DetroitDarin Member

I appreciate the clarification. Thanks. To others: I wouldn't associate with a woman who'd carelessly trash my heart; so this isn't about excusing behaviour. Also this is not about what my future gf/so is "allowed" to do. Never about that. For me and my lover, we'll communicate expectations honestly and we'll talk about…

Yeah - peanut butter. :) I share your pain a little bit; I have to struggle to reach my goal; generally falling 4-500 short. However, I feel great. I have energy and what-not. But I have a metric-shyte-ton of weight to loose; plenty of reserve energy :D

I think you're reading it backwards - this is about the person to whom another was unfaithful. It's about love, actually - loving somebody without feeling ownership; without letting their lack-of-return-love affect us. Maybe...

Better is a word we can't define. I try to keep away from anything named Tyson - preferring to buy from local places because I hate, HATE the chicken industry and what they do to the poor birds. Same with other meat animals, actually. Keep in mind "organic" is a buzz word now used to sell product.

Was only trying to be cute; not really comin' on to ya. Hope that came through.

And maybe seek advice from trusted friends and family? :)

Booty.

you didn't miss that last one did ya kate? Cuz...I didn't see your number in my messages... :disappointed: Cheers kiddo. really. :)

You don't come across as a know-it-all, you come-across as having wisdom and a unique point of view. The more we love ourselves and are polite to ourselves the less, perhaps, 'what-if' monsters attack us. My what-if? I have a couple. What if I was still with my ex? How hopeless and awful my outlook on life was. What if I…

BS. You see the difference and you know it. C'mon now. really? Dude.

Again, good insights. I am a vibe guy. I think I'm open to changes - for me, it'd mean I'm out of tune with her needs/wants/energy and my own. you said it well re: we try to find external excuses to internal issues.

"Exercise" portion and calorie control :)

^^ :) Yup. Self-induced victims? yeah - that makes more sense. I don't hate anyone; even self-induced victims. I don't hate them because they are broken - not worthless.

I think semantics matter. The App doesn't work for us - we work for it. The app simply does what we tell it. Any amount of work happens between the ears. My advice? don't 'reach a goal'. Approach this like 'This is the new me, forever. I strive for fitness, health.' With that approach, the numbers-lost will take care of…

Purpose might be self-defined I suppose. My purpose for "being here" changed drastically upon the birth of my kids; unless having those kids was the purpose? Today my 'purpose' for living generally revolves around connecting with others and spreading good karma.

you're the M-F'in WOMAN Christa. :D Woooohoo!

Interesting perspective. Thank you. I think finding oneself is not purely selfish - and the parts that are selfish are still excellent. To be honest with others folks need to be honest with themselves - to present the most-genuine image of authenticity to others, we must first be authentic with ourselves. For practical…

Well said, Kate. I think it might be harder to forgive to think somebody stayed with me living a lie. Of course I hope I'm never surprised by somebody's love, or lack of love because that'd mean I'd been out of tune.

Was in a movie with mathew broderick. :)

There is no formula - there is only 'average' and guessing and anecdotal evidence of a particular idea. The reason is simple: You are you. You are not whomever-else did it. Perhaps your body requires or needs difference things because of your unique biology. The 'average' person loses x-amount of weight following x-plan…

People want to be special; to receive praise. We want to be standing-out among our peers. just how it is.

so many people strive to get past pain they fail to find the beauty in being 'in-process'. Folks should consider healing at whatever pace they happen to heal but be exactly happy in their current level of 'getting over' because whether they know it or not they are absolutely living through the change that will make them a…

You're agreeing with me more than you know. Of course love is also exactly like you describe. But doing those things is not love. The love is the fuel that gives strength for that stuff however those things can be done for one a dozen motivating factors. I know many people who stay in terrible relationships because they…

Over the weekend I visited a west-coast-swing championship. I went there not knowing how to dance. Came back with many new friends. Folks were eager to teach, more eager to get to know me. Felt like a family - complete with drama of course. But nonetheless it felt terrific. Next step is to find local instructors :)

people want popularity because if other people like them, they are worth-liking. :-/ I've not watched GoT - is it good?

What I mean is - Love can't be taught nor earned. Love can't be coerced or convinced. The 'loving' part of the relationship should be the single easiest aspect. Learning to put the toilet set back up - sure. That's something to work on. Paying bills? Yup. Let's talk. But the almost innate feeling or desire to be close to…

wow. God Bless Texas...all y'all. wow.

Agreed; you shouldn't. We "barely adequate" guys aren't ones to settle down :cheers: :)

How nice for you. Good luck

Are you drinking? I'm not going to turn this thread into me schooling you on basic parenting skills and child psychology. If you want to learn those things, message me and I'm happy to help.