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I don't think it's unreasonable to ask him to put away his leftovers so they're not lying around. Less because they might tempt you, but that's just good manners? Willpower is like a muscle, and I know losing weight is overall less about willpower and more about habits, but in the moment when there's a donut right there,…

Absolutely agree with you! I've regained about 15lb fairly quickly (mental health issues, binging etc) and when it was only 5lb I was panicking, working out how long it would take to get it off again. I had spreadsheets with daily deficits, how much I could burn through exercise trying to get that date closer and closer. I…

I hope most people would know to take the advice from a free open forum with a grain of salt. And none of us are being paid for it (unless I missed a memo). Trainers are expensive and if you're paying someone money under the assumption that this person knows what they're talking about better than the Average Joe then they…

Hmmmm, I would think about it. Why would he be guilting you? Is his job not to be supportive and helpful? If a trainer isn't motivating you or providing expert information, what's the point of him? I would also be asking this question asap. I'm shorter and lighter than you and unless I am completely sedentary 1200kcal…

When people say this I like to ask why. They usually have no idea.

I gained a little bit when I quit my retail job and got stuck at a desk doing a PhD. What really screwed me tho was the stress, I have anxiety issues at the best of times and with not liking the project, feeling constantly out of my depth, not getting on with my supervisors, getting further and further behind, I started…

I have problems with anxiety too. Negative body image and negative thoughts just goes along with it sometimes. That seems like the real issue, not that you can't stick to a diet. Anxiety and depression can make you not want to actually help yourself, it makes a weightloss journey feel like a punishment for not being strong…

I would also like to know the answer to this. Bear in mind when I say what I’m about to say that I read a whole bunch of relationship threads on other forums, a lot of what you’re saying and how you’re reacting to the advice you’re getting is ringing many many bells, but of course I could be off base. Do you have female…

Yesssssss, I love shakshouka. It's the perfect brunch, or a perfect hangover breakfast and you know what, it sounds good for dinner tonight too! I make chickpea flour flatbreads with mine, just chickpea flour, baking powder, seasoning and water cooked like a pancake and if you put the same spices in the bread as you do the…

I need to see an ingredients list for this, is there even room for any flour in there or is it all just butter and cream cheese held together by sheer force of will.

Exactly. As someone who has tried a lot of fat free/ sugar free baking, the lighter and airier a cake the more worried I am about the calorie content. In my experience a healthy cake is a sad cake.

Categorising humans based on wolf pack behaviour. Categorising wolf behaviour based on observations of small captive populations which don't reflect natural social dynamics at all. It's nonsense all the way down!

I know you say you don't know what it is that's caused you to feel like you don't care about your health but it's really important that you do some self examination here. Something has changed, beyond just "got a bf now" and unless you figure out what has changed in your emotional state you won't really know how to fix it.…

Worst case scenario: If he opens his mouth with any negativity about you, his new gf will get a lovely insight into how he will be speaking to/about her when the honeymoon period is over. Let the trash-leopard show her his real spots >:) You're gonna look fab no matter what you wear. The best thing for any woman to have on…

Similar to the cast iron pan, why not try a cute iron fish?

Well no, you started by saying that being a bad person doesn't mean you can't be good at your job and that he was maybe not an inherent threat to society. My point was that your behaviour can absolutely affect whether or not it is appropriate that you be allowed to continue in your job. And that yes, he is a threat to…

A grope and a rape are never treated equally. Not by anyone, not by any justice system in any country. That’s not your opinion, that’s facts. If you are downplaying what he did do with “well it’s not like he raped anyone” that is... wow. What he actually did do is violate multiple women’s personal space, made them feel…

I picked hate speech because its a crime where there is still a victim (or a group of victims) and the behaviour is disgusting. I don't know if you're intending to try and downplay the seriousness of sexual assault by comparing it to speeding instead but you're at risk of sounding like you are. If you drink drive or speed…

Okay??? Pick another thing that is an American Crime to fit my example then if you can't work your mind around it.

That depends where in the world you are. In the UK (where I am) it is a criminal offense.

How would I be bringing the company into disrepute if the company is unaffected??? The point I was making is that people do, and sometimes should, lose their jobs and income for much much smaller things than repeated sexual assault. But to go with that point anyway, if I do not make it known anywhere that I work for my…

If I bring my company into disrepute by my actions I lose my job. That could be as small as posting the wrong thing on social media. If I sexually assault another engineer at a conference it doesn't mean I can't design things, but I should both lose my job and possibly be arrested. If you can't do your job without…

If the work is worth doing (and there is money to be made) then someone else will step in to the gap and do it. Maybe even someone who spends more time working and less time assaulting people! That's the nature of research (and capitalism). I don't think Aragon, or anyone, is the fitness-Einstein who we can't possibly…

You might be rationally sick of living the way you're living right now but it is comfortable and known to you. It's very very hard to step out of ingrained habits, especially if you try and go full lifestyle change all at once. You have a lifestyle now that isn't perfect for whatever reasons but it doesn't need to be…

One of the reasons people who use the gym frequently still can't lose weight is that although both cardio and strength training are very good for your body they can increase your appetite to the point where (if you aren't keeping track of calories consumed) they end up eating more than they burned. Or the old "I worked…

I can relate to this too. I was used to overeating when sad or anxious, the first time it happened when I was having a really good day was a very unwelcome surprise. But food is used culturally both for comfort and for celebration so it's not too outlandish an idea.

I am 158cm and 52kg (atm but was 48kg) and exercise on 1200kcal is murder. I can cope okay for a while usually then I start getting tired all the time, lifts start to suffer, I'm way more sore after a workout, depression symptoms flare up etc. and I'm likely to have a binge episode. Plus back when I ran more than I lifted…

I also have this one, can highly recommend! Yeah my salads end up a bit compressed with the amount I shove into a reasonably sized lunchbox! The box has to fit in my work/ gym bag tho so it's quantity over quality sometimes!

Cereal. Specifically Crunchy Nut Cornflakes. Yesterday was the third time I had convinced myself I could buy them and eat them in moderation, then wolfed down three bowls one after the other and ended up tipping the rest in the compost bin because, yeah I cannot moderate that stuff.

If your body is trying to heal from an injury you will possibly be retaining more water which can mask fat loss. Once you get up and about again you might see a sudden difference in the scale. Apart from that though, when you're trying to heal the last thing your body needs is a more aggressive deficit and 1200 is pretty…