week at first. I also have been drinking over 2000 calories a day, so cutting that out should, at first, help a lot. I don't really have any health goals. I don't care if I can run a…

The Fisher King with Jeff Bridges and Robin Williams, directed by Terry Gilliam. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lASPrnWf6cA