My story
SimplyAmy70
Posts: 14 Member
I am so glad you are here! I thought I would start by telling alittle bit about myself.
My husband Joel and I married in April 2010. I had 2 daughters ages 13 and 10 at the time, and he had a son who was 17 and two daughters ages 15 and 13. His children lived with mom and my children lived with us. The kids got along just fine and my girls adored Joel. His children and I started out great, but their mom wasnt too happy about that and I was told I could only ask basic questions when the kids would visit and they were not allowed to get too close to me. I know this happens sometimes but its never easy. The day after we got married, Joels children and their mother were in an accident and their mother passed away. We also almost lost his son. This was a very hard time. And if the relationship between me and the kids was rocky before, it got worse after. Out of respect for their mom, they have never accepted me. I leave that door open, but have had my heart broken many times. Joels son recovered and is in college, as is his oldest daughter. His youngest is with us and ever day is a challange. I try not to take it personally, but it can be hard. I have to live one day at a time.
It seems shallow to say but, with everything happening, i went into a depression and food was my refuge. My highest weight was 291 pounds. I struggle with this alot. But being on MFP and having friends who support me has helped me alot. When I started on here I was at 274 and now am at 244. My goal weight is 160. I know I can do this! And with love and support and faith, it will be done!
I want to thank you all for joining this group and I hope others will open up and share. I hope to make more friends and look forward to hearing other stories!
My husband Joel and I married in April 2010. I had 2 daughters ages 13 and 10 at the time, and he had a son who was 17 and two daughters ages 15 and 13. His children lived with mom and my children lived with us. The kids got along just fine and my girls adored Joel. His children and I started out great, but their mom wasnt too happy about that and I was told I could only ask basic questions when the kids would visit and they were not allowed to get too close to me. I know this happens sometimes but its never easy. The day after we got married, Joels children and their mother were in an accident and their mother passed away. We also almost lost his son. This was a very hard time. And if the relationship between me and the kids was rocky before, it got worse after. Out of respect for their mom, they have never accepted me. I leave that door open, but have had my heart broken many times. Joels son recovered and is in college, as is his oldest daughter. His youngest is with us and ever day is a challange. I try not to take it personally, but it can be hard. I have to live one day at a time.
It seems shallow to say but, with everything happening, i went into a depression and food was my refuge. My highest weight was 291 pounds. I struggle with this alot. But being on MFP and having friends who support me has helped me alot. When I started on here I was at 274 and now am at 244. My goal weight is 160. I know I can do this! And with love and support and faith, it will be done!
I want to thank you all for joining this group and I hope others will open up and share. I hope to make more friends and look forward to hearing other stories!
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Wow, it is sometimes very difficult with children who are past a certain age (usually preteen-teen) and especially with such a traumatic event as losing their mother as well.
I was never married, but my first daughter is not of my own blood. Her biological dad never had anything to do with her and still disavows her to this day. I help raise her since she was 4 and she's now 21. I was with her mother for 11 years, and we had another daughter who is now 12. The mother is has been since married for about five years, and I've been single for about six years.0 -
well I joined up to support Amy (mainly to spread the word about this group)....although I am not a step parent and I'm not sure how long I will stay in the groupI do have a background in child development and know quite a bit about behavior modification techniques (I am a speech-language pathologist). I typically work with infants and toddlers but I find that many of the techniques are quite effective with people of all ages (sometimes I test them out on my husband...shhhh) ...In all seriousness I help the families I work with solve all sorts of problems so I am happy to lend an ear,an objective perspective or advice when I think it might be helpful--Great idea to start this group Amy :-D
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Thank you!!! I appreciate you being here! I was so glad to read our post and find out more about you. I have worked with children for the past 11 years. Ages 6 weeks to 5 years. I am currently working with 6 week to 18 month olds at a Child Development Center in the city I live in. And altho I do not have my degree, I am planning on returning to school after 25 years to get my Early Childhood Education Degree!0
