"What are you looking for?"
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I used to have one requirement that I always thought I would never set aside. THat he had to be taller then me. Then in strolls Mr. Nice Guy who is just about my height maybe 1/2 an inch shorter and that rule flew out the window. For me all the other traits are personality based. Is he into the same music, does he make me laugh ect .ect.
Now I know ladies who are like he must be blah blah blah and make so much money and yada yada. Most of them are long time singles and not very happy with themselves. Dont get me wrong an Idea of what you would like in a partner is good. But definant perameters can make you pass someone by who you may really like0 -
I think i am like the others .. I know what I don't want. Smoker, drinker, drugs, mean, can't communicate. Hmm .. I guess that could be a list of what I want as well .. the positive spin on it ..
Non-drinker, non-smoker, nice, can communicate and will kiss me whenever I want. lol0 -
I have a few absolute requirements - none of them physical, but to do with being 'of good character', to use an old-fashioned, but still highly-desirable phrase - a number of highly-desirables, all of which are negotiable to some degree or other, and a variety of "wouldn't it be nice" ideas, all of which are basically irrelevant, but would be fun.
Like most people here, I think it's good to know what you absolutely must see in a prospective partner - whatever you really couldn't live with/without (a sense of honour and generosity of spirit are my top two, followed close behind by intelligence and a sense of humour) - and what you absolutely couldn't cope with (A history of dishonesty, irresponsibility, and a complete lack of commitment/drive/ambition are my absolute-no's). It's also good to have some ideas about what else you might like or dislike, but to stay flexible about those things that matter less in the grand scheme of things. The former suggests you've sat down at some point and thought about what really matters to you, and consequently, who you are. The latter is a natural part of being human, and it's fun, as nlong as you don't take it too seriously!0 -
I feel having a checklist mentality when searching for a match is a recipe for disappointment. I think you should definitely have some core qualities that you expect a person to have, but otherwise, you really limit yourself from meeting some potentially great people.
For the most part, we all have our deal breakers, but I’ve never gone so far as to list them out on paper. So technically, I could “make” a list of things that are deal breakers like smokers, drunks, people unwilling to work out with and stay fit with me….there are some things I really “want” in my next partner, but I’m not so rigid that I would not try to get to know them. Maybe something I don’t like about them is something they are working hard to change and a few words of encouragement from me is all it takes? A good partner helps you become an even better version of yourself after all.
Things I won’t compromise on are:
Communication: It must be good
Sex: I’ll never date someone that is disinterested in maintaining an interesting & fun physical relationship
Fitness: As I have adopted being active as my lifestyle, NEED a partner that will share in this with me. I want her to love the endorphin highs, I want to push one another to reach new goals
I could go on…but I think you get the gist of it….I don’t have a list of physical traits, as I have fell head over heals, stupid, crazy in love with women of a variety of shapes!0 -
I just had to share because this made me laugh tonight as I logged on to Facebook... one of those cheesy horoscopes I love to giggle at...
"Angie honey, make a list of qualities you look for in a mate. This is a confusing time for you, so organization is very important. You must avoid getting sidetracked in your quest for love."
SEE?! That's why you need the list!!! Just kidding, I'm already sidetracked....0
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