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How the hell is running at 8mph a 7 1/2 mile pace? By using the standard of "What words mean" it's an 8 mile pace. Running? Guestimate 100 calories per mile. But count it as only about 80 for buffer. I am a little tickled when i see words like "Can burn xxx" or 'up to xxx calories!" Everything. Is. Different. For. Every.…

This is all from yesterday! I had FOUR complete 'Bro-Nods' at the gym last night, from the regulars. I managed 9.6miles in 30 mins on the bike compared to my original best (six weeks ago) of 6.2miles. I increased seated row by 30lbs. I added four 8-rep sets to my standing dumb bell curls.

Terrific post. Thank you for inspiring!

No. She's not right - not universally. No diet is perfect for everyone.

/me changes name to 'my bed'....

I've been awake since 0500 - 3.5hrs ago. Generally I sleep until 0630. :)

Thanks all for the inputs - except that snarky guy about waiting for my parental advice...I'm not sure the forum is ready for all my wonderful insights. I'm pretty smart for a boy :) I like thinking and discussing this stuff because the motivations of people are interesting; the motivations of those close to me is…

That's a GREAT post @ItsyBitsy246 - Taking a 'weight trends' view is more healthy - mentally - than focusing on specific weigh-ins and all that.

Remember - when seconds count Police are only minutes away!

Hey kid - F the scale. It happens that the scale is evil. You know I gained 4lbs in two days? yup. Today I saw a reduction of 5lbs. It's stupid. RELIGIOUSLY count your calories. Don't rely on MFP estimates of 'calories burned' because I think they tend to be crap. Always over-estimate your calories taken-in, and…

I think you're right though - and that's sorta what I'm saying. It's silly to put work and thought into love because if love is there, it's a no-brainer. It's uncomplicated internally.

oh no, Jo. honestly this comes easy. :) This is stream-of-consciousness stuff.

I choose to never have 'friendship' be the foundation because I want more-than-friendship. I view it as 'the honeymoon phase' builds the foundation of support and love and desire that can carry a relationship when they don't even like eachother. And also I am afraid of regression towards the mean. When in conflict or when…

I think it's impossible to work at the 'love'. I think it's almost impossible to learn to feel things. We can learn to find ways to express how we feel. We can learn to be more-open and more-giving of ourselves...but Love from the heart sorta just happens. Thus I think Love should take NO work in that regard. That belief…

I know a lot about parenting too! And i'm pretty good at it. I have the coffee mug to prove it. Why do you think i am single? Why would it matter? Is it because so many people in relationships pick terrible partners but want credit for having the guts to put up with bad relationships? :-)

thank you @jvtchong :D

I guess we'd have to define forever. If forever is 'until the next chapter' or 'as long as you walk that path'? Yeah...I dunno either. Right now I'd love not-forever...just for....for awhile. Ya know?

If you get to Germany, Holler :)

Good morning and welcome! Trust the process and set your goal to be 'The Process' - when you focus on what your new normal will be the weight will take care of itself.

marry

I think love is like this - When love exists between a man and woman both parties will absolutely unconsciously do good towards and for the other person. People will act and communicate and all that without even thinking because doing those things is at the core of their very being. It's who they are - not what they do.…

Why would she want to be tacos? otherwise - the eating tacos and bang-it-out? Good advice.

Absolutely manifested differently - but is it the same substance? I suppose to frame the discussion we'd have to agree one terms. What is love? (baby don't hurt me) People can more-easily describe love than define it. We talk about the symptoms of love, but the symptoms are not love. Love is a verb but verbs are not love.…

Of course there are two sides. Doesnt mean one side isnt wrong. Yours is the only reply casting or looking for blame. Everyone else is talking differences. I am a little disturbed to read somebody using love for kids as an example of what "real love is" in a man-woman/husband-wife relationship.

I am going to wait for that kind of love, Franc, even if It means I stay alone. Because being lonely within a relationship is the worst kind of hell I can imagine. Or have experienced.

I'm in that company too, but slightly different circumstances :) When my ex wasn't involved emotionally with me I suggest SHE find someone too - the open-marriage stuff. Honestly, I am not equipped to have to struggle through love - the core values and the core essence of love. If somebody doesn't easily find me attractive…

My ex didn't have the capacity to acknowledge my need. I don't fault her but she and I are impossible because she sees my needs as weakness; and degraded me over them. For my situation - and to the point of this thread - I think folks shouldn't have to try to change their core selves; My ex deserves a man who doesn't need…

mka - painfully familiar. Having lived with an emotionally-unavailable woman for nearly 2 decades; I'm hypersensative to those things in prospective dates, etc. My breaking point involved a lot of things but one of the worst aspects for me was in effect, teaching my kids that Dad's SHOULD sleep on the couch most of the…

:D I over-think a lot. Being inside my brain can be tiring. Thanks for reading - and your spot-on comments, Louise. :) Except you used the dreaded C-word. I think the best relationships - nobody has to compromise anything because we naturally love exactly what the other person offers. Make sense?

again - I would kiss and not come up for air. She's adorable :)