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I think it's good people are mentioning trial and error or experimentation. Often we try to insist cookie cutter strategies work for everyone and they don't. The basics work for everyone: healthy nutrition/diet, moderate to active activity/exercise and get enough sleep. Other than that you have to fine tune it for every…

Exactly. If they show up OP, you don't need to answer the door. Just say you were having soooo much fun running in place jamming out to music you didn't hear the doorbell LOL!

Now it's up to you to take the suggestions and make them into lifestyle changes. This requires a little bit of creativity and discipline on your part. Don't worry about the coworkers-- they will always get offended by something. I had coworkers get offended because I wanted to go for a walk during my break instead of sit…

Why ARE the people we're close to so scared we'll leave them behind? Leave them behind for what, and who?? I don't get it.

The best way to look at this. I used to post pictures of the body I wanted to have too, only to get depressed and frustrated at why my shape was magically transforming into their body haha. Only when I learned genetics and bone structure has a major role in it did I try to focus on what would be MY best body. It's good to…

I think it's time to set some boundaries. Why are they coming by unannounced? It's almost as if it's a control thing by doing that, just like it's a control thing to tell you how to be healthier.

Then it's also perception for people to see the OP as an excuses maker too, right? My perception is the OP doesn't know how to navigate this and he's seeing more obstacles-- sedentary work, not able to drive, boredom at work-- than opportunities.

I think the eating is only part of your problem here. Is there a way to make your job more challenging so you aren't as focused on eating when you're bored?

This is her first post about it too, but what I see are people making a lot of assumptions. We don't know what her situation is and she's even trying to figure it out. What I see are a lot of people who are getting high and mighty and think they are above the situation the OP is in.

The fact is people DO NOT LIKE CHANGE. I don't get it since life is all about change but it's how you adapt to it all that makes a difference. I was nearly 200 pounds and I remember declining pizza from people and having them get upset with me because I "didn't need to lose weight." I had major PCOS bleeding and knew…

Your post is why I have chosen not to count calories as religiously as I did in the past. I am not trying to offend, but the tone of your post almost seems to be borderline obsession with a number-- whether it's your calories or your weight. I also don't check my weight each day because it gets frustrating, like you said.…

Bingo. That's why I am choosing to primarily focus on sustainability-- my nutritional choices need to be sustained for life, along with how I choose to be active. I also consult with my doctor since I have PCOS and while she wasn't crazy about the calorie counting, she stressed being a lot more active, incorporating…

It frustrates me to see posts like that because everyone-- including us-- went through a period where we started on this lifestyle change and had to do a lot of trial and error to figure things out. We have ALL made excuses and wanted a pity party for ourselves, so it makes no sense to me to see people act like they have…

My mom always takes the time to tell me how fat I am, so honestly I am used to it. Once I accepted I can never please her, or anyone else life became a lot easier. I ignore her most of the time, say something sarcastic or better yet say something shocking and that works to keep people quiet :)

Lack of sleep has been linked to obesity and weight again. When you don't get enough sleep, your body's hormones to send the signals to your brain about hunger and satiety don't work the same way, and it affects your metabolism. Without proper sleep your metabolism is going to get wrecked. Is there a way to get your…

Wow, what words of encouragement! Because ya'll already knew how to do everything right from the geto-go, too!

I think you're being unnecessarily harsh here. It's obvious this person has a professional office job for the first time, and getting used to that scene takes some time. If the OP is asking because she doesn't know, why is that making excuses? One of the things you need to do when working in an office is to get your body…

What I have to say might not be what you want to hear, but here it goes. My husband is only supportive now because I didn't give up entirely. I did discontinue for a while because he got upset with me eating healthier and working out, but then I decided I couldn't be a slave to his feelings or my own and did what I needed…

When I had a desk job, what I did was spend every moment I could on my feet. I would take care of files standing up by the printer or at the file cabinet. I would offer to get my coworker's work from them from the printer so I had an excuse to get up and walk. I'd walk during my breaks and use half of my lunch to go for a…

I have found I need to be really strict with myself to lose weight. My doctor highly suggested I cut out a lot of food I can't make myself, or if I want it I should make it and eat it sparingly. The same thing with workouts-- I have to stick to a strict schedule. What is difficult isn't me, it's other people. A lot of…

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That's why I keep mum IRL about my weight, eating healthier and exercise because of all the resistance I encounter. I would rather get the support and advice from people who have BTDT than to have some person who's never had issues their entire life give me a lecture on how I'm "doing it wrong." A variety of factors…

What I do is look at the goal weight I want, estimate what my activity level will be in order to maintain that weight (so I use sedentary activity as a worst case scenario) and eat that way. If for example, you say you want your goal weight to be 160 pounds, do a calculation of how many calories you'd need to eat to…

Cool! I have about 40-50 pounds to lose. I'm sticking to a 1700-1800 calorie a day plan starting out, and when I feel like I can handle more, I'll probably reduce it.

ROFL I know I say that, too!

I totally hear you! It is hard when you're trying to do it on your own, even if the final responsibility rests on you. I understand completely!

1200 calories seems too little to me! I have been able to lose weight eating between 1500-1700 calories. When I eat 1300 calories, my body won't lose weight! I think it's better for me to increase my activity level through exercise and hobbies than to restrict calories. Working out 7 days a week seems so excessive to me,…

Go to bed! Speaking of which, I'm going to do that myself.

LOL you're hopeful but um...I have a hormonal disorder that I need to be careful of. You know it's bad when your mother says you have man arms!

I feel the same way! I don't want to look "ripped" like a guy, either. But at the same time we are limiting ourselves by believing we have to LIFT WEIGHTS in order to have strengthening exercises. Not true! There are plenty of ways to use our own body's weight as a form of strengthening exercise. Have you ever considered…