Larissa_NY Member

Dang, is it Friday again already? Look, sometimes telling people to just stop being ridiculous is more helpful in the long run than enabling their self-pity. If you're an enabler, fine, you do you, but I'm pretty sure I wouldn't want to be around you either. Enablers usually have a vested interest in seeing other people…

Damn. I was going to call troll when there seemed to be literally no pop-culture reference the OP understood, but I decided not to. I totally should have.

What do you want, someone to hold your hair? 'Cause I'm not doing that unless you and I met in a bar bathroom wearing the same skirt and did the instant-drunk-girl-bonding thing.

Here you go: Planks.

If you want to let your "natural body system" guide you, fine, but that means you have to let go of whatever emotional issues you have about feeling hungry. You ate 1400 calories for breakfast, with an enormous volume of food. Nobody physically needs to eat that much. Being hungry is not some terrible thing. It's just…

You'll probably get more answers if you title your post with something that's related to its content, rather than with your name. If you look at the board, you'll see that that's what everyone else does.

It's your period, not a death in the family. You shouldn't need "comforting." I get horrible cramps and mood swings, and I don't love them either, but that's life. It's not unfair, it's not "mean," it's not suffering, and unless you have one of a few specific and diagnosed medical conditions, it's nothing special. Women…

Same. I could go for a good authentic batch of pub fish and chips, though.

God, this is so annoying to me. I have almost no fat distribution between my breasts and my collarbone, or something, so you can see every bone in my chest from halfway across the gym while my hips are still storing fat for the winter.

Yeah, I'm not sure why this isn't self-evident. It takes a lot of energy to maintain 60 extra pounds. Imagine walking around with a 60-pound weight vest on 24/7 - I'd lose weight like I had a tapeworm, because my normal calorie intake just wouldn't support that kind of effort. According to the IIFYM TDEE calculator, for a…

I vote boxing workout and THEN cake and rum, while celebrating your awesome luck in finding out what a dirtbag he is and not wasting another minute of your life on him.

This is the internet. Everyone on the internet benches 400 pounds. It's a rule.

How do you motivate yourself to pay bills, or brush your teeth, or go grocery shopping? Do that. The last time I checked none of those things were particularly fun, but nobody gets let off the hook for being a voting adult who can't get motivated to brush their teeth or thinks paying bills is too much of a hassle.

How is that unfair? Look, restricting your calories now is the price you're paying for having eaten in a way that made you 60 pounds overweight in the first place. That kind of food intake doesn't come for free. You had the fun, now you're paying the credit card bill. Being mad at the people who can afford to splurge every…

Ah yes, the "If it makes a fat person sweat it must be cardio" rule. People will defend that nonsense to the death. Absolutely no one is fooled except the people logging it. After a while you just start being amused by the bizarre things people want to reward themselves with MOAR FOOD for doing.

This is good advice. Start by moving your hands out farther on the bar. Also, understand that lifting involves moving heavy things, and moving heavy things is difficult and uncomfortable. You shouldn't be in actual pain, but if you want to lift, you will have to learn to suck up transient discomfort. I have no idea what…

Are you losing weight? If not, eat less, exercise more, or both. If so, keep doing what you're doing and don't worry about it.

In b4 OP gets ten years older, finds this thread again, and travels back in time to curb-stomp his 19-year-old self for being such a dumbass.

10/10 would do a latte detox. It would cleanse my body of demons and bring me closer to unity with the Infinite.

In my head, you are going to stay with him until the day you hit 135. Then you're going to call him into the bathroom, show him the number on the scale, then be all "LOL BYE *kitten*" and zoom away in a red Porsche convertible with a hot muscly personal trainer, never to return. If this isn't your plan, please don't…

You're going to have to stop depending on motivation, then, since you say you can't maintain it under realistic circumstances. Try habit and discipline instead.

You can go a long way on body weight exercises, but look into kettlebells too. They're all sorts of fun. And it is very difficult to build muscle in a deficit, but you can build a whole lot of strength, which is not quite the same thing.

Yeah, this is some nonsense. I also don't see any indication in the article that they actually talked to, you know, women who watch these videos, or assessed their self-image before and after watching them, or did any sort of data-driven evaluation whatsoever. This literally was a male researcher sitting around watching…

The funny thing about horrifying backward misogyny is that it does tend to obscure whatever point you thought you were making. It's sort of like standing up at a party, letting out a long, enormous, foul-smelling belch, and then going "Oh, did anyone notice it's raining," and then complaining because people are staring at…

I've never worked with a spotter. I've always just lifted in a rack with safeties. Lifting is not a group activity, in my opinion. Even if that's not available for some reason, the truth is that you won't be lifting heavy enough to do yourself much damage at first unless you drop the bar right on your neck. Google "roll of…

Overall fat percentage and so forth, but body weight exercises can do a whole lot for the look of your arms. Specifically, push-ups and pull-ups. Even the process of working your way up to being able to do one will do wonders for muscle building. Don't get sucked into doing thirty reps with tiny little weights. That's a…

Well, here's one attempt at a tip, and I'm not sure how it will work but give it a shot. Stop it with the "food will go to waste" thing. This is a personal pet peeve of mine because the only people I ever see worry about food going to waste are people who use that as an excuse to eat more food than they know they should.…

What in god's name did I just read in the year 2016.

I'm not going to lie, I do favor the small nation in Europe. For what it's worth, I know how you feel. My mother straight-up ate herself to death. She wasn't a stupid woman, but she was a prideful and angry one; she let magazines and "fat-positive" groups convince her that there was nothing unhealthy about being so obese…

Only because I don't have an hour and a half to spend in the gym every morning anymore.