Mr. XYZ or Miss ABC...
farmers_daughter
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Question, Observation....and yes I'm guilty of it, allow myself to throw myself under le` bus.
So I know we don't know eachother on here by a first name basis (well some of us do but regardless...) and we sure dont know the people we are dating on a first name basis.... with that said.
The people we see daily, like friends, family, co-workers are on a first name basis with us right? (Yes I have a point... lemme get to it)
The people you date....are they on a first name basis with your friends, family, co-workers? I know alot of us, example me. Call dates by a "nickname" Mr. Cowboy Hat, Mr. Army Dude, Mr. Whatshisbutt.
First of all why?
And here's the observation part.... Guy I dated got the name "Whathisbutt" becuase people at work couldn't remember his name so I just gave up and started calling him that, it caught on. So one day Josh, (his real name) heard that at the time didn't phase him. We quit dating and later chatted about another guy I dated after Josh....off the cuff, not thinking I called him "Whatshisbutt" (the new guy)
So Josh - kind of bummed about it, said that sent mixed signals to him.... in which we then changed the subject and talked about race cars.:blushing:
But I could just see the look of puzzlement on his face. Like I had just called him fat or ugly or something else really nasty.
How would you feel if you were the one being called the "nickname". Personally I am ok with bein called "My ol' lady". But never thought about if I was being called "what'sherbutt" to my SO's friends, co-workers, not necessarily family, I'd think they'd get first name basis but hey....
Thoughts?
So I know we don't know eachother on here by a first name basis (well some of us do but regardless...) and we sure dont know the people we are dating on a first name basis.... with that said.
The people we see daily, like friends, family, co-workers are on a first name basis with us right? (Yes I have a point... lemme get to it)
The people you date....are they on a first name basis with your friends, family, co-workers? I know alot of us, example me. Call dates by a "nickname" Mr. Cowboy Hat, Mr. Army Dude, Mr. Whatshisbutt.
First of all why?
And here's the observation part.... Guy I dated got the name "Whathisbutt" becuase people at work couldn't remember his name so I just gave up and started calling him that, it caught on. So one day Josh, (his real name) heard that at the time didn't phase him. We quit dating and later chatted about another guy I dated after Josh....off the cuff, not thinking I called him "Whatshisbutt" (the new guy)
So Josh - kind of bummed about it, said that sent mixed signals to him.... in which we then changed the subject and talked about race cars.:blushing:
But I could just see the look of puzzlement on his face. Like I had just called him fat or ugly or something else really nasty.
How would you feel if you were the one being called the "nickname". Personally I am ok with bein called "My ol' lady". But never thought about if I was being called "what'sherbutt" to my SO's friends, co-workers, not necessarily family, I'd think they'd get first name basis but hey....
Thoughts?
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LOL well, I understand why we call our dates by nicknames on online forums since it gives us a sense of anonymity.
As for people that we know IRL, I guess it's just something that we do so we don't overuse their name in conversation. For instance, a lot of my dates/boyfriends had many nicknames in private conversation.0 -
I call BB "BB" because for awhile I was going out with a different guy almost every time I’d post and it was easier to label them by something that distinguishes them. BB stands for Beard Burn, which I had a most unpleasant experience with (and posted to this board about). In fact, it is going on the 4th month since that happened and I still have the scar.
I doubt he knows I call him BB in this forum, but I suspect he’d find it funny.0 -
TBH, most people near and dear to me get called by nicknames! I'm always giving people nicknames and I'm known to most of my friends as Scooby, Pixie or Bananna!! (Different names from different people!! lol)
I'm kinda fond of nicknames. Why? I find it endearing :bigsmile:
On here, I think we use nicknames initially, for privacy, but then they stick :flowerforyou:
As for your guy, when a name sticks then it's your's. It belongs to you, I'd be bummed if my ex started calling his new g/f Pixie. It's MY nickname!!
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I love nicknames! It's a sign of endearment for me. Though I can understand with people you don't know super well coming up with something to remember you by. I would chuckle if someone called me "whatsherbutt" - one could assume they were talking about my fine bootay!0
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Guys I date get nicknames with my friends until we're serious. I guess this is a way for me to show that it's still on that low level. Once we're exclusive, then I drop the nickname.0
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I used to call my young guy .. Jersey to my family. Because he is from New Jersey and I didn't want to make a big deal about it to my family .. so I would just so .. Jersey is coming down this weekend .. or something like that. They would call him that too. We broke up before they ever found out his name .. so I guess it was for the best.0
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Nicknames are funny... I have a bunch! Sham, Peanut, Thom, Sammy... I've only had a couple that I was unaware of and was later made aware of.
This guy at the gym apparently referred to me as "straight up and down girl" because apparently my back was really straight whenever I was doing anything. Running, lunges, whatever. I thought it was funny.
Aaaaand I have nicknames for a few people whose names I do not know.0 -
Since online dating can easily lead to dates with many different guys over the course of a few months or even a year, I tend to use a silly nickname for the guys I am dating. It's usually something that distinguishes them from the others, and generally chosen in order to help my friends keep track of them. Random names like Sherlock (he had a Brit accent and was crazy smart), Brownie (because on our first date he brought me home-made brownies), bicycle guy (this guy cycled around the city even in the dead of a Canadian winter), and my favourite teacher!boy. I tend to only divulge real names once things have gotten somewhat serious, or if someone insists on knowing.
I guess in a way, giving them a nickname also makes it easier in case there are for multiple guys with the same name. For example, I'd dated multiple Davids' (2 in high school, another in Uni, and another since then), so keeping them apart can be challenging.0 -
My friends and I give our crushes and people we want to talk about in public nicknames...and they're random and usually mean nothing about the person!0
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I'm kind of sad. Nobody ever calls me by a nickname :sad:
I quite like nicknames too. I think they're cute and fun!0 -
There was one time a female co-worker, who was very sweet and brought me in some cupcakes for my birthday. She gave me two massive hugs, and another co-worker buddy saw the whole spectacle. Ever since then, he and I go on about my potential "cupcakes". LOL0
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My friends always have nicknames for our "dates". Now, when it become serious the nicknames go away but in those early stages when people are seeing a few people it's easier to give them "names" than use their real ones, especially when that friend dated a guy with the same real first name for awhile previously. Sometimes it's just hard to keep up...
A friend now is 32, she's dating a 26 year old (not serious, but they've been dating for months now) and I call him "jailbait" only because when she first started talking about him she kept saying "he's just so young" or "I think I'm a cougar"...0 -
I'm kind of sad. Nobody ever calls me by a nickname :sad:
I quite like nicknames too. I think they're cute and fun!
Hmmmm, well now we'll have to think of a good one for you :huh:0 -
To be honest I give nicknames here and on the phone with friends and family who live far away. I just makes it easier for them to keep track of who I'm talking about. I've never slipped and called anyone by their nickname infront of them though0
