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Yes, well put. I can't live my life believing and following every tip anyone has ever given me. I'd never leave my house. Or let anyone in.

I would talk to HR to be honest. If you feel comfortable doing that. I doubt either of them would have guessed that you gained weight due to depression but mental health is a very sensitive area. You may be mentally recovered but what if the same thing happens to someone who isn't? It's inappropriate and horribly rude in…

If he's sneaking food and stealing food, I would be asking him why he feels the need to do that. There could be an emotional problem here. We mostly think of young girls and eating disorders but it can happen to young boys too. Using food to cover up your feelings is a very easy route to go down and we already know that…

See I'm not convinced they do make you any safer. At least not the tips specifically given to women. The ponytail thing, the pepper spray, having your partner track you on the internet, run with your keys between your fingers, carry a rape alarm but scream fire instead of rape so someone actually helps, fight back, don't…

One good thing I appreciate about keeping a food log is that it makes it easier to tell if I'm probably just bored or if my body actually needs something. At 9pm on a Friday when I've eaten my normal amount of calories, that little rumble in my tummy is veeerrry unlikely to be an honest one. But if it's 9pm and I've only…

I'll take sensible precautions against traffic etc. (I run mostly in a park) and I won't go out when it's pitch black just because I like to see where I'm going but I don't take any particular precautions running as a woman. I run alone, with headphones, no weapons (can't believe people actually do this), nobody tracking…

Well I would argue that it is often sexual. Or pseudo-sexual anyway. But that's another issue really and like I said, these things are never applied equally between male and female presenting people. My point is that I want jobs to be about ability and competence. Conventionally attractive people aren't actually smarter or…

That's the number I chose in my original post, which was the one responded to. If it's just losing weight for a self esteem boost that's kinda the definition of vanity weight, so 20lb seemed appropriate. I suppose choosing not to date/ pursue a person who's additional weight has possible health complications attached to it…

My issues with this are a) will the business actually see a benefit or is the idea that fit, conventionally attractive people are smarter/ more capable/ more trustworthy etc just so deeply embedded in our social consciousness that nobody even thinks to question it? I think it's the latter. And b) this standard is almost…

We're not talking obese. But anyway, I would be looking at what preconceptions I had about what I thought "slimmer" people had that went away as soon as they gain some body fat. It's more that the mindset "if only I lost 20lb he would like me/ I would he happier/ I would be confident" etc etc etc is toxic af and stops…

I got from 150-110lb with no exercise at all but at the end I still looked soft and flabby. Diet for weight loss, exercise for body composition.

Making the assumption that you are a heterosexual lady: the man that wouldn't hit on you now but would hit on you 20lb lighter is giving you a huge hint he's a garbage person. That would also go for other genders sexualities I suppose. Do it because it makes you feel good. If it doesn't make you feel good then don't do it.…

Unless you've eaten 7200kcal over maintenance you can be safe in the knowledge it's not an increase in fat. It's just more water in your body, could be from extra exercise, unusually high levels of carbs, more sodium, alcohol, the cycle of the moon (only mostly a joke, monthly ladytimes will mess you up too), stress,…

VAT rates are different for alcohol, cigarettes, fresh food, cold prepared food, cooked food, food sold in shops, canteens, schools, vending machines, even biscuits and cakes have different tax rates. "Essentials" are already taxed at a lower rate than "luxuries". So while "harm" might not be a VAT thing how we apply taxes…

You're not failing at anything, you're just unwell. Depression makes your brain tell you lies, that you're a failure, that you will feel this way forever, that you're just not good enough. All lies. Nobody binges until it hurts because they enjoy it or love food too much, it's because you're hurting already and that's an…

Warm oatmeal does make me sleepy, in a cosy, warm kind of way. But it's always done that. If this is a new development with no changes to your routine otherwise I would be looking elsewhere for the issue first. My first thought would be if you've recently reduced your calories the night before? I find that if I wake up…

Can I get this in cross-stitch for my wall please. That's one thing I appreciate most about this forum. There's always somebody who's been there. You've made a really valuable discovery about yourself and I think you should be proud of that :smile:

I really don't think you're understanding me here. I did not call the OP or her post stupid. My post had a link to the https://blog.myfitnesspal.com/ which (in my opinion) sometimes posts some silly things but this time it was actually fairly spot on for what the OP needed help with. If you have a problem with how I argued…

Yes that's the "official line". We all know what that means in reality.

@88olds Are you offended on behalf of the MFP blog writers or have you misunderstood my comment? The MFP blog is frequently stupid and clickbaity, the article I have linked is not. It addresses the OP's problem pretty nicely.

Hmmmm, no. Spanx are marketed as making you look thinner, that's where you're supposed to get your "confidence" boost from (blegh). Why do you need to look thinner for your job? For customers? Are you being used as decoration as well as functional employees? For me it falls under the same scope as making women wear heels…

For once the MFP blog has a timely and not completely stupid entry. Weight training, especially if it's new to you, will cause water retention as your body gets used to the new stimulus and recovers. Doesn't matter if you're sore or not. So long as you're tracking accurately, and not eating back a hugely inflated number of…

That source also says that fructose is only converted to fatty acids when the liver has no further need for glycogen, i.e the calories from the fructose are excess. It is metabolised differently but nowhere in either that "gardentoplate" article or the wikipedia article does it say that this is something that should be…

If you don't have any citations for the liver turning sugar directly into fat, can you at least share where you got that idea from?

I actually read a stupidly-in depth article on this one day. How some official bodies interpret calories are slightly different and account for the thermic affect of food/ how much energy can be metabolised slightly differently. But by and large the calorie label on a food will be related to how much of it you can actually…

Nothing in that wiki supports the liver turning "sugar" directly into fat and treating other nutrients differently. In fact: "In a meta-analysis of clinical trials with controlled feeding — where test subjects were fed a fixed amount of energy rather than being allowed to choose the amount they ate — fructose was not an…

Did you/ are you going to tell your therapist that you weighed yourself and that triggered a binge? I am not working with a therapist but I am in a similar place, also taking the "no diets" approach to try and get my binge eating under control. I weighed myself on Friday and that was enough to me into a spiral the exact…

Why 113? Why is it a failure not to be at that weight? Who is setting you this task, which is clearly a miserable one? You could cut off your arm to get there, would that make you happy? Of course not. Because it's not really about the weight. It's about feeling like you're in control by shrinking yourself, that's an…

"Starvation mode" is not a thing, eating too little will not stop you losing body fat. Eating too little will possibly make you tired and miserable and less inclined to be active (as a way to reduce calorie expenditure, very minimal) but it will not stop you losing bodyfat. I don't know who told you that about the liver…

I agree, ask your doctor about your weight gain. You need to eat to grow that little bub so weightloss might not be a good priority for you right now but gaining too much weight can cause issues too. And ask about help if you're feeling overwhelmed, you don't need to handle all this by yourself. You have more important…