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That is nothing. I have some people in my friends list log 2000+ calories for 60 minutes of exercise. I mean, is this *even* possible? Really???

Yep, I know exactly how you are feeling! And it is not even homemade meals for me, even eating out at restaurants usually forces me to really take wild assed guesses at the calories consumed for the day. But, if I can limit this to a few days a week (on average) with the remaining days carefully measuring out food at home…

I am kind of in the same boat as you. I am at approximately the halfway point in my weight loss journey (19 pounds out of 40) and only one person at work had said anything (and it was kind of positive, but one of these you look fine now, don't lose more weight speech). I have gotten positive compliments from family, my…

Yep, mine are: Current weight: 198 lbs #1 - Onederland - done #2 - 195 lbs - halfway point (20 lbs lost) #3 - 193 lbs - got to 194 lbs about 3 years ago doing the wrong way; want to beat this the right way #4 - 175 lbs - current goal weight and places me the upper part of normal BMI #5 - Unknown - will cross that bridge…

I believe you are right!!!

Like I think what was mentioned by a few people earlier, my day-to-day friends have not noticed my 15 pound loss, but my family did when I went to visit them for Thanksgiving (I visit them about 6 times a year, so pretty infrequently). But, that does not bother me. I am losing weight for health reasons (trying to take some…

Interesting list! Mine is: 1 - Food diary must be open. 2 - No consistent under-eating everyday without a reason (WLS is a valid reason for example). Eating under for a day or so because of illness or one is not hungry is fine. I do this on occasion too. 3 - Consistent logging (meaning if you are missing many days or not…

Everyone has a breaking point where one says "enough is enough"! I was never very large (max weight about 250 pounds at 5'11"), but once I could not fit into my usual pant size (size 36 which I wore it seemed forever) and was forced to get a few pairs of pants the next size up for work was the first breaking point. I got…

For mychocolatediet: Thank you for the sound advice! In the end, I think this is the solution I will be implementing. There is a good core group of MFP friends I want to keep, discard all the others because I am finding them too draining and add in new friends that think on the same page as I do with regards to weight…

Well, I know that I would get a gif reply sooner or later! Ha! Thanks for the reply!

Binghamton area here. Feel free to add me.

Thank you for the reply and I totally agree! In an ideal world, this is what we as human beings should strive for and I was hoping that perhaps most of this would be present in my MFP friends list. But, we don't live in an ideal world and I am finding it hard to really give meaningful advice especially when a low calorie…

Yes, that is how I had interpreted his reply as well. Clever and to the point! Well done!

I was just taking a stab at it; I am still a novice when it comes to this. I am sure more knowledgeable people will be able to answer your question. Good luck on your journey!

That is a great attitude and one I did not think about. When one has a lot of weight to lose, losing the weight by either a controlled low calorie diet and/or weight loss surgery is much more important to stabilize/reduce immediate health issues than the amount of calories they ingest. And kudos to you for upping your…

I am not there yet personally, but I am sure you will get there. If I would suggest anything (and I am a newbie, so take this with a grain of salt), I would make sure you an accurately recording both the calorie intake and the exercise expenditures to make sure you are still at a calorie deficit. Just a thought... In any…

I just snipped out part of your excellent reply and this flusters me the most. I think it is very hard to leave a concerned comment on a diary completion in your newsfeed when everyone else is giving approval by leaving comments like "wtg!" and "Keep it up!". It seems like I am just going against the tide as it were...

OP here. First, I want to thank everyone that took the time to read this and reply (good or bad). I really am open for suggestions because I am at a crossroad on what to do next. I know going in with this topic that I might get some heat (and I am fully prepared for that; I am far from perfect and I am still learning) but…

Thank you for the alternative perspective from someone that has been there, done that! I can completely understand what you are saying and it makes good sense to log the way you do to avoid a relapse. Unfortunately, I really don't know if this is the case with my VLCD MFP friends. Besides the low calorie entries in their…

First off, so sorry about the loss of your friend; that was truly heartbreaking! Your other point about (paraphrasing) "not my place to convince someone their behavior is damaging" is something I am having trouble wrapping my mind around. You and Mr Knight are correct, this should not be my concern (I am not their mother,…

A valid point. Thank you! Normally, this is coupled with a) consistent day in day out low net calorie reporting and b) constant newsfeed talk about hating to eat, whining about how many calories are in 3g of butter, how gross they feel when they eat *anything*, that kind of stuff. This pretty much raises red flags all over…

Of course, you are probably right that a) that amount of daily activity is not sustainable and b) they probably over-estimating their exercise expenditures and under-estimating their daily calorie intake. But, to be fair, I also only go back a few days, maybe a week and look for patterns. This is done to prevent unfairly…

This makes complete sense and is something I am considering when I get to the point of allowing for consistent daily exercise. I am just not at this point in my life, but I am working on it!

Very wise advice and I thank you!

Yes! In total agreement ! And not to go too far off tangent, the same can be said for measuring/recording food. And I not talking about the WAGs on the calories on eating restaurant food (an important part of the food equation for sure), but the more subtle examples like taking the calorie information on a slice of bread…

I thought of reporting the one MFP "friend" doing a 600 goal calorie a day diet. Poking around the help section, there did not seem to be any instance of reporting anyone conscientiously doing a VLCD diet. In the end, I decided to go with both "we are all adults here" and "some people will only learn only when the time is…

Yes, I kind of have the same issues. Is 60 minutes of heavy weight lifting the 600 calories I tend to put in for exercise? I don't own a HRM and it is my understanding from the MFP gurus that a HRM is not an accurate method of tracking exercise calories for weight lifting. So, in this instance, I will eat about 75% of…

Thanks to everyone for that information! I didn't think about that scenario and I stand corrected! It was odd that this person did not correct me when I asked; so I am not sure if she was using the TDEE method or not. But again, thank you for taking the time to answer!

About the one calorie workout; one of my friends did that and I had to reply "is x amount of minutes of exercise really 1 calorie?" Of course, I got no response back on that, just shrugged my shoulders and moved on.

The thing is, I *really* want people to reach their goals in a healthy manner; nothing on MFP would make me happier. And I know what they are going through because 3 years ago, I did *exactly* the same thing that I am complaining about now! I was eating just one meal a day, was lifting weights three times a week, did long…