1. Yes, you can ask her out then and there as opposed to waiting to call. However, I agree that you need at least a bit of a conversation first to determine if you're even remotely compatible. Otherwise she knows you're only asking her out based on looks, which can seem creepy.

2. You should absolutely give online dating a chance. Try free sites like Plenty of Fish or Ok Cupid - I've found these to be about equal, but what you find really depends on your area of the country and age range. Don't waste your money on Eharmony or Match. Happy to help if you need thoughts on your profile. Good luck! :flowerforyou:

Misread this so deleted my first response because I took the context entirely differently.

I say go for it and do not set a hypothetical time line on it.

1. I thought of this in the shy people thread, but, seems to be a lot going on in there right now. Can a guy, think a girl's cute and ask her out on the spot? For me, that has always seemed forward, for whatever reason, and I figured it would make more sense to ask her for her number, and then call her and ask her out, does it matter?

2. Been debating online dating a lot, as I am getting more and more discontent being single, and having 100 friends that also translate into 50 couples. How many of you do it? What sites? Do you like it? Any luck? I'm 21, still in college, but there is literately, 1 or 2 girls I will cross paths with in my next 2 years (no exaggeration, gen ed's are done, and I am in the tech building here on out), is that still too young? I am not shy at all, but breaking that ice with the first approach is the hardest ever.

Just looking for input, please and thanks.

1. Yes, absolutely! I have done that before. If you've got something good in an in person interaction, ask her to do something then and there. You can also get her number after she's agreed to do whatever it is that you are planning to do with her. This method works best if there's a common activity. If you both like to play basketball, you could shoot hoops together.

2. Instead of online dating, I would focus on participating in some female friendly extracurricular activities. But make sure that you like them as well. You could take an exercise class, play volleyball, play tennis, do something where you know you'll have fun and that there will be females around. College is a great opportunity. Almost everyone is unmarried, and many are unattached. You won't get an opportunity like this after college. Make the most of it! Find women on campus, and go for it!

Man I hear ya, I am far from shy, I talk to women all the time. But its always short conversation s
Like in line at the store, or even pumping gas. But a one or two minute convo doesn't seem like long enough
To ask for a number, or a date. And the worst part, is I never run into any of these ladies agian ever.
Screw it next woman I talk to, I'm just going to ask for her number. Scientific experiment!

You can try POF its total free, not like all the other BS dating sites

Man I hear ya, I am far from shy, I talk to women all the time. But its always short conversation s
Like in line at the store, or even pumping gas. But a one or two minute convo doesn't seem like long enough
To ask for a number, or a date. And the worst part, is I never run into any of these ladies agian ever.
Screw it next woman I talk to, I'm just going to ask for her number. Scientific experiment!

You can try POF its total free, not like all the other BS dating sites

I hear that. However, I did get a number about a week ago, but was too big of a pansy to call, which was combined with my lack of money, and knowing my own schedule this weekend to even ask for a date.

But I made an account on PoF last night and almost immediately found someone who's super pretty, and we have a TON in common, she's about an hour away, but I got her number and am hoping to maybe see her this weekend.

That was quick! I think you'll have good luck online dating!

1. Depends on the situation. If I am walking down the street, no way. But the other day I was in line at a grocery store. This nice man about my age, with no ring on his finger, started chatting with me (or I with him....dont remember who started) anyway we chatted while the nice lady in front of us first made the girl run back for a buy one get one free jar of something, then 1% milk because she got 2%...................THEN I swear she paid in pennies:laugh:

Point is we were chatting for 15 minutes. I could tell he wanted to ask me out or get my number, and I kick myself in the butt for not asking if he was single and interested.

The one thing with asking her out right there is the dreaded REJECTION. IF she says "No thank you" it is much more awkward than on the telephone.

2. I have found a better group of people on the pay dating sites. Kind of like taking i-95 or the turnpike. Someone on the turnpike at least can pay for tolls:laugh:

BUT............always a but! I have played on POF, and have had friends meet GREAT people on there.

Good luck, you are a great guy!:flowerforyou:

I have a POF account but nothing has ever come of it.
On OKCupid, I have met a couple of girls in person that turned into relationships lasting several months to about a year.