How to get her to say 'Yes' more often...
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I am more old and innocent.... than young and innocent, I've done a complete 360 haha
I am getting older and dirtier by the day! :laugh:
God me too, they weren't kidding about 35 being a woman's sexual peak!!
If I haven't already peaked I worry for any adult that's in my vicinity when I'm in my 30's.
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I am more old and innocent.... than young and innocent, I've done a complete 360 haha
I am getting older and dirtier by the day! :laugh:
My libido has worsened through the years...I wish it would stop already! That being said, I love 30 year olds! They should make a federal holiday for you guys!
oh I didn't say I wasn't dirtier
I am 32!! I just have a lot more boundaries and values than I did was I was a little slutty 18 year old! 0 -
[Pretty much lol.... Poor Christine we are gonna corrupt you
I was just thinking how fun it would be to take Christine out to the bar for a night of debauchery and corruption.
Me too lol ......
I am the life of the party at the bar once I'm drunk haha
Sounds like all of us together would be mayhem, that's me too!!0 -
oh I didn't say I wasn't dirtier I am 32!! I just have a lot more boundaries and values than I did was I was a little slutty 18 year old!
Same here - its life's cruel joke...you're hornier but have more boundaries & think clearly about things LOL0 -
oh I didn't say I wasn't dirtier I am 32!! I just have a lot more boundaries and values than I did was I was a little slutty 18 year old!
I don't think I'd use the word 'slutty' but I'm more willing to have dirty fun now than I was at 18. I was programmed to be a good girl back then...maybe I need to make up for lost time? lol0 -
haha maybe?oh I didn't say I wasn't dirtier I am 32!! I just have a lot more boundaries and values than I did was I was a little slutty 18 year old!
I don't think I'd use the word 'slutty' but I'm more willing to have dirty fun now than I was at 18. I was programmed to be a good girl back then...maybe I need to make up for lost time? lol
I just mean when I was 18 I didn't care what I did or with who, I will admit it.
Now I care about who I sleep with, want to make sure it is at a decent time (not date one or one night stands), but the wild girl will come out. I am a lady on the street and wild in the bedroom
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oh I didn't say I wasn't dirtier I am 32!! I just have a lot more boundaries and values than I did was I was a little slutty 18 year old!
I don't think I'd use the word 'slutty' but I'm more willing to have dirty fun now than I was at 18. I was programmed to be a good girl back then...maybe I need to make up for lost time? lol
Haha I know exactly what you mean. My "sex talk" was "here, read this book. ask if you have questions". I was taught that sex is bad. There's still sometimes a little voice in the back of my head that tells me I'm a horrible person, ha.0 -
oh I didn't say I wasn't dirtier I am 32!! I just have a lot more boundaries and values than I did was I was a little slutty 18 year old!
I don't think I'd use the word 'slutty' but I'm more willing to have dirty fun now than I was at 18. I was programmed to be a good girl back then...maybe I need to make up for lost time? lol
Haha I know exactly what you mean. My "sex talk" was "here, read this book. ask if you have questions". I was taught that sex is bad. There's still sometimes a little voice in the back of my head that tells me I'm a horrible person, ha.
A bad person? NAH!! I am really just hitting my prime or I was deprived with the kid's dad (I was NOT interested), but I am wild and crazy and would probably tire a man out now 0 -
oh I didn't say I wasn't dirtier I am 32!! I just have a lot more boundaries and values than I did was I was a little slutty 18 year old!
I don't think I'd use the word 'slutty' but I'm more willing to have dirty fun now than I was at 18. I was programmed to be a good girl back then...maybe I need to make up for lost time? lol
Haha I know exactly what you mean. My "sex talk" was "here, read this book. ask if you have questions". I was taught that sex is bad. There's still sometimes a little voice in the back of my head that tells me I'm a horrible person, ha.
A bad person? NAH!! I am really just hitting my prime or I was deprived with the kid's dad (I was NOT interested), but I am wild and crazy and would probably tire a man out now
Haha I wasn't deprived with my ex-boyfriend, at all, but yeah, my drive has been getting worse and worse... I'm getting scared :laugh: I know I'm not a bad person for loving certain things, but it's just how I was raised :blushing: :blushing:0 -
oh I didn't say I wasn't dirtier I am 32!! I just have a lot more boundaries and values than I did was I was a little slutty 18 year old!
I don't think I'd use the word 'slutty' but I'm more willing to have dirty fun now than I was at 18. I was programmed to be a good girl back then...maybe I need to make up for lost time? lol
Haha I know exactly what you mean. My "sex talk" was "here, read this book. ask if you have questions". I was taught that sex is bad. There's still sometimes a little voice in the back of my head that tells me I'm a horrible person, ha.
A bad person? NAH!! I am really just hitting my prime or I was deprived with the kid's dad (I was NOT interested), but I am wild and crazy and would probably tire a man out now
Haha I wasn't deprived with my ex-boyfriend, at all, but yeah, my drive has been getting worse and worse... I'm getting scared :laugh: I know I'm not a bad person for loving certain things, but it's just how I was raised :blushing: :blushing:
Yeah my ex (after kid's dad) we had hot hot hot chemistry.. like rabits, loved it... we communicated well too... Don't feel bad, it's normal and fun! You aren't going around mindlessly at bars for fun (well I assume you aren't LOL!!!) What men don't realize is women want it just as much. I don't think I ever got a sex talk from my parents.0 -
Yeah my ex (after kid's dad) we had hot hot hot chemistry.. like rabits, loved it... we communicated well too... Don't feel bad, it's normal and fun! You aren't going around mindlessly at bars for fun (well I assume you aren't LOL!!!) What men don't realize is women want it just as much. I don't think I ever got a sex talk from my parents.
Psh, I have a new guy every night!
Kidding
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I had a girl make out with my cheek once. It was not hot, I never called her again.
I feel that way about ears.
What about a nibble? :devil:I think in certain situations it is nice to ask for permission.
When the three date guy randomly kissed me on the cheek, I was utterly surprised and taken aback, I didn't know what the hell to do. Maybe if he had asked first, I wouldn't have spazzed and ran away.
I like my body space, I have a rather large personal bubble so at least for me, I would like people to ask first!
A kiss on the cheek really? Wow...with my Latino background, first date would have been at least a hug and a smooch on the cheek...but that's just a friendly gesture.
I hope you don't take this as a personal attack, but I couldn't fathom dating someone with such a large personal bubble. Goes to show you how we are all so different thus requiring books and books on advice on subjects such as this.
same here. maybe its a latin thing. we are very touchy feely. kiss on the cheek everytime you greet someone or say good bye. its kind of rude not to do it.
Yep, this is true. In fact, I sometimes feel weird and that something might be wrong with me when they don't.0 -
oh I didn't say I wasn't dirtier I am 32!! I just have a lot more boundaries and values than I did was I was a little slutty 18 year old!
I don't think I'd use the word 'slutty' but I'm more willing to have dirty fun now than I was at 18. I was programmed to be a good girl back then...maybe I need to make up for lost time? lol
Haha I know exactly what you mean. My "sex talk" was "here, read this book. ask if you have questions". I was taught that sex is bad. There's still sometimes a little voice in the back of my head that tells me I'm a horrible person, ha.
A bad person? NAH!! I am really just hitting my prime or I was deprived with the kid's dad (I was NOT interested), but I am wild and crazy and would probably tire a man out now
Haha I wasn't deprived with my ex-boyfriend, at all, but yeah, my drive has been getting worse and worse... I'm getting scared :laugh: I know I'm not a bad person for loving certain things, but it's just how I was raised :blushing: :blushing:
Yeah my ex (after kid's dad) we had hot hot hot chemistry.. like rabits, loved it... we communicated well too... Don't feel bad, it's normal and fun! You aren't going around mindlessly at bars for fun (well I assume you aren't LOL!!!) What men don't realize is women want it just as much. I don't think I ever got a sex talk from my parents.
My parents sat me down and explained sex to me when I was six years old.
The next day they got a call from the school. Then they sat me down to talk about privacy.
When I was twelve my dad and I had another sex talk on the way back from a softball game. He assured me that sexuality was natural and normal and to not feel ashamed.
When I was fourteen, my dad and I were warming up for pitching practicing and he told me that if I ever needed birth control to let him know and he wouldn't ask any questions. He would rather that I be protected even if he didn't want me having sex just yet.
Sex and sexuality has always been natural and normal in my life. I have an crazy high sex drive, and my older sister is asexual. We joke about how she left behind all the reproductive desire genes in the womb so I picked up after her0 -
I had a girl make out with my cheek once. It was not hot, I never called her again.
I feel that way about ears.
What about a nibble? :devil:I think in certain situations it is nice to ask for permission.
When the three date guy randomly kissed me on the cheek, I was utterly surprised and taken aback, I didn't know what the hell to do. Maybe if he had asked first, I wouldn't have spazzed and ran away.
I like my body space, I have a rather large personal bubble so at least for me, I would like people to ask first!
A kiss on the cheek really? Wow...with my Latino background, first date would have been at least a hug and a smooch on the cheek...but that's just a friendly gesture.
I hope you don't take this as a personal attack, but I couldn't fathom dating someone with such a large personal bubble. Goes to show you how we are all so different thus requiring books and books on advice on subjects such as this.
same here. maybe its a latin thing. we are very touchy feely. kiss on the cheek everytime you greet someone or say good bye. its kind of rude not to do it.
Yep, this is true. In fact, I sometimes feel weird and that something might be wrong with me when they don't.
I must take after my German side over my Spanish side. I prefer very limited physical contact unless I'm into the person "that way". Oddly enough the only exceptions to that are animals, my BFF and my sister.0 -
oh I didn't say I wasn't dirtier I am 32!! I just have a lot more boundaries and values than I did was I was a little slutty 18 year old!
I don't think I'd use the word 'slutty' but I'm more willing to have dirty fun now than I was at 18. I was programmed to be a good girl back then...maybe I need to make up for lost time? lol
Ha I was stil a virgin at 18 (lost it at 19) But my ex husband was my first (when we were dating) and I can tell you that for the most psrt my 30's sexually have been way more "interesting" then my 20's... I'm not a slut but I have totally loosened up my rules and I'm more sexually comfortable then I was in my early 20's0 -
If "slutty" means ensuring that I am satisfied, in control of my own sexuality, and deciding who and what I'd like to do rather than listening to society trying to shame me into a different version of myself.. then I am happy to take on the word proudly.
My rules/goals are only to be honest, authentic, safe and to find a balance or peace between emotions and actions.
I do like using the words dirty and slutty in jest.. but don't actually mean them to have the negative connotations they can have.0 -
If "slutty" means ensuring that I am satisfied, in control of my own sexuality, and deciding who and what I'd like to do rather than listening to society trying to shame me into a different version of myself.. then I am happy to take on the word proudly.
My rules/goals are only to be honest, authentic, safe and to find a balance or peace between emotions and actions.
I do like using the words dirty and slutty in jest.. but don't actually mean them to have the negative connotations they can have.
I actually intentionally use words like "slut" "*kitten*" and "filthy sex creature" as terms of endearment. I don't think slut shaming should be a thing so I'm bringing the positivity to the negativity yo. *thug life*0 -
If "slutty" means ensuring that I am satisfied, in control of my own sexuality, and deciding who and what I'd like to do rather than listening to society trying to shame me into a different version of myself.. then I am happy to take on the word proudly.
My rules/goals are only to be honest, authentic, safe and to find a balance or peace between emotions and actions.
I do like using the words dirty and slutty in jest.. but don't actually mean them to have the negative connotations they can have.
I actually intentionally use words like "slut" "*kitten*" and "filthy sex creature" as terms of endearment. I don't think slut shaming should be a thing so I'm bringing the positivity to the negativity yo. *thug life*
I don't believe in shaming people for their choices either. I still don't like the word though, which is why I put it in quotes in my earlier reply.0 -
If "slutty" means ensuring that I am satisfied, in control of my own sexuality, and deciding who and what I'd like to do rather than listening to society trying to shame me into a different version of myself.. then I am happy to take on the word proudly.
My rules/goals are only to be honest, authentic, safe and to find a balance or peace between emotions and actions.
I do like using the words dirty and slutty in jest.. but don't actually mean them to have the negative connotations they can have.
I actually intentionally use words like "slut" "*kitten*" and "filthy sex creature" as terms of endearment. I don't think slut shaming should be a thing so I'm bringing the positivity to the negativity yo. *thug life*
I don't believe in shaming people for their choices either. I still don't like the word though, which is why I put it in quotes in my earlier reply.
If there's something that Harry Potter and Collegiate forensics taught me it's that words have power. You can change the impact and meaning words have with enough diligence and eventually societal standards will conform. Language is an ever evolving creature and knowing that can be used to it's advantage. You can't make bad things go away, but you can make them not bad.0 -
I appreciate the fact that it's hard for men to know what to do sometimes. Women are spread out all along the "to kiss or not to kiss on a first date" spectrum. But in general, I think it's a bad idea to ask. If you are unsure, don't go for it, unless you can handle the bruised ego that will likely result from being brushed off when you go in for a kiss.
If I want a guy to kiss me, I sit/stand really, unnecessarily close to him. I make lots of eye contact. I touch him a lot, in obvious "I want you to put your tongue in my mouth" places. If I don't want him to kiss me, I keep a respectful distance and keep my hands to myself. It's pretty self-explanatory, I think.0 -
My parents sat me down and explained sex to me when I was six years old.
The next day they got a call from the school. Then they sat me down to talk about privacy.
When I was twelve my dad and I had another sex talk on the way back from a softball game. He assured me that sexuality was natural and normal and to not feel ashamed.
When I was fourteen, my dad and I were warming up for pitching practicing and he told me that if I ever needed birth control to let him know and he wouldn't ask any questions. He would rather that I be protected even if he didn't want me having sex just yet.
your parents sound pretty awesome and open. my mom had the sex talk with me once. it was more of a wait until marriage talk tho. my dad rather believe i'm still a little girl and I think boys have cooties. lol.
yup not a lot of advice or guidance on their end. but I think I turned out ok. just very private about that kinda thing and definitely not very um...experienced.0 -
Im totally a slut. I just make sure my sluttiness is always just aimed at only one person.0
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I actually intentionally use words like "slut" "*kitten*" and "filthy sex creature" as terms of endearment. I don't think slut shaming should be a thing so I'm bringing the positivity to the negativity yo. *thug life*
I do too actually! Calling girlfriends sluts affectionately makes us laugh. Particularly when it is related to something completely non-sexual. I would make some thug life / yolo related comment but I am simply not cool enough to handle such language.0 -
This reminds me of a date I had with an online dude. Date #2 and he asked "look, I just need to ask, can I just grab your *kitten*?" :noway: First off... who asks that??
Secondly, NO. Not sure if it was him or what but NO. That was the last date...
Italian Stallion dove in right after dinner on date #1. I wasn't a fan.. though I was attracted to him, I hadn't "warmed" up to him yet. Now after walking around on the boardwalk and talking a bit more, I couldn't keep my lips off his lips.0 -
I actually intentionally use words like "slut" "*kitten*" and "filthy sex creature" as terms of endearment. I don't think slut shaming should be a thing so I'm bringing the positivity to the negativity yo. *thug life*
I do too actually! Calling girlfriends sluts affectionately makes us laugh. Particularly when it is related to something completely non-sexual. I would make some thug life / yolo related comment but I am simply not cool enough to handle such language.
I wasn't shaming anyone, it was a word I used to show the difference between me now and then.... sorry if I offended anyone...0 -
I actually intentionally use words like "slut" "*kitten*" and "filthy sex creature" as terms of endearment. I don't think slut shaming should be a thing so I'm bringing the positivity to the negativity yo. *thug life*
I do too actually! Calling girlfriends sluts affectionately makes us laugh. Particularly when it is related to something completely non-sexual. I would make some thug life / yolo related comment but I am simply not cool enough to handle such language.
I wasn't shaming anyone, it was a word I used to show the difference between me now and then.... sorry if I offended anyone...
I don't think anyone was offended, no worries!0 -
No offense /offended peeps at all!
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I actually intentionally use words like "slut" "*kitten*" and "filthy sex creature" as terms of endearment. I don't think slut shaming should be a thing so I'm bringing the positivity to the negativity yo. *thug life*
I do too actually! Calling girlfriends sluts affectionately makes us laugh. Particularly when it is related to something completely non-sexual. I would make some thug life / yolo related comment but I am simply not cool enough to handle such language.
Ew, not YOLO. And "thug life" is ironic XD
"Yo" I actually got from watching too much anime/reading too much manga as a kid. It still hasn't left my vernacular.0 -
I actually intentionally use words like "slut" "*kitten*" and "filthy sex creature" as terms of endearment. I don't think slut shaming should be a thing so I'm bringing the positivity to the negativity yo. *thug life*
I do too actually! Calling girlfriends sluts affectionately makes us laugh. Particularly when it is related to something completely non-sexual. I would make some thug life / yolo related comment but I am simply not cool enough to handle such language.
I wasn't shaming anyone, it was a word I used to show the difference between me now and then.... sorry if I offended anyone...
I don't think anyone was offended, no worries!
No offense here, just saw it as an opportunity to get on a soap box.
(I friggin love these Bunny emoticons I found)0
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