Mixed signals
veggiehottie
Posts: 590 Member
Ugh! I am so frustrated with this man whom I cant figure out if he is interested... He is a friend at work. Body language is excellent, I always catch him looking at me, BUT he never initiates conversations... I always have to do it. We could go days without talking if i did not start it.
And then a month ago he was kinda inviting me to something, but I could not go, so offered up that I could go later in the month, and he has not invited me again.
I am thinking about just asking him to go myself, but have been in TOO many relationships where the guy was only half involved. I need to know that my next guy is really into me.
Do guys still pursue women? Should I take this as a sign that "he is just not that into me"?
And then a month ago he was kinda inviting me to something, but I could not go, so offered up that I could go later in the month, and he has not invited me again.
I am thinking about just asking him to go myself, but have been in TOO many relationships where the guy was only half involved. I need to know that my next guy is really into me.
Do guys still pursue women? Should I take this as a sign that "he is just not that into me"?
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Sounds to me like he's scared, anxious or super careful.0
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Would it make him less interested if I just asked him to hang out?
I am really old-fashioned, usually like the guy to ask first... But don't want to lose my chance with him, if I even have one left.
He might have already lost interest... I can't tell because I still get the staring and smiling going on. But then I also think that if he really liked me he would have asked me out already!
Loooooove your profile pic, by the way!0 -
He could be super shy, maybe he likes you but doesn't dip his pen in company ink....if you aren't againt work relationships, go for it....I'd rather fail & move on than have regrets because I didn't at least try.0
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So, yeah. Wanted to invite him to something happening tonight, but did not have the chance to do it in person.
Emailed him instead, yesterday afternoon. He wrote back and said he would forward to his personal email and get back to me.
As of now, he has not answered if he wants to go. Guess that is my answer, right???
I don't work with him in my office, he is in a completely different department. BUT do go to the gym with him, daily. Monday is going to be reeeeaaallly awkward.
You are right, though. At least I did it! Now no more wondering.
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Or maybe a day isn't enough time to let him answer? IDK. Just considering getting back into dating after a long time but IMHO making a judgment less than 24 hours aftering contacting him seems a bit premature. Maybe Monday has in store a great chat? But again, I am REALLY out of practice...Godd luck!0
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Yes, you were right... I did not give him enough time. Bad call on my part.
Very soon after I wrote that, he contacted me, and we ended up going!!
Of course the result of last night is that I now know that we are TOTALLY in the friend zone. There was no flirting at all on his part, and we ended the night with a big, friendly hug.
I really like him, too. So am disappointed. BUT perhaps he will become an awesome friend. 0 -
Sorry to hear that but nothing ventured, etc., etc. An awesome friend wouldn't be a bad result either. Onwards & upwards.0
