Sexting Dos

Baniuszewicz offers these rules for sending successful sexy messages to your spouse or partner:

DO send a sext to your significant other while you are out to dinner with friends. There’s something very exciting about exchanging sexy and covert messages in public.

DO remember that less is more. There are ways to be suggestive without putting it all out there. It’s sexier to not take it all off for a camera phone. Instead, send sensual, suggestive photo texts. For example, you might take a picture of your bed and write “Room for two” or take a picture of your lips and text “They miss you.”

DO sext your partner if you’re shy by nature. It’s a great approach if you find it hard to verbalize what you like sexually. You can use the casual environment of a text to reveal your sexual fantasies.

DO sext if you’re a long distance away on business. This can help you keep the spark alive and remain close when you’re apart. When you're about to go to sleep and you miss your partner, text that you're all alone in that big bed of yours and ask for a suggestion for something to do. He or she will gladly take it from there.

Sexting Don’ts

Here are Baniuszewicz’s cautions about texting:

DON’T sext with someone you just recently started dating or can’t trust implicitly. You’re taking the risk of having your photo leaked or forwarded, turning off the person on the receiving end, or having the photo get into the wrong hands.

DON’T ever include your face in a naked photo text. This protects you from embarrassment if the photo ends up being seen by someone you know.

DON’T take sexting requests too seriously. Have a little fun teasing your partner. If he or she’s begging for you to send a sexy picture of yourself, and you’re not comfortable with it, take a picture of your Victoria Secret catalog or Sports Illustrated Swimsuit issue and write “Not mine, but I’m still thinking of you.”

DON’T forget to delete any sexts or photos after viewing them. This is especially important if there are any children in your home who might get a hold of your phone (kids are more tech-savvy than you think!)

DON’T engage in cellular infidelity. As Congressman Weiner can now attest, sexting with someone outside of your marriage or relationship is a form of cheating. *EVERYDAY HEALTH*