Only child syndrome??
MelodyinGa
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I have a beautiful 6 year daughter. Last night, she was cleaning her playroom and came into the kitchen where I was cleaning with tears streaming down her face. I asked her what was wrong. Her reply, "I just feel sad mommy, and I don't know why. I mean I do miss daddy (he lives in PA and us in GA), Bethany left (her 22 yo cousin was down for a visit from NY), and Princess Lolli and Sally (her previous dogs that were killed), but that's not why I'm sad." I just responded that everyone feels sad sometimes, especially girls. It's called hormones and we all have them. I talked to a friend who is was the only child and she said it is the "only child syndrome". This makes me sad for I am pretty sure I will never have any more children. She has her 2 cousins who are brothers that she loves so much and always wants to be with. I spend ALL of my time with her. Idk...thoughts?
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We're so much alike it's eerie! My son is 6, his dad is in MD, and I'm in GA. He is kind of an only child - he's never grown up around a sibling. He has a half brother in MD. I've never heard of only child syndrome quite like that - and perhaps since I have a boy it's a little bit different. I think most everyone has grown up with, or is growing up with, something that makes their situation "atypical". I remember hating that our house wasn't in a neighborhood so I never had any friends to play with. The important thing is to do just what you did - acknowledge her feelings and let her know it's okay to be sad sometimes. It might be a good idea to encourage some fun exercise for her... i think endorphins are the cure all for any sort of emotional rollercoasters we sometimes feel - regardless of what age we are :-)0
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I have two children and sometimes my oldest (an 11 year old boy) will break down in tears for absolutely no reason. This has happened on and off since the divorce 4 years ago and there are no triggers. I think sometimes things just get overwhelming. My ex-husband is in FL (we're in VA), making visits few and far between. I have noticed that my son does get a little more emotional after we've been doing traditional family things (holidays, church, school functions, baseball games). You know the times when "everyone" else has a dad with them, except for him. But, he also has small outbursts when he gets frustrated with just too much going on.... a busy week, too much noise, etc.
Hang in there. Just give her hugs and love and let her know that everything is going to be alright.
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I'm glad I'm not alone in this. Thank you both so much!0
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I guess it's just life. Everyone has ups and downs and just as there are moments of sadness, there will be moments of hapiness.0
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Awe! It just breaks your heart doesn't it. I have a 4 year old daughter, and I live in upstate NY and he is 4 hours away in the city. She cries about missing daddy a lot. They do skype which helps maintain a close relationship a couple of times a week, but he only sees her about every 2 months or so. Those stretches are so hard on her. Try the skype thing, it may help. I think you handled it very well explaining that we all get sad sometimes and that's ok. Good luck0
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Awww, poor baby!0
