Kinky Women
will010574
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Reading through the uncommon deal breakers (amongst other threads) it has occurred to me that either the women in single peeps are more comfortable in their sexuality and more open to try new things, or most women in general are and I just keep finding the vanilla girls.
So what do we think, am I just on a boring run lately or is it just easier for the ladies to let their freak flags fly here in the virtual world but in the actual bedroom they tone it back down?
And on that note, boys and girls, do you find it easier to let your kinky side out with a one night stand or a long term partner?
So what do we think, am I just on a boring run lately or is it just easier for the ladies to let their freak flags fly here in the virtual world but in the actual bedroom they tone it back down?
And on that note, boys and girls, do you find it easier to let your kinky side out with a one night stand or a long term partner?
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Reading through the uncommon deal breakers (amongst other threads) it has occurred to me that either the women in single peeps are more comfortable in their sexuality and more open to try new things, or most women in general are and I just keep finding the vanilla girls.
So what do we think, am I just on a boring run lately or is it just easier for the ladies to let their freak flags fly here in the virtual world but in the actual bedroom they tone it back down?
And on that note, boys and girls, do you find it easier to let your kinky side out with a one night stand or a long term partner?
Either. I'm me no matter what and I'm getting mine. :happy:
Sorry, Will, I think you are just going through a rough patch of Vanilla.0 -
I would be very happy to explore my sexuality fully..if I felt I could trust my partner. So for me a one night stand is no fun at all.
But If I ever actually have a sexually experienced and imaginative partner who gives a flying fig about me and wants to actually have a relationship..hell the kink will fly and I will be a happy fulfilled woman in the bedroom for once. He doesn't seem to be around the corner though.0 -
When I was younger I didn't really have a freak flag to fly .. but as I have gotten older my sex drive has gone through the roof and I want to do it everywhere, anywhere and any which way.
There are so many things I want to do .. I just can't find anyone to do them with!
Oh .. and I don't think I could let the freak flag fly with a one night stand. Plus it takes me a couple of times with someone before I feel comfortable enough to do all the things I wanna do ..lol0 -
I think you're going through a vanilla patch... sorry. Call up your bathroom twirly from the other night.
I'm the same whether in a relationship or one night stand, however I do open up to more possibilities as the relationship grows.0 -
Too subjective. You'll have to define what you consider 'kinky' ? PM me if you like :bigsmile:0
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I am a very sexually open person. That doesn't mean that I have sex with anyone and everyone, but I do talk about it freely and have no shame in either the idea or actuality of frequent, fun, kinky sex.
I have found that a lot of women don't like to bring up kinky stuff for a multitude of reasons, but the biggest one is trust. Whether they were slut shamed fairly early on, or were with a guy that was vanilla himself and they never got a chance to experiment, or are subs and need a dom to tell them what to do, it all leads to the same thing... vanilla sex until someone communicates something. One of the common things I've found is that when I actually TALK to girlfriends about sex, I am often surprised by what they are into, or what they would like to experience and haven't found the right partner.
My best advice, is if you keep coming across vanilla girls weed them out early. I often talk about sex early on, if it's online I probably bring it up before our first date so I know if we're even potentially sexually compatible before going out with them. I do get a lot more leeway because I am a woman and guys tend to not get uppity about bringing up sex "too soon" but maybe that would just be a good way for you to find a lady that's a fit.
TL;DR: Talk more openly about what you like/want. Communication will open doors for you that you didn't know existed.0 -
Too subjective. You'll have to define what you consider 'kinky' ? PM me if you like :bigsmile:
Oh, oh! Me too! Let's have a kink party!
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I feed off the sexual energy I get from my partner. If I sense any hesitation, boundaries or uncomfotable areas for him...I reign it in pretty much, which is a shame..because then I contribute to the boring instead of changing it. But to me, there is nothing worse than asking for or initiating something and been politely rejected. Trust really is a factor.
On the other hand, if I am convinced that my body is fully desired and appreciated and I get the sense that my partner is adventurous, experienced, highly sexual and enjoys being quite dirty...I really, really love the opportunity to explore and be myself.
Sadly..I connect sexually with the classic bad boys or players usually more than with anyone I have dated or loved..though this is changing as I get older. I personally need to at least discuss sex quite early on in a relationship to figure out how compatible we are going to be..at least mentally. I have had better sexual experiences in very short term situations...sadly.
The thing is...if you can get to my mind and are dirty, intelligent, sensual, witty, romantic (in a way) and creative, there is probably very little I wouldn't want to at least try.0 -
I think the women on this board are an anomaly. I'm often amazed by how into sex many of you are! I don't know any women in real life -- myself included -- who are as interested in sex as many of the women who post here.0
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Yes please. Let's define what kind of kinky we are working with here..
I know my areas of interest!0 -
Are you dirty girls asking me what my kinky is???? I dont know that I have many boundaries at all...we can all get together in Vegas next weekend and see if we can define sexual boundaries for me or if I really am open to anything! Just a suggestion.
And for me, unlike many of you, I find the one nighters are much more adventurous. Of course, I have not dated anyone for more then 30 days in the past 5 years.... hmmm0 -
And for me, unlike many of you, I find the one nighters are much more adventurous. Of course, I have not dated anyone for more then 30 days in the past 5 years.... hmmm
Why not??0 -
Are you dirty girls asking me what my kinky is???? I dont know that I have many boundaries at all...we can all get together in Vegas next weekend and see if we can define sexual boundaries for me or if I really am open to anything! Just a suggestion.
I thought I had no boundaries until I went to a private bondage/S&M party and found them! :noway:0 -
Generally I think people act kinkier on the internet because it's more easily accepted and they don't have to necessarily back it up.0
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Are you dirty girls asking me what my kinky is???? I dont know that I have many boundaries at all...we can all get together in Vegas next weekend and see if we can define sexual boundaries for me or if I really am open to anything! Just a suggestion.
And for me, unlike many of you, I find the one nighters are much more adventurous. Of course, I have not dated anyone for more then 30 days in the past 5 years.... hmmm
No scat, pedophilia or bestiality. Ummm.... the end?
I find that one night stands are LESS adventurous. That's probably because I call back the guys that make it fun....0 -
No scat, pedophilia or bestiality. Ummm.... the end?
I would add no Blood, severe pain, or asphyxiation0 -
Generally I think people act kinkier on the internet because it's more easily accepted and they don't have to necessarily back it up.
Or the power of anonymity allows people to speak more freely, candidly and truthfully on private matters without fear of repercussions.
Or maybe people are actually how they present themselves and don't owe you, or anyone else, "proof" of such. Even if you are a tall, sexy, Adonis.
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No scat, pedophilia or bestiality. Ummm.... the end?
I would add no Blood, severe pain, or asphyxiation
I agree with severe pain. A bit of the other two is okay in my book.0 -
See why dont I meet women who say hey Bill Ive always wanted to check out an S&M party...what do you think, wanna go with me?Are you dirty girls asking me what my kinky is???? I dont know that I have many boundaries at all...we can all get together in Vegas next weekend and see if we can define sexual boundaries for me or if I really am open to anything! Just a suggestion.
I thought I had no boundaries until I went to a private bondage/S&M party and found them! :noway:
Kits yeah I agree had a girl once (in the middle of twirly) spin over and from I dont know where pull a silver serving platter and ask me to **** on her!!! No thanks and bye bye!
Anna, I have determined I am just too selfish and unwilling to change my ways for anyone to make it more then 30 days, plus 30 days ish is when I start thinking maybe she should meet the kids, and no one thus far has rated meeting the kids....so I am accepting the fact I am a great FWB/one night stand.0 -
No scat, pedophilia or bestiality. Ummm.... the end?
I would add no Blood, severe pain, or asphyxiation
And I don't share nor do I want another woman there..but otherwise I'm game.
I honestly am mostly interested in finding someone who is dom to explore my sub side.0 -
Generally I think people act kinkier on the internet because it's more easily accepted and they don't have to necessarily back it up.
I agree. Most women I've met have said how kinky they are and how much they love sex. Most turn out to be very vanilla with a much lower sex drive than I would imagine.0 -
Generally I think people act kinkier on the internet because it's more easily accepted and they don't have to necessarily back it up.
I agree. Most women I've met have said how kinky they are and how much they love sex. Most turn out to be very vanilla with a much lower sex drive than I would imagine.
Ding Ding Ding!!! We have a winner!0 -
Generally I think people act kinkier on the internet because it's more easily accepted and they don't have to necessarily back it up.
I agree. Most women I've met have said how kinky they are and how much they love sex. Most turn out to be very vanilla with a much lower sex drive than I would imagine.
Ding Ding Ding!!! We have a winner!
I think that's mostly true but I have scared off quite a few men on the first date by my knowledge of the "alternative" lifestyle as well as my honesty about some of the toys I have used on men. I wasn't so open when I was younger.... now that I've hit 40, I really don't care what anyone thinks of me so I make sure to discuss sex early. I don't want to waste my time or his if we're not compatible.0 -
CinSuccess I have a crush on you, and a boner and am ready for our first date!
edited because my boner made me misspell boner!0 -
Generally I think people act kinkier on the internet because it's more easily accepted and they don't have to necessarily back it up.
I agree. Most women I've met have said how kinky they are and how much they love sex. Most turn out to be very vanilla with a much lower sex drive than I would imagine.
Ding Ding Ding!!! We have a winner!
That is so strange. The closest I've ever gotten to something like that is the guy was bragging about how big his d*ck was. Then when he took his pants off I told him that I wasn't interested and he should find a way home.
Why lie? I don't understand.0 -
CinSuccess I have a crush on you, and a boner and am ready for our first date!
edited because my boner made me misspell boner!
Well, since you have a 30 day expiration, you just have to figure out how to come out to LA for 29 days.0 -
CinSuccess I have a crush on you, and a boner and am ready for our first date!
edited because my boner made me misspell boner!
Well, since you have a 30 day expiration, you just have to figure out how to come out to LA for 29 days.
Done!0 -
CinSuccess I have a crush on you, and a boner and am ready for our first date!
edited because my boner made me misspell boner!
I guess you are NOT the master of your boner afterall.0 -
That is so strange. The closest I've ever gotten to something like that is the guy was bragging about how big his d*ck was. Then when he took his pants off I told him that I wasn't interested and he should find a way home.
Why lie? I don't understand.
I don't think they're lying as much as they think they're more adventurous than they are. My ex used to tell me how kinky he was with his gfs when we met but the man wouldn't let me give him oral. Can you imagine?!!! I still plead total insanity as to why I stayed married to him for 6 years!0 -
That is so strange. The closest I've ever gotten to something like that is the guy was bragging about how big his d*ck was. Then when he took his pants off I told him that I wasn't interested and he should find a way home.
Why lie? I don't understand.
I don't think they're lying as much as they think they're more adventurous than they are. My ex used to tell me how kinky he was with his gfs when we met but the man wouldn't let me give him oral. Can you imagine?!!! I still plead total insanity as to why I stayed married to him for 6 years!
That actually makes quite a lot of sense. I always try and be semi-specific when discussing sex because I've found that just saying "I like sex and am kinky" doesn't narrow it down enough. You can also tell through dirty talk. I lost interest in a guy because he was trying to dirty talk me and said "I want to bang you in your bed."0
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