I will generally put people in the friend zone if:
a. I'm just not attracted to them, but like hanging out with them
b. They act like a guy around me, ie. they burp, fart, do stupid ****, make poop jokes, etc.
c. They've dated one of my good friends seriously
d. There is just no "spark" (and that is very important but often cannot be explained).
e. I am seeing someone else.
f. If our views are too different concerning politics, religion, having kids, wanting pets, or any of the other important stuff.

Sounds like yours falls under (d). It's tough to give any insight without knowing you, but I'm generally attracted to women that are good at flirting, dress sexy (not too slutty), genuinely nice and sweet, laugh at my jokes, and confident with themselves. Or maybe it just wasn't meant to be.

I've found that the couple of times I've dated women that I classified into the friend zone was because there was just no attraction there. They were very flirty and I didn't know how to tell them I wasn't interested so I kind of eased them a little into friendship.

Honestly, I was afraid I'd hurt their feelings if I said I wasn't attracted or there wasn't any chemistry.

Wow! Thanks for the insight. I think too being an extreme extrovert maybe a little much for some. I really liked the idea of meeting more quickly too. After reading my original post...I sound kinda pathetic. I'm really not!! I have alot going for me in life, but this dating stuff throws me off a little bit doing so again at my age.

don't be so hard on yourself. sounds like you are an awesome and genuine person :flowerforyou:

unfortunately with men, sometimes less is more. try to find a balance between being down to earth and being one of the guys, being talkative and boring, etc.

Wow! Thanks for the insight. I think too being an extreme extrovert maybe a little much for some. I really liked the idea of meeting more quickly too. After reading my original post...I sound kinda pathetic. I'm really not!! I have alot going for me in life, but this dating stuff throws me off a little bit doing so again at my age.

don't be so hard on yourself. sounds like you are an awesome and genuine person :flowerforyou:

unfortunately with men, sometimes less is more. try to find a balance between being down to earth and being one of the guys, being talkative and boring, etc.

We like to chase a little, so don't be overzealous...but don't run too fast to where we can't catch you.

I am the QUEEN of the friend zone. Gonna get it tattooed across my forehead.

I used to be friend zoned more when I was younger (high school/university moreso). The big changes I think I probably made were regarding attraction, sexuality, flirtation and perceived femininity.
This was probably about a decade ago. Or more. I am more confident now and know myself better..and I honestly think that is the biggest part.

Attraction - lost some weight, let my hair grow longer, started dressing much more feminine. I put in significant effort for my appearance each and every day.
I feel better about my body, and I do look better the thinner I get.
Perceived femininity - I like to play up the difference between me and a man. Physically this does mean heels and makeup etc. for me.. but I am also very adamant about not playing down my feminine side just to fit into a man's life. I have done this many times, and find myself going from mentioning a mild interest in sports to being the go-to girl for hockey game watching..and not in a sexy way.. at all. Now, if I am coming over to watch a game, I make sure I am dressed nicely and have perfume on and bring a bottle of wine and talk about other things during breaks, where previously I might have rolled in wearing yoga pants with a bag of chips, wanting to show I knew the game too.

Sexuality/flirtation - I don't hide it at all and I do all of the subtle and non-subtle flirtation techniques a girl could do! I used to be shy....so honestly, I practiced till it became second nature. I moved from meeting men and thinking "he could be a good friend" to "am I attracted to him possibly? If not.. then he can be a friend". It changed my focus and how I see men..which in turn affected how I act around them (when I'm single anyway).

I've often said I should write a book titled "How To Become Friend Zoned" so women will know what not to do :grumble:

Isn't this already a movie? 'He's just not that into you.'?

Hmm this is true

I will generally put people in the friend zone if:
a. I'm just not attracted to them, but like hanging out with them
b. They act like a guy around me, ie. they burp, fart, do stupid ****, make poop jokes, etc.
c. They've dated one of my good friends seriously
d. There is just no "spark" (and that is very important but often cannot be explained).
e. I am seeing someone else.
f. If our views are too different concerning politics, religion, having kids, wanting pets, or any of the other important stuff.

Sounds like yours falls under (d). It's tough to give any insight without knowing you, but I'm generally attracted to women that are good at flirting, dress sexy (not too slutty), genuinely nice and sweet, laugh at my jokes, and confident with themselves. Or maybe it just wasn't meant to be.

Great list of reasons. I would FZ a guy for all of those too!!

I have lots of male friends. It's rare that I actually fancy someone! So, take heart, you've just not met the right guy yet :flowerforyou:

I'm with you on this one too. I've never been FZ but, I tend to have a problem with the guy losing interest the instant he know's I'm all in. If he chases me and he catches me, I agree to date him exclusively and then it tends to fall apart. It's as if he finally won the race, now on to the next. If I refuse to date them alone they chase harder. I don't get it!

Funny I do the whole guys girl thing (though I normally wear tank top) and I've not been FZ since like middle school.. Don't get me wrong there been guys that I have gone out with or hung out with once or twice and we both decided we made better friends (just no spark ect) but I've never had a guy I'm into FZ me..... I don't do straight girly though..... I am a definant mix of tom boy and girly girl ..... I will wear heals and make up but I'll also show up to watch a game in some yoga pants and a tank top.......