Mine has become more concerned with me, getting things so I don't have to get up, buying every cough treatment on the "safe" list when I got sick, etc. and he's excited to get things done for the kid and imagine him being here but I'm not sure if he connects my big ol' belly with the child. More like his wife is getting fat and then we'll have a baby :laugh:

He's felt him kick a couple of times but I'm not sure if it is as real for him since he doesn't have to think about being pregnant all the time.

I know what you mean....I had all these worries too....my SO only started showing more interest recently. It took him a long time to adjust. While I am worried like you about prepping things for the baby...he is talking about organizing the garage....LOL So I know how you feel..cuz wtf does a garage have to do with the baby? Why is that even a priority?

I stopped worrying about it when I realized that its just anxiety for him. He needs to have some time to himself to do other things that distract him from reality for a little bit. We don't have that luxury! LOL....We have a totally different bonding experience as well that they can't be part of cuz the baby is inside us!

I really think this is normal behavior for men...I really do....we just have it built into us as women...I don't think they do. Getting excited about baby stuff is like them getting excited when we come home with new shoes. Its just not their thing I guess. You will see how he will change with he actually has the physical baby to hold. That's when his bonding will start!!!

Men are funny creatures...LOL

I've been lucky, my DH has been pretty good about everything. He won't let me lift anything bulky/heavy, or clean the bathroom or help with painting because he's worried about me breathing in chemicals. I really appreciate the thought and the work he's doing, but I'd like to have the bathrooms cleaned more frequently (I've tried some chemical-free stuff, it didn't work and the sink was grimy again after 3 days), and the painting is going so slowly! It's not just the baby's room that needs to be finished, we also have a 1/2 bathroom and our (large) basement on our list. DH has been doing the majority of the cooking (partly because he gets home before me after work) and has been doing all of the clean-up lately because I'm back to being dead-tired in the evenings again and he tells me to put my feet up/nap. He's been quite good about understanding that some days my pelvis really aches and I can't move as easily, but I did get a bit of an eye roll the other day when I asked him to retrieve a pair of pants from the laundry room 2 floors below, and had to ask him to go back when he brought the wrong pair (I wasn't being picky, I just didn't want to wear black work pants to the gym!)

One thing I do wish he would improve on is bonding with the baby. I'll admit, I don't talk to the baby at all. However, I do always have my hands on my belly when it is kicking, and when it makes crazy movements that make my belly shake I tell DH to look, but he doesn't try to feel it often. When I tell him to put his hand somewhere his response is usually "It's uncomfortable for me to hold my arm that way and wait for a kick". While it does bug me, I'm not worried that he's not interested and won't be a good father. I see how great he is with our neice/nephew and our friends' kids and I know he'll be a great dad.

Pantera - Organizing the garage is on DH's to-do list, too. I think for him (and me) it's just one of those things that he knows will be harder to find the time for once the baby is here, so he wants to get it done sooner rather than later. And for us, even when organized our garage is quite tight once the car is in there, so it will be worse this winter trying to get a baby in/out of the car if there's stuff in the way.

It was DH's idea all along that we should have everything ready 4 weeks before my due date, but I'm not sure he realizes we only have 5 1/2 weeks left to get everything done!