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Sorry to hear that it didn't work out. Have some commiserations from this mfp randomer. Dating isn't always fun. Feel the feelings that probably won't be pleasant and then move on.

You don't want to rely on motivation because it waxes and wanes as other posters have said. Hopefully after dropping 30lbs, which is fantastic progress!, you have some good habits to carry you through either with maintenance or further weight loss. Try to focus on how well you have done.

I have the last 13lbs to shift. Trying to be patient as there's not a big margin for error with food. And even if I don't lose for a few weeks I consider it successful maintenance so it's still a win.

Personal shopper. Not exactly scary, more an exploration of grief and alienation.

My body loves all food hence my need to be on mfp keeping a food diary so I can get less chubby :)

You've had an awful lot happen in a short space of time, any one of those things alone is tough to deal with. You have my sympathy, I lost my mum two years ago and it still affects everything. You might be able to get counselling through the university or depending where you are in the uk via your gp and iapt. There might…

Also when you have just a few pounds left to go there's less room for error with the calorie counting. It's too easy to blow the week's deficit on a meal or a night out.

Scales going down. Having to buy smaller clothes. Being able to do the more difficult options at classes.

When I'm feeling bad I find that doing something I enjoy like classes at the gym helps me feel better while I'm doing it because of the concentration required. Then when the class ends I feel *kitten* again because all the negative feelings and thoughts come rushing back. Also have in mind that you are probably tired to…

Did you sleep with him ? If so then he got what he wanted If not then he found someone who will sleep with him [/quote] That's a really grim point of view. I did sleep with him several times because I wanted to. I'm a single adult. Anyway I signed up to a different dating site last night and I found him on it and logged…

Reading all the responses has been helpful. It's reassuring that it's happened to others although it's also awful that people can be so cruel. Thanks internet strangers of mfp.

I do like cats for themselves. I was in a long term relationship for many years and have children. We've been split up for five years now..Although I'd like a relationship again I don't think I'm desperate for one. I had got used to being single again. I'm just disappointed because I was having an awesome time with Mr…

That's very true. I'm putting it behind me. Not tough enough for internet dating. It was good while it lasted. Fortunately I already have some cats. Cats are awesome.

That's really *kitten*. The amount of planning and deceit that's gone into deceiving other people. I don't think I have the heart for internet dating, I'm going to find a new hobby.

I don't think he's married. I've been to his house and it looked like the house of a man and his children. Doesn't mean he doesn't have a non live in significant other though. I looked him up on the dating website. He hasn't been online lately although his profile is still up. Anyway I sent a letter asking if he is ok and…

I don't know if he is ok. I know it's unlikely but he might not be. We have no mutual friends so no one would tell me if he wasn't. He's 46 so I'd have thought he was more mature than just doing a disappearing act. I've sent him a letter today asking why he's avoiding me and saying I'd like him to communicate. I won't…

Thanks for all the replies. We were texting everyday. On Sunday he didn't text me. I sent him three messages that day saying hi and the last one asking if he was ok and if he was still speaking to me . I've deleted his number so I can't humiliate myself by begging. Or send a kitten you text. I just can't stop hoping that…

Three more days until Christmas o:). Is everyone psyched up and ready?

Yeah singing and dancing all the way to my destination. :)

Cheshire cat here.

Cheshire here. It's good to have a little corner of home on mfp :)

Good evening fellow British person! It doesn't seem as though there are too many of us about. Although there are some old threads somewhere with uk folk on.

Tips to stop include making sure you are eating enough each day. if you are limiting food too much then part of you will be desperate to override that. Keep hydrated so you don't mistake thirst for hunger. incorporate treats into your daily allowance. If you want to eat try filling up on fruit and veg. Getting enough sleep…

I thought I'd read it all on mfp. This is just out there to me.

Try slowing down. Does it hurt if you walked an equivalent distance? Even though you are able run faster, slow down and see if you can find a point where your hip doesn't hurt and then you can begin increasing distance or speed.

Always wash it. If you are really worried about germs you can wash it in a solution of milton.

Can your doctor /physio recommend some exercises for you? To build up ankle strength and prevent further injury. It must be frustrating to be reminded of the things you can't do anymore. Maybe try a physio led pilates class?

Thing for the day that I wish I could unsee :#

Seek some help for your depression. There's no point trying to control your diet without dealing with the emotions that are fuelling your overeating. Visit your gp, maybe look at some counselling. Try doing some exercise if it makes you feel a bit better. Be as kind to yourself as you would to a friend. Best wishes.

I started off doing some fitness dvds at home because I wanted to lose some weight post pregnancy . Then I began to feel much more relaxed mentally from working out and really enjoyed that benefit too. Started trying different exercises for the fun of it. I did cycling for a while. Lately I'm into pilates and dance . Keep…