First date ideas/free or little cost suggestions.
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I'd just try to find events going on... Maybe go to the zoo. I don't think that costs too much.
I don't know what kind of stuff that your area has, but you could look for fall stuff. Like Harvest Festivals, apple picking, hay rides, haunted houses. These things all tend to be relatively cheap and super fun! Just find something fun to do, and engage her in it. If it's fun, it will be memorable, if it's memorable then better dates will follow.0 -
I will probably get jumped on for this but why is is considered okay for a lady to look for a monetary expenditure as a qualifier for acceptance?
It seems to boil down to "spend money on me and I will consider liking you".
While I am very happy to do that with a lady I like,if it becomes a test (as I have said here before) without appreciation then I probably don`t want you as a lady.
Just go into it folks with an open mind to get to know the person and whether it is a guy with looking for sex or a woman assigning emotional value to money spent you need to let it go.
I really hate to do this, but I have to agree with the ladies on here.
From the beginning of time that man has been around, it's been the men's job to 'woo' the woman. Thousands of years ago, men use to fight to the death to get a woman's attention, now all we need to do is buy her a few drinks. Much easier by today's standards.
I have to agree though, women who are constantly courted by men have a build up sense of self entitlement where they think every man, who stands a chance with them, needs to buy them stuff. I've encountered these women in my life and have gladly put them in their place.0 -
I will probably get jumped on for this but why is is considered okay for a lady to look for a monetary expenditure as a qualifier for acceptance?
It seems to boil down to "spend money on me and I will consider liking you".
While I am very happy to do that with a lady I like,if it becomes a test (as I have said here before) without appreciation then I probably don`t want you as a lady.
Just go into it folks with an open mind to get to know the person and whether it is a guy with looking for sex or a woman assigning emotional value to money spent you need to let it go.
**Throws Carl a flame!!! :noway:
It's nothing to do with spending money ON her for acceptance :grumble: Many women in here have said many times that they have no issue with simple, cheap dates!!
Yes, this.
Some of my favorite dates (and a few awful ones) were a walk around town or by the local river, park, etc. with a simple cup of coffee. And a few where my dog tagged along even! How much money a guy spends has no impact on how I feel about him...if anything I will be rather uncomfortable if he spends a lot (call me the opposite of a gold digger I guess :laugh:).
Free might be hard to maintain just because it will be harder to find activities that don't cost anything, but it can be done if you keep your eyes open for local events and festivals. Or check our local university listings too. But if nothing else, going for coffee is still acceptable, as is ice cream, bowling, or museum visits, etc...
Janard, This is a great topic!0 -
These are great suggestions and ideas for dates.
Of course I'm not going to ask the woman over to my house on the first date, unless she's an escort, haha.
I do live in a big city, therefore, there are a lot of options, however, a bigger city can mean expensive dining.
I like the zoo and outdoor idea, however, that only attracts a certain type of woman.
I have came across women who were more materialistic and wanted to do things on a higher scale. I don't mind that but that's not me. I can't financially handle that lifestyle, therefore, I tend to go for more down to Earth and simple women.
Coffee dates are fun too..however, that gets old and typical.. I would like to switch it up. I do like the idea that DM was mentioning, hitting up the boardwalk at the beach and perhaps grabbing a drink afterwards.
In conclusion, I think I have to do my research before offering to take a women out because some dates I end up spending over $50 - $75 on average.
There has been dates under $20 which is cool but some have been very pricey for it not to go anywhere..
I'm not trying to be "cheap" but I'm not trying to spend a great amount of money on dates, considering the chances of it being a second date.
If money is an issue for me, then perhaps I should not date until my finances are right, but on my opinion, it's pretty decent where I am able to go out and date a little.
Thanks again for the advice!
Perhaps I'll post my first date on here. Wish me luck on Okcupid. HAHA.
Jarnard0 -
My favourite free (or inexpensive) date ideas include picnics in the park, outings to a local farmer's market, bike rides around town, and going to a museum. I also really enjoy local festivals, like October-fest, or fall harvest festivals because they usually have good (and often free) music which can be fun.
If you live near (or in) a big city, you might also want to look into something called UrbanQuests (http://www.urbanquest.com/). It's a company that sells urban scavenger hunts. The quests themselves cost around 20$, but if you have a friend who would also like doing it, you can print them off as many times as you'd like and re-do them (thus splitting the cost). As an added bonus (though you can only do it once), you can set the quest as such that upon successfully completing it, you are directed to your "prize", which can be either lunch or dinner reservations at a local pub or restaurant. A free alternative to this would be to make your own scavenger hunt around town.
Oktober fest is right around the corner.. That's a good idea. I could take a date there and perhaps grab a drink or two there. Scavenger hunt could be a cool group date idea.
Thanks!
Jarnard0 -
Check groupon.
They usually have deals for act ivies you can use. When you use the coupon just don't be obvious about using it. Also some of the coupons you can redeem online so the date would never even know.0 -
If that's not you, then don't pursue them to begin with because what will you really have in common anyway?I have came across women who were more materialistic and wanted to do things on a higher scale. I don't mind that but that's not me. I can't financially handle that lifestyle, therefore, I tend to go for more down to Earth and simple women.
I definitely don't see a discussion of this topic as anyone being cheap, it's just realistic. That said, I would not hold off on dating until your finances are set (unless you are in huge amounts of debt maybe). The right woman will just want to spend time with you and what you spend won't matter. :flowerforyou:I'm not trying to be "cheap" but I'm not trying to spend a great amount of money on dates, considering the chances of it being a second date.
If money is an issue for me, then perhaps I should not date until my finances are right, but on my opinion, it's pretty decent where I am able to go out and date a little.0
