I'm single w/o kids and would consider joining to meet single fathers... but if you're finding that many single non-fathers, then maybe I shouldn't...

Why would a guy sign up for a single parent website, when he does not have kids? I know there are men out there that cannot have children, so I could see why they might want to date a single mom. But part of me just wonders if I should be creeped out by these guys?

Do you want my cynical answer?

Because while there are probably some guys who want kids and couldn't have them, I suspect most of those guys figure fewer people want to date single moms so they have a better chance. And not only that, I asked a guy one time why he told me he was a single dad when he rarely sees his kids (he gave up full rights- that's a red flag right there). He said because he technically WAS a single dad and besides it made women warm up to him more. Ewww.

That said, I wouldn't be creeped out by it necessarily. If I was a guy looking for a woman, I'd go where my male-female odds were better and I would sign up thinking a single parent site will mostly be women (haven't visited it, so I don't know). Especially if I were just looking to score.



Edit: just an explanation... that guy doesn't "visit" his kids in the traditional sense... he gave up rights but says sometimes he goes to his daughter's softball games just to watch her. Uh, no thanks!!

I can't imagine any dating site that isn't overrun by the wrong kind of guy (I would say man, but we all know better). Funny though, I never thought of looking for a dating site that was nothing but single parents. Makes sense.

I really do like the idea of the site and would love to believe the guys are on there for the right reason.

One thought, how was the question worded? On eHarmony I was so confused.....a man's profile would say "No" under kids, but then he would discuss them in his profile. Come to find out that when you fill out the questionnaire, the actual question was "do you have kids under the age of 18 living at home". So, even some of the guys that had split custody were putting no. So, it may be a matter of how the question is worded?


However, I'm a little more cynical on this one as well. I've had childless men tell me while emailing, or a few dates in...."Everyone knows that a single mom is more horny than most women." I laughed the first time, but have heard this from at least 5 different guys of different ages and backgrounds. So, I wouldn't be surprised to find them trolling the single parents sites looking for a piece of @ss.

I agree. The EH question re kids is VERY misleading. I had a guy put no kids and didn't mention them in his profile. We talked about mine for awhile. Then one day I randomly say 'you have no kids right?' And then he has 3 in another province but doesn't mention them to protect them wtf? Dropped him like a hot potato.

I would just check your local sex offender registry. Many child abusers prey on women with children.

Yeah, I think this sounds VERY creepy. It's one thing to not mind if someone has children, but it's just weird when you are specifically looking for women with children.

So I am a single guy, and due to certain genetic predispositions in my family tree, I really don't want to pass on my genes. However, I love kids (I coach youth sports, volunteer to work with them at church, special olympics, etc) and want to have the whole family unit.

I had thought about joining one of these sights in hopes of finding a single mom around my age that had younger kids, like less than 5. Unfortunately, I figured just what the OP had stated, that women would be hesitant and worried. Guess I will continue to look for single moms on the more neutral dating sites or in person.

So I am a single guy, and due to certain genetic predispositions in my family tree, I really don't want to pass on my genes. However, I love kids (I coach youth sports, volunteer to work with them at church, special olympics, etc) and want to have the whole family unit.

I had thought about joining one of these sights in hopes of finding a single mom around my age that had younger kids, like less than 5.

This is a totally acceptable reason, and if these guys had stated something like this on their profile I would not have been so hesitant to respond!

I think it is awesome that you want to date a single mom! We need more men like you in California!

I agree, on both points.

In fact, I think it's VERY responsible of you to look at your family tree and decide not to pass on certain traits. I admire that.

You would probably get a lot of responses if you went on that site and explain (briefly) why you want to date a woman with kids. I wouldn't necessarily put in the profile that there are "certain genetic predispositions" but I would probably say something like "I'm looking for a single mom because I love kids but won't be able to father any.

And we really do need more guys wiling to date single moms. I especially think the man who has no young kids of his own or no interest in fathering more children makes a great step-dad because you don't have as much of the parenting conflict that often tears apart 2nd marriages.

Edit: Though, on second thought, that makes you sound sterile. But sterile is better than telling potential dates you have "certain genetic predispositions" because then they'll wonder what else is wrong with you.

Edit: Though, on second thought, that makes you sound sterile. But sterile is better than telling potential dates you have "certain genetic predispositions" because then they'll wonder what else is wrong with you.

Problem with that is you start wondering WHY he's sterile. Was his 'equipment' damaged in an accident? Is he a chemically reprimanded reprobate? Does he have low T that makes him have no sex drive? Doubts about sexual viability are never good that early in the process. #OtherSideoftheCoin

Lol, now you see where I was coming from. It is a slippery slope. Have to find a way to say:
I love having sex. Everything works great down there. I could get you pregnant, but don't want to. I am not a pedophile. My genes aren't great, so just don't want to pas them on. Now...how are you?