Hi There,

I did meet someone and had a relationship that lasted a couple of years, that was about 6 years ago.. I haven't dated much the last few years.. I am on an online dating site but am finding it difficult.. I think in part because I have some weight to lose so not feeling the greatest about my self.. some sites are better than others.. free sites tend to attract everyone.. esp pp looking for casual encounters. at least that was my experience.. good luck..

I've met some great men through online dating, just not the one. I have a few friends that have gotten married as a result of online dating as well. Some that I would never have expected to be online.

I met my ex hubby on line, was with him 5 yrs, met alt of other people too. My mum met her hubby online, they are still together n its been over 5 yrs. my friend met her bf onlne too, so yeah there are alot of gd sites to find a partner x

I have tried several of them myself Plentyoffish, Match, Okcupid and it seems that MEN have the same issues well maybe not exactly the same but BELIEVE me there are some Strange women out there. So I dont get beat up on that comment let me explain: The women I have met and maybe this is a geographic issue all want the same thing (this is NO lie) after say 1 or 2 dates its straight into commitment mode. I mean no courtship no lets take time to get to know one another its straight into "I cant wait to marry you".. GAH!!! Call me old fashioned but I would really like to meet someone that I can take my time to get to know and COURT. I dont want to JUMP into a Committed relationship unless I am ABSOLUTELY sure this is someone I want to ALWAYS be with.

My very first date turned out to be a STALKER!! yes no LIE here she freaking stalked me and I had to get mean (verbally on the phone) with her. I have 2 precious kids and Well no one is going to make me or them feel uncomfortable in my own place..

So I have just given up entirely on those dating sites... I believe if someone is meant to be with me and finally fall head over heels for me as I would them then it will just happen...

I have met and dated a couple guys from dating sites, but found they had more issues than cosmo magazine. I am not ready to JUMP into anything head first. I want to be courted, call me old fashioned but I guess I am. I want to get to know someone's mind, heart and soul, before anything can move forward.

My biggest pet peeve, is how men I have encountered find it acceptable to say some vile things to a woman and think it is acceptable. Example, a guy said he would love to take me to dinner, but only if I gave him a happy ending at the end of the night. SMH - really? Men asking about the size of my rack, shaving habits, really? If I have not even met you, what makes you think you are entitled to that information????

I have taken myself off those dating sites. Maybe one day I will find a guy who knows how to treat a woman like she deserves to be treated, because he would be treated like a king for treating me right.

I've had some great dates, met some interesting people...honestly, people are people. You can meet good or bad people in person, online, thru friends...so I would ignore the stigma some people have for it and just treat it as another means to meet people. Just read up on "online dating tips" because there may be some things you may not think of in regards to safety. Do EVERYONE a favor and post plenty of RECENT photos. Post both headshots and full body shots. Get some of you doing the activities/hobbies you enjoy. Also, be honest, the truth comes out anyhow. Those people that get creative with the photography will usually be disappointed. I can’t count the times I met up with someone that was creative with the photos to find out that they lied about their “average” body type and were clinically obese. Being misleading with the photos that a person posts on their profile is just a form of lying in my opinion. Usually the first thing I think if they got all creative hiding their body type with the photos they posted is, “what else are the hiding or misleading me about”?

I feel you just need to be up front and honest because that way the people that are interested in you, are likely interested in the “real” you and won’t be getting disappointed when things don’t match up as well in reality as they did on the profile. I would rather understate myself on my profile and leave some “wow” factor when we meet up.

All of my friends and I have, Dated one for two years and am trying again!

I think that online dating is no different than meeting someone through friends or at a grocery store or a bar. You really don't know a person until.. well.. you know them. Someone can be a GREAT friend to someone but lousy in a relationship. I met my first husband through friends and they were all shocked after he became very very very physically and mentally abusive. Not only did I lose my self respect but some friendships as well. Well, I chose to separate myself from those friendships because I just felt safer knowing that I didn't have ANY connection to him what so ever. So I feel better about online dating than meeting through friends. I have made a couple good friends from online dating sites, and had a couple dates that went really well but I didn't take it further. I am not looking for a relationship though, just people to hang out with so I make it clear that I am willing to go hang out or out on a date but not build a relationship. Have to watch out for the ones that take that as friends with benefits or one night stands. I find honesty works best and I make it clear that I am not offering either of those and it has worked for me. I have not met any creepers in person from any of those sites. I am picky about who I meet though, as should anyone be. Don't give out your address, meet in public places and if you are building a relationship.. I would wait at least a month of dating before they see where you live. That to me though is if I meet someone anywhere. Anyone can be a stalker, doesn't have to be from the internet. Really know someone before you give them a perfect way to get to you.

A couple of times and it's always been....not great.

I may try EHarmony now though if for nothing else than practice. I don't want to forget how to be on a date.

I think sites like these or social media sites (facebook , instagram etc..) work better than dating sites. Me and my ex met through friends on myspace (yeah I know myspace) and we ended up dating for 5 years. I've never liked the set up of dating specific sites because its too much of a meat market. Find a site of something you like and make friends. myFitnesspal is great for that because you'll run into many like minded individuals.

The key to me is making friendships first, that can lead to much more whether is be romantic or not.

-Joe
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