"Baby Blues"
TLCEsq
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Hi ladies,
This is my first time posting on this board, I had my son last Tuesday 2/12. I absolutely adore him and am so in love with him! Adjusting to the changes has been kind of rough. I went from working to not working and staying at home. The sleep deprivation has also been hard. My husband is a total rock star and goes back to work on March 1st. I go back on March 26th and will probably have a new job by then (funny how things work out). I've noticed that here and there I've just been in a "blah" mood. It's way worse at night and daytime is usually okay. I did have one bad episode this past Sunday where I couldn't stop crying. I find that when we go outside the house, even just to the doctor, it makes me feel better. It has been a week and I just want these feelings to go away! I keep reminding myself that it won't be like this forever, and my #1 priority is my son. Have any of you ladies been through this? Any advice at all?
This is my first time posting on this board, I had my son last Tuesday 2/12. I absolutely adore him and am so in love with him! Adjusting to the changes has been kind of rough. I went from working to not working and staying at home. The sleep deprivation has also been hard. My husband is a total rock star and goes back to work on March 1st. I go back on March 26th and will probably have a new job by then (funny how things work out). I've noticed that here and there I've just been in a "blah" mood. It's way worse at night and daytime is usually okay. I did have one bad episode this past Sunday where I couldn't stop crying. I find that when we go outside the house, even just to the doctor, it makes me feel better. It has been a week and I just want these feelings to go away! I keep reminding myself that it won't be like this forever, and my #1 priority is my son. Have any of you ladies been through this? Any advice at all?
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Hi! I have a 3 yr old and a 7 month old. With both of my kids, i had the baby blues. I would cry in the shower and by myself and my husband would ask me what was wrong and all i could say was "i dont know". and i really didn't..i was just so sad. I just kept wishing it away. I loved both of them and was so happy to have them in my life. I was a SAHM previously, but with all the sleep deprivation and struggle of two kids i didn't know what was happening and why i felt so sad and alone. I kept thinking of all the good things and looked forward to getting out of the house for the smallest things. Then one day, it was completely gone. I felt so happy and couldnt believe how i had been feeling in the past. Baby blues are normal and your way of adapting to the new change. I've always heard that its normal to feel sad after such a big change in your life. I believe they, too will pass like mine did. Good luck and congrats on your new bundle of joy!
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First of all congrats on your little man!!!! Mine is exactly 2 months older than yours
Yes...It lasted a week and a half for me. One minute I would be crying bc I was overwhelmed with joy and the next thing I knew I was crying because I was sad for no reason!! Our bodies went through major changes in such a short period of time that they probably don't know what to do especially going on little to no sleep!! But I'm with you, nights were so much worse than the daytime! My husband works the graveyard shift (10hr shifts @ SWA which is an hour commute one way) he's gone a pretty long time so the first few nights he went back to work I was a complete basketcase!! But don't let that worry you, that was just my experience. there is a light at the end of the tunnel! Your horomones may be outta whack for awhile but when the BB go away you shouldn't go from one extreme to the next in 2.5 seconds lol
I would suggest trying to sleep when he sleeps....that is probably what helped me the most. It's hard to forget about all the housework or things you need to do but if you can put all that aside it will probably help! :flowerforyou:0 -
I have a 9 year old and a 2month old. With my first I had post partum depression to the point where I wasn't allowed to be alone with my son. I never had any "bad thoughts" that I remember but I wouldn't hold him or feed him. My mother wasn't sure I would be able to take care of him. It did eventually go away but it took me till he was almost 6 weeks old probably also didn't help that I ended up with a urinary tract infection and couldn't sit down. I did not have any trouble this time around with my daughter, but my advice to you is to ask for help when you need it and if people offer take them up on it. Always sleep when he sleeps that is really important because a tired mama can be an impatient mama. I do hope it gets better for you.0
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Oh yes this is completely normal and very common. I had it with both of mine for the first 2 weeks or so. It was always worse when I was very sleep deprived. Even just going for a walk with baby in stroller helped to just get out of the house for awhile. And you are right it will not be like this forever! Mine is almost 4 months old and I only get minor blues now only when I breastfeed or pump which I just discovered has a name, d-mer. The really bad blues were just the first few weeks but if it lasts longer and gets severe of course talk to your doctor about post partum depression.0
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Congrats with your little one! I did have the same thing happen to me with my first born. It really helped to get outside and go for walks with him or even just by myself for a while (even at night). I'd cry because I was happy, overwhelmed, tired, etc. Just remember to eat, sleep, and get some fresh air. It's ok to cry and/or ask for help - you don't always have to be strong. If these feelings seem to get worse, please talk to your doctor.
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Congrats with your little one! I did have the same thing happen to me with my first born. It really helped to get outside and go for walks with him or even just by myself for a while (even at night). I'd cry because I was happy, overwhelmed, tired, etc. Just remember to eat, sleep, and get some fresh air. It's ok to cry and/or ask for help - you don't always have to be strong. If these feelings seem to get worse, please talk to your doctor.
Good luck, mama!
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I have a 19 month old and an 8 week old. I had really bad "baby blues" with both of them. For me it normally lasts a little over a month. There were days where I would keep crying and couldn't stop. I noticed that getting out of the house or going for a short walk would really help to brighten my mood. I think it is very normal to have baby blues but if it doesn't go away or it starts getting worse you should talk to your Dr.0
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Congrats on your little one! My son is 5 months and I def had baby blues in the beginning too. For me, I was super stressed about learning to breastfeed and the sleep deprivation didn't help either. I was lucky to have a supportive husband so he would take the baby if I was crying or just give me a hug. Also, I was feeling guilty for not cleaning the house or cooking but hubby didn't care about the house and we just ate takeout...it's the little things that will help you get through. Be sure to take time for yourself- even just being able to take a shower will do wonders for your mood!
And sleep when baby sleeps. *hugs* 0
