Need to vent
helengetshealthy
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Sorry, I can't really do this on Facebook or on my status on MFP, I just need to vent somewhere.
Before my PCOS, I had awesome hair - I'm sure that's the case for most of you who have suffered from hairloss. In the space of just over a year, I've lost what I would say is about 40% of my hair, and I'm devastated by it. I get by with cutting it short, which is horrible because it was the only thing I could make look good, having been overweight all my life. You know it's such a comfort and easy way to make yourself feel good by doing your hair nicely, right?
So, I haven't mentioned to any of my friends about it, I'm sure they've noticed but I haven't been open about it apart from with one mate, and she has masses of hair, like it takes her 3 bottles of hairdye to do her hair, and it's only just below her shoulders in length. And every time I mentioned anything about my hair loss, which I don't do that often, she always goes on about "Oh I wish that would happen to my hair, I have so much of it and it's a hassle. I wish I had your hair". I mean, I love her and everything but what the hell?!?!?!?!?
Before my PCOS, I had awesome hair - I'm sure that's the case for most of you who have suffered from hairloss. In the space of just over a year, I've lost what I would say is about 40% of my hair, and I'm devastated by it. I get by with cutting it short, which is horrible because it was the only thing I could make look good, having been overweight all my life. You know it's such a comfort and easy way to make yourself feel good by doing your hair nicely, right?
So, I haven't mentioned to any of my friends about it, I'm sure they've noticed but I haven't been open about it apart from with one mate, and she has masses of hair, like it takes her 3 bottles of hairdye to do her hair, and it's only just below her shoulders in length. And every time I mentioned anything about my hair loss, which I don't do that often, she always goes on about "Oh I wish that would happen to my hair, I have so much of it and it's a hassle. I wish I had your hair". I mean, I love her and everything but what the hell?!?!?!?!?
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okkkkk.......I think she is probably just trying to make you feel better by talking about how crap it is to have such thick hair(and it really is crap, im an ex-hairstylist). I am losing my hair as well, so i understand how you feel. For me, the facial hair is what i hate the most. What i have found is speaking of your condition and helping those around you understand it too, will ultimately help you. i used to hide, be ashamed, stay away but now i talk about the facial hair to people, i explain whats happening in my body and how it makes me feel, and i find that once people understand, they are less likely to be judgmental.
Hang in there, you have started a journey to tackle the PCOS, things will come right, just be positive and have faith!0 -
I'm sorry I know how selfconcious hair issues can make a woman. I think my hair has started to thin a little as well, I also suffer from the facial hair. But as missvee said it is a little easier on me when I talk to people about it. And after finding out that I had PCOS I started mentioning my hair issues, and actually i am less selfconcious about it because people know about it and know why.0
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Personally I find short hair way sexier but I get that our society tells women that long hair = sex appeal. Anyway, rant away, we hear you
Well meaning friends... sigh
On a practical note get yourself some good make-up like an extra stupidly long/think mascara for times when you need to feel extra fancy. Get your nails done or a pedicure (from a friend or sweetie if you don't want to spend a lot). If you can spend some money, get some sexy shoes; shoes look great on everyone no matter what size they are!0 -
I just popped in to say how wonderful people seem on this forum. I am not diagnosed with PSOC ..at least not yet. I have a Dr. appointment on Tuesday and will know more from there, but I have a strong feeling about it and I have to say that if I do have it ....I am happy to know there are such fantastic caring people here to share the ups and downs with.
P.S. I very much like the idea of the previous post in finding a new way to feel sassy/sexy. Stand tall but know that there are people to catch you if you fall.0 -
I just popped in to say how wonderful people seem on this forum. I am not diagnosed with PSOC ..at least not yet. I have a Dr. appointment on Tuesday and will know more from there, but I have a strong feeling about it and I have to say that if I do have it ....I am happy to know there are such fantastic caring people here to share the ups and downs with.
P.S. I very much like the idea of the previous post in finding a new way to feel sassy/sexy. Stand tall but know that there are people to catch you if you fall.
PCOS...correction. lol0 -
@missvee85 - Yeah I guess she is trying to help but at the same time, she seems to be trying to convince me that it's not happening, which is kind of stupid
I just hope that getting my health on track will reverse the symptoms!
@WifeofPJ - I think that telling even some of my friends has actually made it a little more easy on me, like I'm still not okay with it, and never will be, but I guess it's made me feel a bit less stressed about it.
@wizkkix - Thank you, I just can't really rant about this stuff anywhere else, sometimes I get so.... ARGH! I'll take that advice about other ways to feel good, make-up would be a good start lol. It's just so hard to get over not having loads of hair to play with, you know?
@photojunkie28 - I'm not technically diagnosed either, but there's no doubt in my mind that I have PCOS, all the symptoms are there and a family of diabetes means I am likely to be insulin resistant. Boooo to pcos
I hope your doctor's appointment goes well, and we're all here whatever your news it
Thanks to you all for replying I reeeeally needed to vent! 0 -
This thread is so familiar. I could have written your post, I swear. I have AA from PCOS and now I am a full-time wig wearer.
I actually recorded a video about the whole thing here:
http://youtu.be/2AvizrFxqWM
I went to dozens of doctors between 1997 and 2007 before someone FINALLY diagnosed me with PCOS. That whole time my hair kept falling out and I felt completely helpless to stop it. Now that I'm on spiro and watching my diet, the hair loss has slowed, but the damage is already done. Unfortunately, once a hair follicle dies, that hair doesn't come back. You can see how thin it is in the video. I channeled my frustration with the whole ordeal into opening my own PCOS wig store. I tried to rock the short hair, but the thinner my hair got, the shorter my hair had to be to hide it. Then I had to start applying make up to my scalp to camouflage the blad spots. THEN I had to start bleaching it to puff up the hairs. I finally bought a wig and realized it was 100 times easier...and I got better looking results. Now I play with my bio hair any way I want because - who cares? It's under a wig most of the time. I also have some wig reviews on YouTube. You can definitely tell the difference. I also don't worry about people noticing it's not my "real" hair. I mean, my "fake" hair looks better than their biohair most of the time, so I feel like I win.
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