If your fiance is ignoring it and still helping with the planning, I would ignore it. My bigger question would be where did you hear this? If it was from your fiance, why would he tell you something so hurtful. If it was from someone else, what are the motives of that person and what do they have to gain by telling you?

I heard it from my fiance. We were talking wedding stuff and trying to figure out where we were getting money from and how money was being allocated. He said, "My dad isn't paying us a dime until he sees us walk down the aisle." and I said, "Um, okay? That's fine." (because we are planning our wedding based on what WE can afford-any monetary contributions from our family will be helpful, but not necessary-and more than likely just saved for a downpayment on a house anyway). He must have been a little upset because he then muttered, "He doesn't think we'll get that far." I'm not exactly sure what it was he muttered, because I had to say, "What?" and got the "Nothing..." response. Since I had THOUGHT I heard what was above I kept on asking him what was wrong, why he gets so upset about the wedding every time he sees his dad (which is true, he'll spend a few days with his dad and comes home wanting to completely change everything about the wedding). He finally said his dad doesn't want to pay us any money for the wedding until after the license is signed because he doesn't think we'll stay together to get to that point and doesn't want to "waste" his money. I think it bothers my fiance more than it bothers me, because he then spent a good amount of time trying to tell me that although his dad didn't have faith in us he did, and his faith in us and my faith in us is all that matters. To be honest, I could care less what his dad thought of me-I just don't know how to act towards him. I've been told by some people to kill him with kindness and take away any type of ammunition he may have against me.

I'm hesitant to confront his dad because his dad has always been really nice and supportive to my face. To bring up anything otherwise would be an admission that my fiance told me what was said. I don't know what type of "unwritten rules" there are between them, and I'd hate for me clearing the air to cause a huge rift between father and son. But I also know it's really hard for me to be nice to somebody I know is being two faced. It's a horrible cycle as we smile and make nice in person, but once in private talk about how horrendous everything/everyone is.