As far as immediate family all I have is one older brother.
Since we don`t talk all that much he would probably be surprised to learn of it because he likely would have no idea I was seeing someone.
He is going to be moving away from this area in the next year I presume and will no doubt have less contact so really isn`t much of an issue for me.

I think my family would be excited, more specifically my mom and dad. They are getting a bit older (Mom just turned 70; Dad turned 76 back in May) and I know that while they do not come out and say it, they would like to see their youngest child find her soulmate. If I never married, I think they would come to accept it (what other choice would they have, really?), but I know they would be very happy to see me in love and know that I'll be taken care of after they are gone (not that I can't take care of myself, but you know what I mean).

At the same time, I guess it could be bittersweet for them, too. My parents are used to having me be able to visit spontaneously and enjoy doing things out of love for me, showing me that I'm still their "little girl" (i.e. Mom making food for me to take home; Dad looking at my car every time I'm over). Not that they couldn't still do things like that, but it obviously wouldn't be the same and would be the final confirmation that "she's all grown-up now." However, now that I am in my 30s, I do not think that feeling would outweigh their excitement (and relief....ha-ha).

My brother and sister are weird; I have no idea what they would think... I imagine they would be happy for me, too. Neither are very expressive with their feelings. I do have cousins, aunts, and uncles, but we barely know each other due to growing up in different states. My grandparents have all passed on.

So this led me to say that if I got married tomorrow or in 5 years, the majority of my family wouldn't care as much, because similarly aged family members have already done the marriage thing and that would make it less of a big deal.

It could also be the complete opposite. If you have been the lone single one in the family for a while, the day that you get engaged could be a very exciting one for everyone, especially since the others near your age are already hitched. You would not be sharing the spotlight with anyone. Had you gotten engaged back when everyone else was doing the same, some of that excitement could have easily gotten lost in the shuffle.

My parents would be thrilled. I have three older brothers ranging in age from 31 to 41 and none of them are married. It's like we're all un-marriageable for some reason...

All of my aunts and uncles that have kids who are of age have grandchildren at this point. We're the odd people out.

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Lets see..my mother would probably throw a party but remind me that she`s not paying for the wedding, my father would want to make sure I`m happy and not settling..
My brothers wouldn`t really say much and my 102 yo grandmother would start praying for more great grandchildren to give her something new to live for.

Needless to say since everyone knows how much I`d like to find love and be married they would all be happy for me so long as the guy wasn`t an a sshole. (which hopefully wouldn`t happen as I hope I`m smart enough not to let that happen).

I also am the oldest in my family of 62 first cousins to not be engaged or married..or even in a semi serious relationship..my older brother is getting married for a 2nd time this June..and out of the 11 marriages of my fathers siblings only 2 have failed..so marriage is a big deal in my family..we take it seriously and make it work. So the fact that I haven`t even come close yet..gets talked about. I think next in line are my cousin`s children ...I seriously have a feeling some will get married before I do at this rate.

Ugh. My parents would be the happiest people on earth. I can't tell you how often I get the "I really wish you'd hurry up and get married so we can have grandkids" speech. As if I'd immediately have a child just because I got married....

My sister (39) and my brother (29) are not married so I think we all felt a little bit of pressure from my mom who has a grandchild clock ticking loud in her ear but non of us have found "the one" I guess. I am not to worried as a 27 y/o woman I think I have time.

I asked my bf to meet my dad in October and I might be flying to Minnesota to meet his mom and sister. I think it is exciting and I think my mom would be happy for any of us kids if we were getting married. My dad would be indifferent. My extended family would be thrilled if we found someone worth marrying.

My siser got married and divorced in 10 months so they never really considered her married. They were together for 6 years before the wedding, owned a house together and everything. My family would probably be shocked if I got married because I have always says I would elope to Vegas. I don't want a big wedding and would rather my family stays out of the whole ceremonie all together. So they would probably find out after the fact.

This could change though since my mom has cancer so I find someone and she is still around I might do something just to please her.

I think my family would be thrilled if they found out I was to get married again.....as long as they liked the guy, and if he has kids even better, as they love to spoil grandchildren, and I can't have my own. I have 2 younger sisters that are each on their second marriage--I really don't think either marriage will fail, and my "baby" sister (34) is talking marriage with her much older boyfriend (he is 50), and they have 2 chidren together. We would prefer her not to marry as we don't think she is happy with him, more she stays because he is the father of her children, and she does not want to be a single mom.

When my mother was alive, she had both my brother and sister's large wedding photos showcased on a wall of their very own with a big, blank space between them (I'm the middle child).

I always hated that wall...lol