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I hope you didn't think my suggestion was snarky. I feel for @BV1980 and I guess I worded my self a bit clumsily. But even with all the barriers, for him to see himself as he describes suggests there is something seriously amiss with his interpersonal interactions. If I were to look at his situation as a business issue I'd…
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Yes. But I'm still re-learning after these years. It's not that I'll never learn, more like there's a sell-by date on each lesson.
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Everything old is new again.
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You ignored this feedback. Which is a shame. When you take on this responsibility for him, you also become responsible for his successes and failures. Which is not to say he needs to do the actual cooking. That may or may not be reasonable. But he could just as easily have posted here himself. And he could get online to to…
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Have you considered a life coach? For somebody to be as unlovable as you describe yourself there must be something seriously wrong that you're not seeing. A life coach should be able to help you figure this out and figure out a way to remedy the situation.
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Actually, I think you should do something with the money. A children's hospital is as good a place as any to repurpose the money, though there are many other good options. That you have been able to make a huge difference in the lives of others may give you a tremendous sense of accomplishment. And, frankly, if you do meet…
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I used to eat pretty much anything. Getting past that was a challenge because it was a behavior rooted in something other than hunger. Or necessarily pleasure. I'm mostly past that but I find the behavior (eating food I don't necessarily like that much) does crop up every now and then. Often it's a good 'tell' that…
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1. Yes. I don't think it's much of a secret what I think about this question. Nothing so simple has ever been so difficult. At a physiologic level, it's all about CICO. But if it were that easy, none of us would be here whining about (ok, pondering) the challenges of losing and/or maintaining our weight. OTOH, I think…
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It's not worth getting into a debate about how much you're eating. There is only one sure conclusion: your consumption, whether 1200 calories or some other amount, is too high for your caloric expenditure. If you want to lose weight you will need to modify that.
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Yes. Because this wouldn't make your child full-on aware that his eating is a 'problem'.
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I'd probably go with #1, assuming no changes in how I feel about activity. I am pretty active so I'd want to know I could continue as I would routinely. Bonus question? I must admit I have a perverse attraction to candy corn. There is nothing wholesome or nutritionally worthwhile about it but I just love it. This…
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OK. My issue is this: when you root down into what's going on, the vast majority of the time real food (albeit very nutrient dense, often unhealthy and in large amounts) is being replaced by scads of rabbit food. AKA diet food. And it really is difficult to get in 1000 calories worth of undressed lettuce and celery sticks.…
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Nutritious, inexpensive, quick snacks: 1. Hard boiled eggs. 2. Popcorn (we use an airpopper made by Cuisinart for the microwave that costs $12 with a little oil sprayed on and some flavored salts such as garlic salt). 3. Hummus with veggie sticks. You can make your own hummus limiting the calorific add-ins in just a few…
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Which was my point. I don't like the term because it represents a concept that is unhealthy. Namely, that there is a moral judgement to be made when somebody decides to treat themselves or splurge on a snack or meal. It reinforces and perpetuates some societal notion that fat people are somehow weak and/or inferior because…
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I’m going to go out on a limb here and guess that- A. It’s not a medical issue B. It’s not because she’s underweight The somewhat questionable eating choices notwithstanding, somebody who eats two eggs for breakfast and is so shaky, crabby, angry an hour later that a bevy of snacks (including nutrient dense items like…
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Now, to the question at hand... It is basic math. So, if you limit caloric intake over a period of time so that you can splurge for a vacation, you will stay on your weight loss plan. That is, IF your net average caloric intake over that entire period (limited time plus splurge time) is lower than what your body requires.…
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Who exactly do you cheat on a ‘cheat day’ or with a ‘cheat meal’? It’s horrible terminology that society (and fat people) use when they’re really talking about splurging or treating themselves. Cheaters are naughty people without a conscience. They have compromised morals and limited self-control.
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OK. Time out. She called it a vice, not an addiction. The whole nonsense of ‘sugar addiction’ notwithstanding, nobody is addicted to fast food. If that were the case, you could satisfy your needs with a salad from McDonalds. Or the grilled chicken sandwich from Burger King. Or the chili from Wendy’s. All of which come from…
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I have to start out on the ‘cheat’ concept. Which I think is a self-defeating framework. Cheating implies doing something unfair, unethical or immoral. And that one has to ‘cheat’ at all reinforces the notion of being a failure. So, if you find it helpful to splurge once in awhile, have at it. Consider it a normal human…
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I’ll make this much simpler for you- If you want to lose more weight, you need to eat less than what you’re eating now. No matter how you measure it. So if you think you’re eating 1400 and can’t see yourself going lower, you are, in effect, eating at a maintenance level for your current weight. You could go lower to lose…
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Sorry, but I think you’ve got this a bit backwards. If you are eating to manage stress, time to develop a new strategy. Think of eating as a medication with significant unwanted side effects. You can’t just stop treating the underlying problem. Really.
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I’m not sure I understand. Which routine are you talking about and what do you think is prompting your increased size? As in... 1. I’ve not changed my eating routines but I’m gaining weight OR 2. I’ve not changed my physical activity but my body fat content has gone up OR 3. Both.
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Well, if she cares about you but is simply misguided, one or two reminders that her approach isn’t helpful should fix the issue. Have you considered the possibility that your mother just isn’t a very nice person? Because, frankly, that’s what you’re describing. You describe a situation in which you have little control.…
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I can think of a couple of things here: -the overall attrition rate for WW is high. Perhaps not higher than other diet programs (or lifestyle programs), but still sufficiently high that, by repackaging, they can take another pass at the same customer base. -the changes are universally cloaked in the WW ‘R&D’ labelling. So…
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Oh, and on the boyfriend issue- you'll need to figure out what's driving his interest in your weight. If it's about your health, great. Let him know you 'get' it but now isn't the time and he needs to back off. If he truly cares he'll back off and he may be a keeper. If he doesn't back off or this is about something else…
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So, let's clarify- You want to weigh less (a desired outcome). You just don't want to lose weight (an action plan). Losing weight is a fairly simple process. You eat fewer calories than your body requires. It's just not easy. Here's the thing, though...if you know you're not ready, then figure out if it's even worth it to…
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I'd point out that #3 is not a plan, it's a desired outcome. There *is* a difference.
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Figuring this out is an important part of the process. But you can't stop here. You'll now have to look at your two lists and decide which list is more resonant. Use that information to guide decision making.
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Is this a serious question or are you just looking To be let off the hook?
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So, 6-8 beers, typically 8% ABV, per day is the equivalent of 10 drinks per day. That's some pretty heavy drinking. It's quite possible there are people who drink that much and that frequently who are not alcoholics. I'd guess that's not exactly typical. Let's just say that if you drink that much and surround yourself with…