ZudiLo

I'm not the one going back to a post of someone I deleted to reply and say I'm an attention *kitten*. This was my first post and didn't know I had to explain every detail. Do us BOTH a favor and don't write about me. You don't know me and THANK GOD I don't know you.

ummm no..that was ONE of my concerns, just thought I tell you guys everything...but whatever.

No, I still love the man and look forward to be with him almost every single day but its just a bit frustrating...

and that's perfectly fine. I felt that I needed to explain myself more because people jumped to the conclusion that it was all about looks and I'm happy that you unfriended because I don't need a person judging me without knowing every detail. have a good life.

and that is a major concern for me...thank you.

Yes I will...but I would be a bit disappointed because he didnt try...

I guess you're right but if I as that shallow I would have left him a year ago, instead I did fall for an awesome guy, the only concern is his health and that to me is something major. Especially if its someone I want to be with in the long run.

Thank you.

Yes I know its all me...but what to do when you really like someone and that's the only issue? If this is the man I choose to be with, it should be ok that I would like him to be healthy...is that wrong?

I'm not making him miserable...if anything, I'm making myself miserable... :ohwell:

Thank you, you're not the first to tell me this. I guess if it's meant to be, it will be.

probably, but i do love the man and if you read my other responses you can see it's not all about his looks (I should have explained it more in the beginning). At the end of the day I just want him to be healthy, especially if this is the man I want in my future.

You are right....and I have to ask myself if I am willing to wait...and what if he doesn't want to change.

Hey, thanks for replying! I've been very patient. I am not a mean person and will never tell someone that they are not good enough or that they are fat and all that other stuff...I myself have a low-self esteem. Especially since my ex (who was my fiancee) left me last year. I'm still bitter about the whole thing because we…

and to add to your response.... me wanting him to change is not only about looks....I should have gotten into more detail BUT we have spoken about out future together and I told him my concerns about his health. I want a man in my life he will be able to get up and chase after his kids...his family has a string of health…

Hi, you are entitled to your opinion and I am not looking for any type of sympathy. To be honest, I know this is a problem for me, BUT in my defense, when we started dating he was going to the gym and would preach how he wanted to get in shape... I feel like because we are more serious, he is now more comfortable and feels…

you guys are right...

You are right....and I have to ask myself if I am willing to wait...and what if he doesn't want to change.

Hi, you are entitled to your opinion and I am not looking for any type of sympathy. To be honest, I know this is a problem for me, BUT in my defense, when we started dating he was going to the gym and would preach how he wanted to get in shape... I feel like because we are more serious, he is now more comfortable and feels…

Hey, thanks for replying! I've been very patient. I am not a mean person and will never tell someone that they are not good enough or that they are fat and all that other stuff...I myself have a low-self esteem. Especially since my ex (who was my fiancee) left me last year. I'm still bitter about the whole thing because we…

I sort of went through a similar situation. My boyfriend of 4 years had an affair with one of my best-friends. I was left heart-broken and with so many trust issues but I realize that I am so much better than them. I don't speak to either of them. Actually, the girl I was friends with tried to reach out to me a couple of…

Great job! Keep it up! Very inspiring!

THANK YOU SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO Much!!!!! This was an awesome post!

Hi Everyone! My name is Zudith, I'm 27 and I was diagnosed at 15. I happy to see that there's a support group on MFP. Sometimes I find it very hard to go to the gym because of my lupus. It's been stable the last couple of years because of plaquinil but I still get the regular symptoms....tiredness, joint pain, etc. It's…

Thought you might find this link useful http://www.livestrong.com/article/417699-does-your-body-need-to-rest-after-a-workout/ the livestrong website is a great site!

great job!!!!