Joselo

I have been there. I have done that. Heck I've even got my tshirt in multiple sizes.

And I can hand on heart, say to you it does work. It's not degrading yourself to get some attention, hell everyone likes a compliment (and the good thing about chubby chasers - those boys have the BEST cake!) but for yourself it wont make you feel any better long term. I used to be on pretty much all the gay sites you can think of and the chubby chasers loved me. (I was the "put out after a date kinda guy). But looking back over it, I regret it now. Not because of the naughties, cause at the time it can be empowering in a strange way, but when I met the hubby he saw past the chubby and saw *me* and that was what mattered. I met him in a club, not on a website.

I'm not here to tell you how to live your life and having done the chubby chaser thing I'm not one to judge but I just kinda wanted to point out to you, the fact that your having doubts and asking about it, I think you know your answer. You're worth more matey, you really are. If your looking for a b/f it will happen and until then - enjoy being YOU cause from what I've seen on my list you're a really nice guy. And hey if your getting "urges" that wont quit - they sell stuffs to help with that (hint - FLESHJACKS!!)

Send me a PM if your ever down buddy

James
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Hi der!

I've been on biggercity, bear411, pretty much you name a bear/chub site and I've been on it. What I find on those sites are there are fetishists, but there are also just guys who happen to dig bigger guys. They're not "fetishizing" you, they just happen to like that body size. My current partner I actually met on one of the sites and he's that way. He just happens to dig a bigger guy. Which is funny, because so do I and he's not a bigger guy LOL

But seriously, my onion is thus: you're a beautiful person. Don't ever let anyone tell you that you aren't. I would recommend being wary of those guys who only want to grab onto your love handles. They're not worth it. But the guys who take the time to get to know you? Those are the ones worth hanging out with. You'll definitely find one to hang with. He might not be love material, but he might be friend material - and sometimes those are really the best kind to have. And who knows, you might end up like me, where it went from hook-up, to friends with benefits, to love.

Guilt is a wasted emotion. Don't bother with it. If you do/did something you realize later sucked, meh. Learning experience. I had a few of those with those guys who liked to grab onto my love handles ;-)

hmm incidentally i've had better luck on non-chubby chaser sites...pof, adam4adam, gay.com in particular. Don't limit yourself, you never know what you'll catch but you gotta put yourself out there