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4 years is a long time. I cannot picture myself in 4 years, and I certainly couldn't have pictured myself now 4 years ago. If the guy is trying to sort out some issues, then it involves "change". If the guy changes, then I hope you realise there is danger associated with that, i.e. you might well get the short end of the…

I personally think it was an interesting topic and I don't think finding the right balance/good attitude to adopt is necessarily obvious. (On a side note, the original article seemed addressed to women.)

It seems that the way you see things is in direct opposition with the postulate used as a basis for the article/quote then (contained in the first few lines), which would maybe explain why you see things as more clear cut: In the day, it was very clear what constituted cheating. You had sex with somebody while you were…

I don't know if I agree with this bit... Emotions are hard to control so I can see why people can become emotionally attached without a malign intention from the start - which is what I understand when we say people fell "uncontrollably" into the affair. Especially if the partner/spouse was looking for comfort at a…

It gets easier to understand after 5+ years of an average marriage. Not that these old friendships will ever be a threat at this stage, the new ones however will make the grass seem way greener out there...

I've always more or less defended the point of view that cheating isn't just about the "physical act". These I'm not sure about though: Poor women then. Having to talk about their marriage problems with other women is bound to increase your blood pressure. Or your spouse tend to go over the top and needs to chill out. Some…

Funny vid about "football". https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6KeG_i8CWE8

So the problem is: - You may be asking too much from someone you are not exclusive with: you want guarantees that you normally can only have from a committed relationship before being actually committed. This is the "no-risk no-win" attitude. People will give you back what you put in them, or less. - You may be in front of…

You need to realise that most people have most of their sex in committed relationships... The idea you wrote is the idea pretty much everyone around you grew up with, and I would imagine that 90% of the people have lost their virginity in what they would call a "committed relationship" of some sort, and I'm inclined to…

It shouldn't be too hard work, especially in the beginning of the relationship. There are specific moments that will require you to work harder: marriage, births, moving together, change of location... Surely, none of this can "flow" naturally and it will necessarily stress the relationship, and force the partners to…

In the middle of Czechoslovakia, I had a revelation. What I felt in those few precious moments outside with Jack were things I did not feel for Tim. [...] I deserved to experience that spine tingling passion with someone The grass is always greener on the other side, isn't it? You'd think people would have learnt that at…

I don't necessarily drink every time I go out myself, so I suppose I wouldn't mind a girl who doesn't drink much (or rarely). However, I'd like a girl who doesn't mind: trying a new beer she's never tried before, drinks on the odd occasion, celebrate a good news with a glass of champagne once a year. In other words,…

I wouldn't date a virgin unless I learn she touches herself all the time. I think I want someone who is understand and is comfortable with their own pleasure as a general rule. It's more about the state of mind for me and what, on average, a virgin would imply regarding their relationship to pleasure. A non-sexual woman…

Weirdly you had fun doing fun things with someone. Alright, what this means is: it's easy to be infatuated for someone in such a context and to see everything through rose tinted glasses. As a general rule, long distance relationships are simply a no go. It's okay when you are young and are okay to see people once a month…

This profile seems like 90% of the women profiles out there (not even mentioning your POF nickname, are you looking for your "KnightInShinyArmour73"?). It's crap to be frank. And it's too defensive: "If you have a girlfriend/wife and are in a relationship ... DO NOT message me! Stop pretending you're single! Are there…

So what did she deserve then if not "that"? A night of sex with an unwilling man but because she is ugly - poor girl - he should have done it nonetheless? I don't really believe in "the ugly curse", 80% of beauty is "made up" (with fitness, body language and confidence among others), so maybe it would actually encourage…

I would not put myself in such a situation in the first place and they were about 100 moments at which they could/should have stopped. These people are idiots, I was hopping they were going to be sent to another planet at the end of the story, but it looks like they will be consuming the same oxygen as I am. A sad state of…

How long have you been together? Oh! I've head it's exactly one more month after the exact amount of time you have been together that things suddenly fit into place miraculously, according to your dearest desires. I'd say hold on one more month. [Note to self: copy and paste same post in one month]

Same here... and I still need to deliver a few things before I go on holidays. Nightmare.

I think this is an absolute pile of crock. If you followed these tenets, you'd be swallowing other people's poopoo for lunch. This goes beyond "humility" and "modesty", it's about apologizing for your own existence at this stage because you happened to be born "male". Also: multiple orgasms. There. I hate women - all women…

A smart person keeps as many options as they can.

In my experience, it is women who make the friendship between a man and a woman impossible by: - Hanging out with a man without intentions, - Developing feeling, - Hating the guy because he sees another girl or because he doesn't see her the way she sees him now. Men are probably much more straightforward: they like…

Truer than it seems. We just want our *kitten* to be loved - and respected, that is all.

I agree with your paragraph, although I would also question the "depth" of the love and the fact that this love is (was) reciprocated at all if one of the two partners leaves without telling a single word. This seems something you do on the first month or two of a relationship rather than after a "love relationship".

Now that you had a conversation with him and with all the information you provided (he gave you his reasons, and he basically wasn't deleting his profile), then the answer to your question is: no. "Searching for girls" isn't probably a "normal" behaviour for a guy in a relationship (although it isn't way off the normal…

This. Moving on simply means that someone should not be dragged down forever by "bad breakups" or even "bad relationships". It doesn't mean they haven't shaped you, it just means they aren't holding you back anymore. @Anna - you never "go over" a big break up because it is a part of you, but you should also give a chance…

This. Please OP, give me the guy's phone number or email so that I can tell him you're spying on him and that he should take some distance from you immediately. Every guy should know that dating women with trust issues is a no go, and this poor puppy (the man) maybe doesn't know it yet.

I think 90% of the people are like this after a bad break up if they feel they have been betrayed. At least for a few months.

Yep... I took a look the other day, and posted this to the OP: "These [public] boards sank a long time ago... Now apart from the odd innocent "first poster" who doesn't know any better, there is so little value to be taken out of it that most people don't even bother having anything to do with it. You should come back from…

http://lifehacker.com/5369381/turn-your-windows-7-pc-into-a-wireless-hotspot I think I did it once at home, it might work if your machine has a wifi card.