Keep telling yourself until you realize it's the truth that alcohol didn't make your previous boyfriends cheat on your. Their inability to be faithful did. Alcohol is an excuse.

At worst, it sped up the inevitable, IMO. As someone who has had many a drink too many in my time, I can tell you that another person isn't really a temptation if you love and care for someone, and cheating isn't in your nature.

Keep telling yourself until you realize it's the truth that alcohol didn't make your previous boyfriends cheat on your. Their inability to be faithful did. Alcohol is an excuse.

At worst, it sped up the inevitable, IMO. As someone who has had many a drink too many in my time, I can tell you that another person isn't really a temptation if you love and care for someone, and cheating isn't in your nature.

^^^this

Dont judge anybody by someone else's behaviour!! NOT all men cheat. NOT all men drink and cheat. NOT all men are total tossers!!!

Think about it logically, we are all VERY different.

How would you feel if he judged you by the jealous ex he just left cos she gave him grief every time he fancied a drink with his mates?

Relax. He likes you. He was even thinking about you when he was out with his mates. How cool is that! :flowerforyou:

What is it they say "Alcohol doesn't change you but it might bring the real you out." Those guys just let the alcohol bring the real them out which was cheating a-holes. This guy instead of cheating called you. Remember that while he was out drinking on vacation in Spain with the boys he thought about you enough to call you.

Ate a lot of late night driving food, drank a lot of take home pay...


Whenever anyone blames alcohol on anything, whether it be poor dancing, abhorrent comments or why I had to pull them off a guy with a gun the night before, I want to punch them in the throat.

I think it would be a better world if someone got punched in the throat whenever they fail to own up for their actions.

For a more serious response, I hope you're able to overcome this. I've been in your boyfriend's position before and it absolutely sucks. The girl I was sort of seeing had been hurt by literally almost every male in her life and I don't think she ever did trust me. I don't think if I was the second coming of Christ himself that she would have trusted me. (And I gave her absolutely zero reason not to trust me). Looking back I wish I bolted back when it first became obvious. Instead I showed the patience of an angel, and all it did was come back to bite me because I just grew closer to her, but her trust issues only led to more hardship. It just sucked constantly feeling like you're on pins and needles every conversation. And the worst part of it is overtime I became super agreeable and non-confrontational which is totally not me, I'm typically an extremely opinionated *kitten* who never apologizes for my opinions.