I'll have to watch it later as well. I won't say it ruined my marriage, but it definitely did a lot to F it up. Nothing we did in the bedroom was ever good enough, he always had to push the envelope further....then it was an issue that I wasn't enough. He wanted another woman (I would not agree to it so he found that on his own)....he wanted me to get implants and told me daily how I wasn't beautiful without them (I didn't cave on that either). Just a total mindf*ck that took time to get over after the divorce.

So...yeah, anyway, I'll have to watch it later and see what it has to say.

The problem in the kind of extreme situations people are describing here (above, about partners being addicted to porn) is that there is resentment on both sides and that, ultimately, nobody is ready to make a move towards the other person and the situation is basically stuck.
At this stage, and if nobody wants to make an effort towards the partner, it's probably better to accept the relationship is over.

I understand that your average woman might not want to go into the extremes shown in some porn movies, but I also understand that your average man might not want to have simply vanilla sex (and vice versa?).

My perception (and I might be totally wrong here!) is that generally speaking women are "less imaginative" when it comes to sex... less sexual maybe? With a lower sex drive on average? Or maybe it is that men have generally watched more porn and thus have just seen more ways of doing things through the screen? Maybe I'm just contaminated and will never see the world the same way again!

With porn, something that you can do is watch a movie (that you chose with the partner) while you are having sex, or go and buy a sex toy together, discuss a scenario that you are going to reproduce in bed, etc. Sex isn't just about dipping the biscuit after all... Porn can "boost" a relationship IMO.

Of course, if your partner is an unwilling @!#*&% then there is nothing you can do (i.e. they don't want to compromise at all!) - but this works both ways.
(and don't get me wrong, I agree that the posters above don't seem to have been lucky when picking their partner since in my view you should at the very least be respectful to your partner and have the strength to stop the relationship if you see it's not going where you want rather than taking it on your partner and blaming them...)

There used to be a game with porn were your would turn off the T.V. and fast forward then rewind ect then press play. Whatever they were doing on the screen you would do. The couple would take turns with the remote lol :bigsmile: -- Yeah I'm a freak lol

As for the science and research, the notion that those who quit watching porn are a control group for those who continue to watch, I think it is a BS proposition. This is known as sample selection bias. The group who quit watching are not a random subset of the population at large.

But in NO way is monogamous sex a construct imposed by women. As IF women have held that much power in regulating society and sexuality. You can say it was imposed by religion, or more likely the old all powerful church/state....but hardly women.

Ok really porn is the source of all evil hmmmm? Yeah I don't think so.