"erasing" someone from your life on social media
christine24t
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Kind of a weird topic title but anyway...
To what extent do you "erase" someone from your social media life after a breakup? For example, do you delete all your together pictures off Facebook? Delete lovey-dovey posts you made on their wall or ones that they made on yours? Erase messages (or texts I guess we can lump in) from your Facebook or phone?
To what extent do you "erase" someone from your social media life after a breakup? For example, do you delete all your together pictures off Facebook? Delete lovey-dovey posts you made on their wall or ones that they made on yours? Erase messages (or texts I guess we can lump in) from your Facebook or phone?
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I de-friend them, as well as their family (I tell them beforehand that I'm doing it). I erase any picture of him from my Facebook. I don't touch his wall. I don't immediately delete anything from my wall, picture comments, etc. If I add a new interest on to Facebook within 6 months or so, I'll look to see what I had up in the past and may delete some posts. I delete all emails, texts and pictures from my phone. I keep his contact info only so I know who's calling/texting.
Seems cold, but it makes the break a lot easier and the closure comes much faster. You're not constantly looking at old messages or pictures wondering "what went wrong" or "what could have been".0 -
I don't know. I haven't had an active social media at the same time I've had a serious relationship. I know my myspace is still full of pictures of my ex, but it's been a while and we're friends so I can look back and smile. I don't know what I would do with facebook.0
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I would delete them from Facebook, delete all pics of us together, delete all texts, emails and phone numbers from my phone (although they never really leave the silly iPhones). I cut all ties.0
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As Kits said, never been in a serious relationship to really know what or how far I'd go.0
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I don't really use social media much anyway but on the ones I do I use I do t bother deleting photos or posts.0
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I've never added a b/f to my facebook. And I dont think I ever would! My sister's aren't even on there. I think I prefer to be selective and private in that respect as I think Facebook is too 'in your face!' :bigsmile:0
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I have really only had one ex. I defriended him on fb, and blocked him from a few other things but other wise nothing. I left our pictures there..because we dated I had a past. I'm not ashamed of it, I have fond memories of him, I did untag the pictures I guess so that we could look at those pictures more privately. But I really don't get this idea of trying to erase someone from your past. You dated so what and anyone new has to accept that you had relationships in the past but that they are over now. I am also very cautious to add a new interest to fb...I only add someone if I already consider them a friend not after 2-3 dates. If I'm friends with a guy he probably already is prepared for what ever he sees on fb.0
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Well, if you looked at my facebook you'd never think I split from my fiance 6 months ago. In fact, you'd wonder if he even ever existed...0
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There are plenty of places to hide a body. I just delete them from existence.0
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They were part of my life for a time so I don't delete pictures or posts from fb. I will unfriend/unfollow them and delete any messages from them or pictures on my phone. Usually change their name in my phone to "do not answer".0
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I have really only had one ex. I defriended him on fb, and blocked him from a few other things but other wise nothing. I left our pictures there..because we dated I had a past. I'm not ashamed of it, I have fond memories of him, I did untag the pictures I guess so that we could look at those pictures more privately. But I really don't get this idea of trying to erase someone from your past. You dated so what and anyone new has to accept that you had relationships in the past but that they are over now. I am also very cautious to add a new interest to fb...I only add someone if I already consider them a friend not after 2-3 dates. If I'm friends with a guy he probably already is prepared for what ever he sees on fb.
Agreed. Don't get the whole add to FB so quick thing. Haha my last bf we travelled internationally before becoming FB friends. Was our joke.
Of course in the case of my kid's dad I can't pretend he didn't exist.
I've never really had to delete an ex from FB. The one bf who dumped me via text had deleted me from FB before he dumped me lol. He was awesome.0 -
Last bf I had that broke up with me via text defriended me on facebook--unfortunately for him, he gave me his passwords-- I did look at his page a few times, but since have not kept up since he "found his soulmate" and is "in love"---was bringing too much pain to bother, so just don't look anymore. But then another ex that I broke up with me defriended and blocked me--then after talking and becoming friends.....he refriended me and it is all good with him now, though neither of us kept any pics of the other up on our page--his current gf REALLY would not like that.....
My ex husband blocked me--occasionally I still see pics of him that his daughter puts up as I am friends with her0 -
I don't delete anything. They are/were a part of your life and what made you are who you are. If you start seeing someone new and they get mad/jealous about your past relationships than that is their problem. You can't change your past and depending on the length of the relationship a big part of your life. My ex and I were together for 5 years and we lived together for all 5 years (weird story). I have pics of us on my fb and my shutterfly. I am not going to delete the pics. They were fun memories that I choose to keep because we had fun together. Now with that said, I do delete any "dirty" pics that I may have had on my phone. No need to keep those.
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delete.unfriend. not to be mean but just to cut ties and let yourself move on.
if necesary delete his friends (let them know before) u dont wanna see his pictures or his business through someone else. I just have to cut someone out of my life completely to get over them0 -
I actually wipe myself out of existence instead of them. All of a sudden you wake up one morning and it is though I never existed. Except in your mind. And then you worry you might be crazy when you're the only one that remembers me. But you can't find me.0
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This makes me yet again thankful that I don't have facebook and don't date and therefore don't have to deal with that crap.0
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The last time I had to unfriend an ex/his family was 4 years ago. Ever since then I don't even touch my profile with "in relationship" status changes or writing anything about my relationship(s) in general.0
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All I did on FB was unfriend him and delete all of our wedding pics, and all the pics we were in together-didn't want to see them any longer
He may be still a follower on twitter, I don't use it often so I might need to go unfollow him on that, too!! 0 -
I actually wipe myself out of existence instead of them. All of a sudden you wake up one morning and it is though I never existed. Except in your mind. And then you worry you might be crazy when you're the only one that remembers me. But you can't find me.
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lol I'm friends with my exhusband and his GF and a good portion of his family.... We have alot of intermingled pics especially of the kids.......
I never delete pictures they are memories good or bad ... I have only deleted one ex from FB and that was because he asked me to since seeing me going out all the time was upsetting him0 -
Ex husband didn't have a facebook account so nothing for me to do there except delete the few pics I had posted of him in my albums. I don't have a twitter account either. I have upgraded my cell phone since then so no photos to delete and I have to keep his contact info since we have a child together.
Since then I had a guy I was seeing unfriend me on facebook. No biggie as I would have done it myself had he not. No pics or status to change though as it was never a committed relationship. Kept his contact info in my phone so I would know who was calling or texting. I still talk to him occasionally.0 -
I have never been "in a relationship" with a guy on Facebook because I have too many friends on Facebook from high school and college whom I rarely see and who don't personally know the guys I date now, and I think broadcasting changes in your relationship status sort of invites them to get involved, and they start asking questions and making comments about people they don't even know.
I unfriend exes and any of their family/friends. As others have said, it is not about being mean or angry or anything. It's just easier to get past the situation if you are not constantly reminded of it.
I delete any photos that make it clear we were a couple (kissing or whatever) because I just think it's a little weird to keep stuff like that after a break-up. But I'll keep pictures of things we did together or place we traveled.
I will delete posts or comments of the "lovey-dovey" variety for the same reason as the pictures. It can get weird when you start dating someone else if all that stuff is still on your page.0 -
I tried to be civil with the ex and had her on FB. It was actually working for a time. Then, she decided to take one of my status updates in a completely creepy "I still need to be nosing into your love life even though I'm married to some other guy" kind of way, then some random argument happened about the youngest and the usual "pull the child away" threat was volleyed a short time later (a day or two), coincidence...I don't think so.
It would honestly depend on what happens. If the breakup was bad, block. If it was amiable, then maybe take down more of the "cutesy" couple pics, but I'd leave any with groups of friends.0 -
I actually wipe myself out of existence instead of them. All of a sudden you wake up one morning and it is though I never existed. Except in your mind. And then you worry you might be crazy when you're the only one that remembers me. But you can't find me.
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LOL!!! awesome...
I don't delete all of my ex's friends off FB who I met thru him. We are all adults.0 -
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I actually wipe myself out of existence instead of them. All of a sudden you wake up one morning and it is though I never existed. Except in your mind. And then you worry you might be crazy when you're the only one that remembers me. But you can't find me.
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I don't delete all of my ex's friends off FB who I met thru him. We are all adults.
Yeah, not really. That's what I thought too. Turns out, most people are *kitten* and have an allegiance with either you or them. You'll find out one way or another which way they lean. No one keeps it right down the middle. They have to take sides. It eventually comes out. It might take years, but eventually, staying friends with their friends will have some unwanted consequences.
In the exact case I mean I think it's worked because he sees them very little anyways.. In the nine months we dated we saw them twice. The reason this girl and I added each other was for a surprise birthday we planned for him/her. He isn't on FB so that causes no issues because he can't see what we post in statues etc. Do I need her on my list? No, but it's causing no harm. I did delete this Ex's. coworkers though.0 -
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I do everything any fb pics, comments, if I was fb friends with one of their friends and/or family members, phone number, posts0
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