malavika413 Member

I mean, I'm going off my limited experience observing men. Obviously I'm young so the guys I've met aren't indicative of the whole population. Many guys I know complain about the dating process and how much work it is, so it makes sense why they won't want to pursue every attractive woman out there, especially if they've…

Forgive me if I'm asking too many questions, I'm just inexperienced here. But isn't it sometimes due to laziness? Like, a man would prefer being with someone else but knows they'd either strike out or it's too much effort to pursue another? So they end up settling for someone less-than-ideal--the girl they already have?

Yeah, I didn't believe the thing about men not remembering women. That's bull. But I highly doubt it doesn't matter.

Understood, it would just make things easier.

I really don't know if I can believe this. I just know it'll be a long, long time till I go to any beaches with my SO.

Honestly, I really wish there was one definitive answer to this question. I've set my goal weight everywhere from 135 to 105 (I'm 150 now) completely unsure of what will look good and what my boyfriend will like.

Doesn't matter much to me. I'm just dipping my toes into fitness myself. I'd like someone with an open mind about fitness but not judgmental about their SO's choosing or not choosing to partake.

Whatever shape you have, I want it. Seriously, those are pretty much my dream measurements.

I love to dance too! But I know what she means by hating sweat. I personally stay indoors all summer long.

You remind me of my mom. She works 12 hours a day, travels all over the world at least twice a month, cooks all our food, cleans the house, attends school conferences, but feels guilty if she's too busy to do any of those on a given day. She has no time for herself as a result, and can't exercise because she's too…

Once I posted a top comment on Humans of New York and I got a bunch of skeevy facebook messages from old Indian men. I suppose that counts.

Again, shyness. I'm not used to positive attention from guys. Ex-boyfriend flat-out told me 6 months into our relationship that he "couldn't love me". I dated him for another year after that. Thankfully I've got a real quality guy this time.

After! We started dating about two days after we met. With my last boyfriend I waited a year for him to ask me out, so I was happy that this one was forthright in his intentions.

Maybe for the bolder girls that would work. It took me months to tell my BF he was attractive!

Haha! I tried making flirtatious eye contact with a guy once, and he kept looking behind him. When he realized I was looking AT him, he changed seats. Maybe I just give off a creepy vibe? :)

How does a girl go about hitting on a guy? Do you walk right up to them and start talking, or do you just stare till they walk up to you/run away screaming?

What exactly does "bass" refer to? Because if it's a butt, I don't have one, haha.

+1

Curvy girls aren't popular around here, unfortunately. My boyfriend is the only guy I've met that prefers a curvier shape--most of my male friends prefer rail-thin types.

I mean, aren't most people their most attractive self in their late teens, early 20s? Not saying older people aren't attractive. I frequently get called mannish by boys/men. I'm used to it. I do like the colorful font.

Usually I hide my face so they can't see my expression, or I laugh with them about how mannish I look. Not really one for witty comebacks.

They're just joking around most of the time. "Where are the girls?" "Malavika413's here." "No, actual girls!" Stuff like that. Not really hurtful. High school was much worse.

Usually these people are my friends, so it's hard to do. I'm sure they don't mean to be as hurtful as they come across. Only disappointing thing is, considering my age, I'm not going to get any MORE desirable as time goes by.

I'm shy. When I hear the insults I just try to shuffle away and not let it get to me. Doesn't work very often.

Never. My current BF only approached me because I was the only girl standing alone at a social event. I get insulted by men far more often.

That's a great way to look at it! Thanks!

I think the others were referring more on my desire to be skinny like people around me, rather than becoming the best version of my existing body.

I'm hoping she meant 2014, otherwise I want a ride in her DeLorean.

Thank you. Thank you so much. It has depressed me thinking that I must be skinny to look pretty. In fact, some of the bodies I admire most are curvier. You've really inspired me to seek the best version of myself, rather than the image of fashion models on TV. I've never been strong, but I'd like to try! A friend of mine…

I won't be burning quite that many calories, obviously, but it'll be nice to factor that extra burn into my deficit. I don't know if I'll learn to love running, but I'm certainly going to try it out.