kcd1961 Member

It depends if this is a one-off, or is it indicative of a long-term pattern of controlling and possibly abusive behaviour? If it's one-off, it's probably just parental concern and a bit of shame expressed badly, if it's a pattern...then that is another, rather complex ball game.

I set at maintenance, record fast days as is, and get the lecture. Adding spurious calories to stop the message is counterproductive and makes the Net Calorie graphs useless.

I have no problem with exercising on fast days. In fact I usually feel better and more energetic on fast days. Do it and see how it works out.

5'7", 103kg to 83.6 over 18 months (including a 12 month plateau before I started logging.

By all means try different things to see if it helps with the hunger, but it may be that hunger (or some other similar sensation that is not really hunger - maybe anxiety or boredom) is your lifelong companion and maybe you need to make peace with it and learn to accept it as part of your journey. Time will tell. In the…

On a different note, I attended a professional networking meeting last night, and about 6 out of the 10 people there, mostly women around 40-50 were successfully engaged in weight loss "programs". All had been making progress for 6 months to 2+ years. All were counsellors/psychologists - so they should be ahead of the game…

Unbelievable - especially with FM in the mix. But it shows it can be done. (I'm doing the same having ME). Well done.

I feel angry, frustrated and impatient from time to time. You are allowed to have whatever feelings and thoughts show up. There's nothing you can do to stop them showing up. All you can do is deal with them once they are already there. You don't have to get rid of them - they will leave in their own good time. As they say…

I did 4:3 for a year after 5:2 stopped working, but 4:3 stopped working too - I think you can guess what was happening. Since I started tracking, 5:2 works fine. I can understand wanting to lose more quickly, but I decided I like my food more :smile: But whatever works.

Use the recipe function. Unfortunately you cant set a per gram calculation, so include the "normal" serving size in the name i.e. Seafood Pasta "140g" It helps if you weigh the final container before you cook, then weigh the lot after and subtract the container weight. That will get you in the ball park.

Then it sounds like the place start is getting some help with handling the thoughts. If you can get a handle on that, the drinking will be less compulsive. That opens the way for more consistent eating. I'm wondering why you view yourself as pathetic and whether seeing yourself that way helps.

Why do you want to eat less? I'm a bit perplexed as to why someone would choose thin and pathetic over fat and living a great life? (i.e. not being pathetic).

It depends on the activity setting. If you choose sedentary, then log any extra activity beyond a sedentary lifestyle. If you choose Lightly Active, or Active, then it's a different kettle of fish. Also many people choose to eat back only a portion of their exercise calories (I eat half). It's a trial and error process, so…

On fast days, I have a home made cappuccino in the morning (100 cal), 200 for lunch and the remainder for dinner/supper. At first I used Country Garden soups, and no added sugar ice cream with berries as a dessert. I actually use ice cream a lot. The right soft serves are about 150-200 calories and make a great lunch…

Welcome - happy to offer whatever support I can. I would recommend separating the fast days as well. I personally found the first couple of weeks REALLY hard. But I can handle it much better now. But hey - if it works, do it. But if it's too hard, don't toss it in - try separating the days and get used to living with…

It's just a message, it won't break anything or send an alert to the National Diet Police. I log my fast days (sometimes the Nett is negative) - I'm still here.

I got stuck on a plateau for 12 months - and eventually realised I needed to track, as painful as that is. So I guess the choice is between two lots of misery. One is the misery of being overweight or the other is the misery of having to manage your behaviour. Or you could simply accept yourself the way you are. The blue…

Welcome, there are several things worth reading here to help you develop a plan. Can I suggest http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/1080242/a-guide-to-get-you-started-on-your-path-to-sexypants and http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10040368/some-thoughts-on-starting-over If you need some support or…

Sounds to me like you're overthinking it. Anything is better than nothing. I may be wrong, but it seems like you experience high levels of anxiety? If so, it may help to address that too.

That is sooooo well done - especially to keep tracking all that time.

There's no such thing as a cheat meal :smile: I just fit it into my plan - but I include more soft serve ice cream than most dieticians would approve.

Guess as best you can. Unless they specifically say otherwise, they will usually be generous with oil/butter. Pick meals that are easier to guess, and if they serve huge portions, don't be afraid to offload some before you start. You will get more accurate over time as you weigh your own portions.

Do tell us more :wink: Welcome.

Welcome back. Here's something I hope may help you "Starting Overs" http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10040368/some-thoughts-on-starting-over

Here's something I wrote recently on this: http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10040368/some-thoughts-on-starting-over

Glad to see I'm not not the only one who feels a little uneasy if I break the routine (even though my experience shows me that it all works out when I get back on track).

You're overthinking it. Deal with the plateau when it comes - if it comes at all.

The evidence is clear - support helps. Feel free to add me if you want support and no "tough love".

Did my workout at the beach here in Australia, but your backyard looks awesome.

Fabulous effort. BTW - Who are "they" (who keep bringing nasties into the house).